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post #61 of 362

Is anyone doing the anti-colic diet after birth? Our MW recommends it. I am trying to set up a Meal Train site for friends and family who want to help and bring food. But it seems unfair to ask people to cook us things that they probably are not used to cooking. (No milk, sugar, wheat, meat ect.) Thoughts?

post #62 of 362
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I am trying to recognize the fact that I am feeling impatient for LO to get here. I know (logically) that it is best that she hasnt due to our recent and unexpected move. But now I am afraid that all my wishing her to be born is going to mean that I will have an (extra hard) birth. Does that make sense? Anyone have any reassuring thoughts. I can easily see that I want her in my arms but have no idea what birth is like and I think Im starting to get nervous and doubt myself. 

I think it's absolutely normal to feel nervous/anxious/afraid of birth. Feeling like that isn't going to result in a horrible labor. Heck, I've been through it before and I still get nervous about doing it again. I am not one of those women who finds labor and birth "fun"... but it's doable. The best thing to do, imho, is acknowledge that you are afraid and try to deal with your fears one by one. And watch some natural births on youtube, either videos or photo montages- I've found that that is the best way for me to deal with fear. I love watching the women go through labor and then seeing them at the end with the baby in their arms.

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I have an appt tomorrow afternoon for a chiro/accupunture/homeopath treatment. That's meant to induce labor!!! I'm so excited! Hoping it works so I can avoid an induction next week. She was telling me she had a patient last week that was holding her baby within 15 hrs of the treatments!!! Ahhhhh smile.gif

Has anyone tried this? If so did it work?

Your body sounds like it is gearing up for labor as it is, so it might help bring it on :)

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Is anyone doing the anti-colic diet after birth? Our MW recommends it. I am trying to set up a Meal Train site for friends and family who want to help and bring food. But it seems unfair to ask people to cook us things that they probably are not used to cooking. (No milk, sugar, wheat, meat ect.) Thoughts?

Maybe just pick one or two ingredients to request to be left out (assuming this isn't for allergy purposes)? I volunteered to cook for some visitors at a local monastery here, and one of them had all kinds of restrictions... and I admit I probably would not have volunteered had I known about it. IN the end I came up with something but it was a pain in the butt, especially since the other members of the party could eat normal. 

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Is anyone doing the anti-colic diet after birth? Our MW recommends it. I am trying to set up a Meal Train site for friends and family who want to help and bring food. But it seems unfair to ask people to cook us things that they probably are not used to cooking. (No milk, sugar, wheat, meat ect.) Thoughts?

 

That's a hard one. I will be avoiding dairy, gluten, caffeine and sugar for the baby but we'll be doing all of our own cooking. I don't know how I'd approach asking for meals from others. They might be okay with it though.

 

 

 

AFM - Does anyone have any recommendations for a safe, well rated, but affordable car seat I can purchase to give to my parents for their vehicle? It's not for the baby, but for our three year old. She weighs about 35lbs currently and I'd like it to last her quite some time. For the baby we have two bases for the car seat so we'll just unhook it and pass it over if there is ever a need. 

post #64 of 362
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Is anyone doing the anti-colic diet after birth? Our MW recommends it. I am trying to set up a Meal Train site for friends and family who want to help and bring food. But it seems unfair to ask people to cook us things that they probably are not used to cooking. (No milk, sugar, wheat, meat ect.) Thoughts?

I have gluten & dairy allergies. And will be avoiding certain things for the first few weeks for babies tummy. The main one being tomatoes. We have made a lot of freezer meals that are within my restrictions. Ad weren't planning in asking for meals... However we found out that our new church has a whole group of people with celiacs! So they have offered to get together and make GF/DF meals for us smile.gif
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No avoidances here. My first was colicky regardless of what I did, but my others were fine and if we had a bad night or something I was generally able to look back and find the cause and just be careful with that particular food in the future. We will be starting babe on probiotics (reuteri) right away regardless, which has a huge positive impact on colic anyway.
post #66 of 362
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Is there a Maeana in this group? Just want to make sure you're a DDC member before I approve the FB group request. smile.gif

post #67 of 362
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Im tired too. And tired of being tired. It's 830 and I think I am going to put a long movie on for the kids and try to sleep. Maybe I will wake up in a better mood and ready to tackle the day. I SHOULD be up and walking around since the baby is still not settling in a good position- I woke up with it's head in my  hip again. And it's still posterior. I know it's not going to totally engage until labor starts, but I really wish it would stop sliding around. If my back wasn't such a problem I would go walk and walk and walk. With my luck I would go into labor and be exhausted from walking so much and my back would be all screwed up and would mess up my ability to labor and I'd be back on the operating table.

 

Yeah... better try to take a nap and start this day over. Not in a happy mental place right now.

That sounds like my babe. She has been head down since around 20 weeks (my other 2 were always transverse until the end) but she is posterior most of the time, or facing my left hip. My back has been suddenly sore lately and I wonder if that is why, or it could be from sleeping on the couch, or a combination I suppose. A nap sounds like a good idea. Yesterday I could not shake the fog or make my brain work until after DD and I took a nap. I finally felt like a human being after about 5 pm and I think the nap def helped.

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Originally Posted by BeanBean06 View Post

I have an appt tomorrow afternoon for a chiro/accupunture/homeopath treatment. That's meant to induce labor!!! I'm so excited! Hoping it works so I can avoid an induction next week. She was telling me she had a patient last week that was holding her baby within 15 hrs of the treatments!!! Ahhhhh smile.gif

Has anyone tried this? If so did it work?

Good luck! I asked my chiro if he does that since he does acupuncture too, and he said the last girl he did it for was in labor within 4 days. But I also heard of someone whose water broke right on the table while getting it done!

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Originally Posted by Munchkin08 View Post

Is anyone doing the anti-colic diet after birth? Our MW recommends it. I am trying to set up a Meal Train site for friends and family who want to help and bring food. But it seems unfair to ask people to cook us things that they probably are not used to cooking. (No milk, sugar, wheat, meat ect.) Thoughts?

I have gluten & dairy allergies. And will be avoiding certain things for the first few weeks for babies tummy. The main one being tomatoes. We have made a lot of freezer meals that are within my restrictions. Ad weren't planning in asking for meals... However we found out that our new church has a whole group of people with celiacs! So they have offered to get together and make GF/DF meals for us smile.gif

Oooo, that is really lucky! I am so glad I don't have any intolerances or allergies to food. I had to give up dairy for probably 3 years to heal my gut, and I still have issues with it occasionally, and that was really hard.

 

AFM - I am feeling odd about this pregnancy. 2-3 weeks ago I was sure I would go into labor around 36 weeks and I was getting anxious/excited/impatient about it. Now I am 36 weeks and I am excited for her to be here and I am sore and achey but suddenly 3-4 more weeks doesn't sound like a long time to me. I am all of a sudden really at peace with whenever she gets here. So weird because I never have any patients for anything, EVER! haha. Friday I have a prenatal, Saturday we have a customer appreciation breakfast thing to go to, Sunday we are taking DD to the waterpark, then next week DH will be gone aaaaallllll week until Friday, and then it should only be a week or two! That kind of seems really quick to me now!

post #68 of 362

DH got waitlisted for Toledo. We totally didn't expect that. We thought for sure that would be a straight up acceptance. Now the only school left is Calgary (which is probably the hardest to get into of the three he interviewed for). That, plus some other stuff that I don't know how to talk about, has me feeling completely depressed and hopeless and worried.

post #69 of 362
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DH got waitlisted for Toledo. We totally didn't expect that. We thought for sure that would be a straight up acceptance. Now the only school left is Calgary (which is probably the hardest to get into of the three he interviewed for). That, plus some other stuff that I don't know how to talk about, has me feeling completely depressed and hopeless and worried.


I'm sorry.  We went through a rough time with school/job searches last spring, so I know how worried it can make you feel.  We didn't know where we were moving until the end of June and had to be out at the beginning of August.  I will hope for some good news for you soon!

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Is there a Maeana in this group? Just want to make sure you're a DDC member before I approve the FB group request. smile.gif

 

And also a Lisa that requested to join? Please let me know if either of those are you.

post #71 of 362

Well...nesting seems to be kicking in again. But this time it's not making me excited about meeting my baby. It's just like, this compulsion to get things done/take care of stuff...but without any of the excitement or joy that came with it earlier in this pregnancy.

 

I realized the other night that DH's stress/reluctance/lack of enthusiasm re: this baby has kind of ruined this pregnancy for me...my last pregnancy. And I've been super depressed ever since. He's clued in that I'm upset about something, and he has some notion of why...but he doesn't realize how he's affected me. He thinks he's done a good job trying to be excited/supportive. He has twice asked me to talk about it at times when there just *isn't* time to talk (like right before needing to drop off DD at school). In my head, I'm just like "right...because five minutes is enough to time to have a discussion which is pretty much certain to turn into a giant fight/weep fest." And he's been really passive aggressive about HOW he asks me to explain what's bothering me. The other night, when the realization first hit me, I started bawling and was crying myself to sleep and he just said "just say it, don't just lay there crying yourself to sleep" in an annoyed tone of voice. Gee, thanks.  I feel so safe opening up when you put it that way. Not. I ended up just forcing myself to stop crying and lay there feeling horrible until I finally did sleep.

 

I'm also feeling so very, very isolated. I feel like the only people excited about this baby are my mom and my grandma (and they're 1800 miles away). I don't have any friends (not exaggerating, we really don't have any real friends with all the moving we've done over the last few years). And even if I did, I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to them about how DP is making me feel. He's usually so supportive and sensitive and I'd rather not have our hypothetical friends thinking he's some jerk.

 

Plus DD is just a PITA lately. It's like she's four going on fourteen. So the only human contact I get each day (besides the internet) is DH and a preschooler who has somehow turned into a snotty, little monster. I hate to say that about her, but it's true. She's just endlessly disrespectful. She argues with me about EVER.Y.THING. She never listens to what I say (even when I'm answering a question SHE asked me). The best way I can explain how her behavior makes me feel is emotional abuse. I know she's only four, but I don't understand how she can be so callous and uncooperative. I don't know if it's partly the influence of kids at school or what (some of the kids in her class behave like spoiled brats every time DH is the parent helper and there to see the class in action). 

 

It would be easier to cope with if I didn't feel so alone right now. I try to set up play dates so I can make friends, and they fall through. I hoped to make friends in my prenatal fitness class, and ended up missing all but one class due to weather/that last minute road trip. Between lack of funds and only having one vehicle, it isn't so easy to find opportunities to meet people. DH and I have agreed that once he gets into school and our budget is a little different, then we're going to invest in some hobbies for me so I can get out/meet people/etc. But after Toledo wait-listed him I feel totally hopeless that he'll get in this year. My mom just tells me not to get discouraged and to think about the new baby boy coming...

 

...which just makes me feel worse because A: it makes me feel like I'm not allowed to feel my feelings. You know what, a third year of not getting in IS discouraging, so just let me feel discouraged OK?! My mom has a habit of dismissing any problems that aren't as severe as hers (though, to be fair, MS is a huge problem - but still, she doesn't need to invalidate my fears or sadness every time I'm upset about anything). Plus, B: I'm not even excited about this baby anymore, so being told to think about that hinders more than helps. It just reminds me of how depressed and disappointed I am. DH agreed to have one more and promised me he could be supportive emotionally. But it didn't happen. He said this morning that he wishes the baby would be born so he can meet him and that he's tired of just talking to a belly (not that he does that much)...as if that's going to suddenly solve anything. I don't believe for a second that the birth will suddenly alter DH's enthusiasm. In fact, I'm expecting it to make things even worse. If he can't be bothered to work out his issues now, and get involved (he still hasn't read the book I gave him for expectant dads the day I told him about the BFP), why should I think things will improve when he's sleep deprived and stressed during the transition to a parent of two?

 

He was SO excited when I was pregnant with DD, SO involved. I feel like my son is getting regulated to second place before he's even born. And I just feel so sorry for him and for myself. And I feel so bitter that DH's behavior has turned my very last pregnancy into something so unhappy when I was so looking forward to enjoying every minute since I'll never, ever get to do it again.

post #72 of 362
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Ironmam: hug2.gifI'm sorry you are having such a rough time this pregnancy. We are all here for you in every way that we can be. grouphug.gif

post #73 of 362
Well I got a handy dandy comment tonight! Signed the girls into Awana and the lady asked me when my baby is due. When I told her she looked shocked and said I don't look far enough along to be "ready."

What I got from the conversation? The outfit I am wearing tonight will be the only thing I wear in public from now on!
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IronMam - your post sounded like something I could have written myself, minus the school stuff. DH has been fighting with me so much this pregnancy its ridiculous. He's told me on more than one occasion that he doesn't want any more kids because I can't control my emotions while pregnant; I've felt totally neglected the whole time instead of pampered like I wanted; he's said he ignores the fact that I am pregnant because he doesn't like my attitude, etc...

Today was a horrible horrible day for me and all he does is make stupid insulting comments instead of trying to make me feel better. Then wants to know if we are going to be OK once the baby is born or if there's still going to be fighting. Mean while I'm running on fumes from 3 nights of no sleep.

And I feel the same way about complaining to my family about him because we are normally so good. I don't want them to get the wrong impression about him, as he is a great person and father normally.

Off topic a bit but I can barely walk right now. DS2 darted out into the street today right as a car was coming and I had to run after him which killed my pubic bone. I thought my chiro appt today would help but the adjustments seemed to have made all my pains worse. I have been crying at like every little thing today too and just want to sleep but my heartburn and restless legs won't let me. I plan on keeping DS home from school tomorrow so we can enjoy the warm weather and I will hopefully have a much better day!
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Oh, Ironmam! I'm so sorry! hug2.gif I know it's not near the same, and I know it won't fix everything, but like TIFF4NY said, we're all here for you, however we can help. I'm/we're kind of in the same situation. We have a couple of family friends, but we all kind of hibernate for the winter/colder months, so the only contact we've really had with them since last summer was the husband/dad was driving by, and stopped to talk to DF. I have a couple of friends, but either they work and are only free when DF is at work and I don't have anyone to watch the kids to spend time with them, or they have kids, too, and it's hard for us to get together.

post #76 of 362
Thanks ladies. I wrote a long email about my feelings for DH. We talked and argued and had ice cream. I think things will improve on that front. Still feeling so discouraged about school stuff though. I was so shocked this morning when he got wait listed. His interview at Toledo went so well. One professor even raved about how he hadn't seen an MCAT score that good in so long! We were both totally expecting a straight up acceptance. This just means more waiting and worrying for us. So now we wait until mid May to hear from Calgary and if that's a wait list (or worse, rejection) we could be waiting until July/August to hopefully get off a list. Hopefully Calgary will be a straight up acceptance and it not matter. But right now it seems pretty bleak. greensad.gif
post #77 of 362

For the past few days the pressure from the baby's head on my cervix has been horrible. I've been having soooo many braxton hicks contractions for the last few weeks, but hardly any the last couple of days. He was also super quiet in movements today. Then out of nowhere I just had bloody show! Now I'm feeling really crampy and am trying to unwind and go to bed early just in case!
I'm just so giddy and excited about meeting him. I'm so done with being pregnant.

Good luck to all the other contracting and not contracting moms!  

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For the past few days the pressure from the baby's head on my cervix has been horrible. I've been having soooo many braxton hicks contractions for the last few weeks, but hardly any the last couple of days. He was also super quiet in movements today. Then out of nowhere I just had bloody show! Now I'm feeling really crampy and am trying to unwind and go to bed early just in case!

I'm just so giddy and excited about meeting him. I'm so done with being pregnant.


Good luck to all the other contracting and not contracting moms!  

oh my goodness! I hope this is it for you! joy.gif
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IronMam: *big big BIG hugs* Your post sounds a lot like something I could have written myself. I think it's really a guy thing, which isn't much comfort, I know.


1baby: Bwahaha, that sounds like something I'd do.. find one outfit that makes me look awesome and rock it 24/7!



 

Since Monday, I've not been able to keep food in. At first I thought it was food poisoning since we ate fast food for dinner and that's when the sickness kicked in, but after everything I eat, one way or another it'll come out. I feel miserable, and am not sure if it's sickness, not getting lucky in the food department, or signs of my body cleaning itself out for labor. I've been getting menstrual feeling cramps, more intense than BH's, but less intense than any real contraction I've had.. it's miserable feeling though, I tell ya!

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Finally ordered our stroller! We didn't keep the travel system from when DD was a baby (we sold it once she outgrew it since we weren't sure if we'd ever have another baby and didn't want to be storing it/lugging it around for moving).  I wanted a jogging stroller so I can take Theo running with me, but I didn't want to buy a regular stroller AND a jogging stroller. So I looked for months for a Graco jogger that I could clip the car seat into, and the only ones in our budget that I found were in the States. But we couldn't get one when we went to Ohio because we didn't have the cash at the time or the space to fit it in the car for the drive home.

 

Well...this morning I discovered that the InStep Safari jogger accepts multiple car seats, including the Graco one we have! And it was on sale from Sears. So yay! With shipping/taxes it only came to $174, and it seems to have good reviews (considering the price) on Amazon. So that's one more thing off my to-do list. We do a LOT of baby wearing, but sometimes I just want to have a stroller, especially if I'm going to the mall, or the zoo, or something and want to be able to put the diaper bag in the basket beneath the seat. Plus DD is really looking forward to going on walks around the neighborhood with Teddy in his stroller, and her doll in her toy stroller. :)

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