I'll start with the short version. I love dh. We have been together for 4.5 years, living together for 2.5, married since last October. He has a teen son, I have a 20yo ds1 and 10yo ds2. Ds1 is military and not living at home. ds2 is with us every other week (50/50 split with my ex). DSS is with us....on an erratic schedule, typically one or two weekends a month, and dh goes to see him once a week in addition to that (lots of drama with his ex, and they live over an hour away).
DH does not want another baby. He says that he would do foster care or adoption but doesn't want a biokid. This kills me. I know that it isn't personal, but still, the man I love doesn't want a baby with me but he would adopt one. I want one WITH him, I want one that is "us". I don't fight with him about it, but I'm getting to the point where I feel like we may end up breaking up eventually over it, and it really, really hurts. Either I have to stop wanting a baby with him, or he has to suddenly want one with me. I don't know if I'll be able to just "stop". Advice?