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post #41 of 93

Ok Seriously... Tenley is about 23lbs, 16.5 months old. She'll be rear facing for at least another year, and her current seat goes up to 65lbs... so she'll probably be in it until she's like 5. (It sits really high so I can see it getting awkward for her once she's more child than pre-schooler, otherwise weightwise, I'm sure it would fit longer). So yeah... we've got like 3.5 years at minimum until we'll need a new seat. The only way she'd move earlier is if/when we have another baby. 

 

And yet I cannot stop looking at carseats! lol. Everytime someone posts a sale or I see them in the flyer I'm like ooooh! A diono monterey, the Graco Nautlius, a new Britax, etc etc. Seats we have no use for- I mean seriously, I won't even consider FF'ing her at ALL for another 8 months, and even then, it's probably more like another 18 months. But I see a sale and I'm like oooooohhhhh! lol

 

Also, my bff being pregnant is killing me! She's so blase about it right now, they weren't really trying, though were planning on starting to try soon, so all she can think of is all the stuff in the house they need to do before baby comes. I totally totally get that- I was framing a basement at 8 months pregnant and it's not fun! lol. But I have so many things I want to pass on to her, and suggest for her, and I know she's not ready yet to even start thinking about it. But I walk through a store and I'm like awww! I want to get one of those for her! It's kind of ridiculous really. lol. 

 

 

 

 

MW-- Regarding the breastfeeding, or regarding not wanting to be called AP? She's had some really shit experiences with AP people, and them being incredibly judgmental, and rigid in their beliefs to the point of incredibly stepping over the line with their evaluations of whether you can be a good parents when you do or don't do x, y, z. So obviously as a result, she's reluctant to be associated with people that are that closeminded and hurtful to near strangers.   Regarding breastfeeding- I think it's a couple things- she's a very self conscious person, very concerned with her appearances, and I think nursing is a source of anxiety for her. Also she had a LOT of issues nursing her now second youngest baby. They worked through them, but it also was a very very stressful experience, and she felt it took away from her ability to actually enjoy her baby and her other children, and her ability to stay sane. She spent so much time worrying about the nursing because of the idea that if you don't breastfeed, you're obviously a horrible mother, and so I think she's worried to get caught up in that trap/preoccupation again. Also, she had implants done in between the last baby and this one, and I think there was some obvious question as to whether she would be -able- to nurse, which was causing her to want to put less of an emphasis/expectation on it. Now, I haven't sat down and had this conversation with her specifically, but from being there last time, and from just observing other conversations and reactions to FB related posts, conversations etc, those are the reasons that I've gathered. Anyways, all that said- she is so far nursing this baby, who is 6 weeks old now. I don't know how long she'll go, but it doesn't really matter I guess. She knows the benefits, and how important it is, but also knows her own limits and sanity, and she'll do what she can. I can appreciate and understand that. 

 

 

I'm in such a torn spot. I'm feeling more and more ready for another baby, especially knowing that it's 9 months down the road, right, and so much changes in the meantime. But two things-- I'm not working nearly enough right now to qualify for mat leave-- which would be realllly nice, and part of not working that much also means that we're really not putting anything into savings. Financially a baby would be a much bigger deal now than it was when we had Tenley. Secondly, is that I know if I got pregnant right now, I would hate my body through the whole pregnancy. I hate it right now, but don't want to carry that over to pregnancy. I don't really need to specifically lose any weight, maybe 5lbs, but I still can easily look like I'm (most people's, not mine lol) 4-5 months pregnant. It's a combo of bloating, actual fat layers, and very intoned ab muscles. I know that if I worked at it for a month or two, it would be a HUGE difference, but I just can't seem to get the oomph to start. Blah. 

 

Not that DH would agree to another baby right now. I think work stress is a liiiiiiittle bit too much for him to take on another stress right now. lol

post #42 of 93
JJ: I loved my pregnant body. I'm not loving my body now. It feels all mushy and deflated. I'm looking forward to celebrating your pregnancy when it happens.

I'm going though the baby stuff with my sister. So mich I want to get her but don't have $$

Maternity leave is important. Important enough to start working more now to qualify?
post #43 of 93
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JJ ~ With all of that, I can understand your friend's feelings. I'm feeling a bit over breastfeeding with D. I think after either being pregnant or breastfeeding for the last 10 years, it gets a bit tiring. At least she is breastfeeding this new baby for now.

My house is dirty! I need to clean it but I don't want to. Blah!
post #44 of 93

omg I'm alive!  I'm in disbelief!  Worst week ever ladies, in terms of illness.  So glad our stomach flu is on the way out!  Finn is finally eating and drinking again and I finally ate something today, tho i'm still dealing with some, ahem, bowel issues.  Awful, awful, awful norovirus.  BLAH!

 

Boot camp is going phenomenally!!!  Kiddo peed twice and pooped once on the potty this am, and was so proud of himself!!  Clapped and dumped the potty and waved bye bye to the poop and pee each time.  He's so thrilled with his new "skill"!  Hoping today is the day it "clicks", and we can just hone skills all weekend.  He was so sick all week, but did not give up!  Tho, not eating or drinking made things pretty slow going.

 

JJ - your friend.  I'm glad she is at least nursing in the beginning.  I totally get her feelings, but I too hate the rejection of the term AP.  It's not about nursing or not nursing!  It's listening to your child and responding to their needs!  I know many parents who don't nurse, don't cosleep, don't do blw -- they are still wonderful AP parents!  Sigh.  Fine, she can reject the label.  That's no judgement on anyone.  I get that sometimes it's hard to "fit" in a group when too many things differ.  I like that you can still be friends, and it isn't coming b/w you.

I suppose what bugs me about her initial stance is that every baby is different, and despite her reasons with her other kids, that new baby still deserves to be breastfed.  This is a new baby and a new life.  Not a repeat of what's happened before.  Which is why I'm happy to hear she at least started to bf.

 

AFM - so I started my doula course -- well, I started poking thru the materials and OMG!  I've been out of school for a long time!  I have no idea how to even study!  This should be interesting...

 

Oops - Finn's awake.  Hopefully I'll bbl later!

post #45 of 93
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Carrie ~ Yay for doula school! So exciting! joy.gif Glad you all are feeling better. I can't believe you continued to PL while being so sick. That's commitment.

JJ ~ I forgot before to say that a toddler nursing only 3-5 times a day is normal. So, if Tenley went down to that, it would still be fine and normal. We spent almost the entire day out yesterday and D didn't nurse at all from maybe 10 am until at least 5:30 pm.

The boys finished their swimming lessons. K can swim almost as well as E now. I'm hoping that dh will now take over and take the boys to pool at least 1 hour on the weekends and get them swimming better. I told him the other day that I was just going to start giving him assignments with the boys. I'd tell him what was on his calendar. He agreed. I guess he really does prefer that I just tell him what to do.
post #46 of 93
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Carrie ~ Yay for doula school! So exciting! joy.gif Glad you all are feeling better. I can't believe you continued to PL while being so sick. That's commitment.

 

I have to say tho, it was all him.  We had one day of boot camp, and that night he woke up sick.  I was prepared to let it all go and just put him back in diapers, but even sick, he was signing "potty" and wanted to try.  It was very low expectations and I didn't make a fuss over any of it, just praise when he tried.  

 

Today was hit/miss.  He's really trying hard!  We are keeping it light and fun.  No pressure.  The only thing that's getting to me is that there's been a lot of poop to deal with today.  A lot.  Messy.  And it stinks.  Bleh.  

 

But he's really trying hard and doing great!  

 

That's awesome about swimming! 

 

Let me ask you guys your opinion on something.

 

DH often needs to paint or do a project on the house after work, or on the weekends when the kids are around.  I get this in my mind, there's literally no other time when he can do it.  But, why does it bother me so much??  I tried to get the kids settled, eating dinner, and yes, do potty training, encourage bites during dinner, do pjs, etc -- and he's right there painting, offering nothing to us.  He pours new paint out into the tray and of course they are curious and want to help, but I need to wrangle them away.  The walls are wet, so I have to keep them out of the room.  It's so frustrating to me that he offers no help with parenting when he's doing these things.  But, then, he has to get them done.  How can I reframe this so that I don't feel so angry about the situation?  Or would you also be annoyed?


Edited by Baby_Cakes - 4/12/13 at 5:16pm
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How can I reframe this so that I don't feel so angry about the situation?  Or would you also be annoyed?

I would be (and do get) annoyed also. We've been going through the same thing. My dh always has projects to do on the weekends. He likes to keep busy and we have a lot of little repairs that need to be done before we can try to rent the house. Last weekend he was listing out everything he needed to do and I said, "So, you aren't going to spend any time with the family then?" I understand that. He has even said in counseling that he thinks that is the reason we are getting along so much better, because he's "getting his tasks done."

That's part of the reason that I decided to start telling him what he was going to do with the boys. I find out about things going on like the fishing they did last weekend and the Lego club tomorrow and tell dh when and where. He just has to plan his projects around that.

You can reframe it by just accepting that he's doing something necessary, getting something taken care of that you want and it just has to be done now. Don't take it personally. Or, you can try to find a way that he can do the projects and spend time with the kids. Maybe you can set a time limit or one day for family and one day for projects. What about hiring someone else to do some things? I'm planning to hire someone to fix the back door and paint the front porch railing. There are options. You just have to brainstorm, tell Chris how you feel and see what the two of you can come up with.
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JJ: I loved my pregnant body. I'm not loving my body now. It feels all mushy and deflated. I'm looking forward to celebrating your pregnancy when it happens.

I'm going though the baby stuff with my sister. So mich I want to get her but don't have $$

Maternity leave is important. Important enough to start working more now to qualify?

I did love my pregnant body last time. Barely thought twice about the numbers on the scale and just enjoyed the changes and how great it felt to be able to -see- baby. I felt SO at home, and 'right' in my body. Right now though, I'm holding so much extra fat/bloating in my stomach area, and am already really self conscious about that area, that I have a feeling I'd spend so much time worrying about hwat I was going to look like afterwards and focusing on looking so much more pregnant than I already was, because of the existing fat. I already worry that people at work and stuff will think I'm pregnant again because of how belly-like my stomach is. Blah. Also, After Ten was born, I started questioning a lot how much relation there was between her birth weight (8lb8oz) and the extra weight I gained that I really didn't need to. I wonder if I'd been healthier throughout with my diet and exercise, if she would have been a smaller baby. My weight gain the the first two trimesters was pretty normal, but I gained a lot more/faster during the last, and a lot of it was me weight and not baby weight, so that makes me concerned too. I guess a lot of it just boils down to wanting to be healthier next time around. Now that I know what my energy level during and after the pregnancy will be like, I know more how realistic it is/isn't for me to be able to get back in shape afterwards. So I want to make sure I can set myself up better than I did last time. I hate hating my body, and being self conscious about it. 

 

Ok I went and looked again. Technically, I "qualify", as in, they would give me the required 50 weeks paid off of work. The problem is that it's based on your income. So what they would be paying me on mat leave, would be laughable. You get 55% of your average weekly earning over the past... 26 weeks I think it is. So... for instance, I'm 'averaging' about 16 hours a week or less right now. So basically on mat leave I'd end up getting about $500 or less each month. Which we could -make- work. But it just brings me back to the point of us really needing to build up a savings again and get some work done on the basement. Before Rob quit his job when I was pregnant with Ten, we had around $10k in the bank I think. It was nice and comfortable. But then we flew through it with him being off work and then doing basement and roof work. 

 

I'd like to get to full time or almost full time hours before going on mat leave again, ideally. I got I think 560 per paycheque on my last mat leave, which is reallllly nice when you're sitting at home enjoying your new baby. But I also know I'm not ready for FT yet, or at least Tenley isn't! They're pushing on me at work though, and -want- me to go FT again... so maybe it's worth revisiting with them, and talking about seniority etc. I could only go back to being classified as FT if they gave me my seniority from before, which would mean I get more choice in my shifts, and also wouldn't ever have to do midnights. Otherwise, I'd just have to stay PT classification and open up myself to more hours. Right now I've been firm on not taking more than 25 hours a week. It's just too hard with child care and adapting with Tenley. 

 

Ugh. Now this has me all thinking about it again, and wondering if maybe I should look into some child care options again. Ten does -fantastic- at Ashleigh's house, she really does. But Ash doesn't want to do more than two days a week. And then Rob's schedule is all over the place, so it means another provider we found, would have to be pretty flexible. Rob is gone either 6am-6:30pm or 6pm to 630am. I would be gone 6-430pm or 2-1230pm. The morning shift is fine, but obviously the evening one causes problems! lol Even if I do PM shifts on days Rob is working days, it means Tenley has to eat dinner somewhere else, and then doesn't get home until almost 7pm, and we start getting her in her jammies for bed at 7pm. It seems like a recipe for disaster. Blah. 

 

The only thing I think that would work would be having someone that could do some afternoon/evening shifts at our house, but that's always more expensive of course than taking her elsewhere. 

 

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omg I'm alive!  I'm in disbelief!  Worst week ever ladies, in terms of illness.  So glad our stomach flu is on the way out!  Finn is finally eating and drinking again and I finally ate something today, tho i'm still dealing with some, ahem, bowel issues.  Awful, awful, awful norovirus.  BLAH!

 

Boot camp is going phenomenally!!!  Kiddo peed twice and pooped once on the potty this am, and was so proud of himself!!  Clapped and dumped the potty and waved bye bye to the poop and pee each time.  He's so thrilled with his new "skill"!  Hoping today is the day it "clicks", and we can just hone skills all weekend.  He was so sick all week, but did not give up!  Tho, not eating or drinking made things pretty slow going.

 

JJ - your friend.  I'm glad she is at least nursing in the beginning.  I totally get her feelings, but I too hate the rejection of the term AP.  It's not about nursing or not nursing!  It's listening to your child and responding to their needs!  I know many parents who don't nurse, don't cosleep, don't do blw -- they are still wonderful AP parents!  Sigh.  Fine, she can reject the label.  That's no judgement on anyone.  I get that sometimes it's hard to "fit" in a group when too many things differ.  I like that you can still be friends, and it isn't coming b/w you.

I suppose what bugs me about her initial stance is that every baby is different, and despite her reasons with her other kids, that new baby still deserves to be breastfed.  This is a new baby and a new life.  Not a repeat of what's happened before.  Which is why I'm happy to hear she at least started to bf.

Oh Carrie, that illness all sounds horrible. I'm glad you guys seem to be kind of coming out the other side of it! Sickness in moms should be banned, I agree!

 

Isn't it so cool to see them start to hone these new skills!! I need to focus more on pottying with Ten. She -has- it. She really does, we just don't give her enough opportunity. But if I leave her naked, then 9/10 times, she'll either just go sit on the potty by herself, or she'll tell me potty, and we'll go together. But if we put a diaper on, she'll rarely tell me. I think if we spent more naked time, she'd totally be able to make the transition, but we haven't commited to it enough yet. 

 

Oh I agree with you about that NOT being what AP is about. That's the problem though-- is that she's basically had people tell her that if you don't do XYZ then you're not attachmenty enough, and therefore not a good enough mother. It's like the Time cover exactly-- but in real life. People that have talked down to her for vaxxing, and for declaring she likes her space in the bed (even though she co-sleeps and co-rooms on a fairly regular basis), etc etc. It's not that she rejects the practices, she just doesn't want to be associated with -some- of those people who give AP a bad name. It ruined it for her completely. It's not that she feels she isn't/couldn't be AP, more of a "Wow, that's what people who call themselves AP are like? Ok, I'm going to stay far away from people who act like that, since I don't want people to group me in with that behavior/judgement" ... I don't know if that makes sense. I think I'm explaining it poorly. 

 

I get what you're saying about the baby's chance to breastfeed, and I agree, but the thing is that she wasn't tlaking about not breastfeeding this time because nursing was hard last time. She did work through it last time... it was more the idea that for some mothers, the stress of breastfeeding and the pressure of that relationship, can make motherhood really 'unpleasurable' and hard, and when you're looking at someone who already has a lot of obstacles emotionally and could be very susceptible to depression, sometimes it's better to know yourself and your limits and not put that pressure on yourself. Of course I am thrilled that she's decided to breastfeed for at least as long as she feels comfortable, and hopefully it'll be a long time, I also get where she's coming from, and I respect and understand her right to know her state of mind and make the decisions that will make her the most engaged, loving mother. As long as she's making that decision with ALL the information about breastfeeding, and NOT from a lack of support or resources, then I'm ok with that. (Even though as you said, I do think that every baby deserves a chance to be breastfed. But they also deserve a mother who is engaged and present.)

 

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JJ ~ I forgot before to say that a toddler nursing only 3-5 times a day is normal. So, if Tenley went down to that, it would still be fine and normal. We spent almost the entire day out yesterday and D didn't nurse at all from maybe 10 am until at least 5:30 pm.

The boys finished their swimming lessons. K can swim almost as well as E now. I'm hoping that dh will now take over and take the boys to pool at least 1 hour on the weekends and get them swimming better. I told him the other day that I was just going to start giving him assignments with the boys. I'd tell him what was on his calendar. He agreed. I guess he really does prefer that I just tell him what to do.

I think the 3-5 times seems ok (weird still, but definitely ok), it just seems crazy that she would/could stay at that 3-5 times consistency for another 8-12 months, and not decrease even more, kwim? It feels like... oh she's a 5 times a day now, well next month she'll be 4, then 3, then 2, then all of a sudden only nursing to bed and she'll only be 20 months old. That seems so young! So even though I'm feeling a little touched out, and decreasing sounds like a good idea when I'm in that mindset, on the other hand, I'm like whaaaattt... no! She'll never make it long enough! lol

 

It makes sense that if Sean is used to taking orders at work, he would feel comfortable with it at home... maybe a bit of a safety net? I know nothing about the military mindset, but it makes sense to me that it would just become his comfort zone of always feeling better if someone else was the one giving the orders, and he just had to follow them. Of course it doesn't help if you don't like always having to give the orders, but it does make sense to me. 

 

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I have to say tho, it was all him.  We had one day of boot camp, and that night he woke up sick.  I was prepared to let it all go and just put him back in diapers, but even sick, he was signing "potty" and wanted to try.  It was very low expectations and I didn't make a fuss over any of it, just praise when he tried.  

 

Today was hit/miss.  He's really trying hard!  We are keeping it light and fun.  No pressure.  The only thing that's getting to me is that there's been a lot of poop to deal with today.  A lot.  Messy.  And it stinks.  Bleh.  

 

But he's really trying hard and doing great!  

 

That's awesome about swimming! 

 

Let me ask you guys your opinion on something.

 

DH often needs to paint or do a project on the house after work, or on the weekends when the kids are around.  I get this in my mind, there's literally no other time when he can do it.  But, why does it bother me so much??  I tried to get the kids settled, eating dinner, and yes, do potty training, encourage bites during dinner, do pjs, etc -- and he's right there painting, offering nothing to us.  He pours new paint out into the tray and of course they are curious and want to help, but I need to wrangle them away.  The walls are wet, so I have to keep them out of the room.  It's so frustrating to me that he offers no help with parenting when he's doing these things.  But, then, he has to get them done.  How can I reframe this so that I don't feel so angry about the situation?  Or would you also be annoyed?

It sounds like he's doing great!! WTG Finn!

 

I'd be angry too. Hey, Rob and I had the conversation today, and it wasn't even because he was doing other stuff, but just because I worked two days of his four off, and so we ran out of time. We were supposed to go do something family oriented today, and then he wanted to work on the car instead, and I got all pissy because he wasn't going to spend time with us. We did end up going to the zoo though, and had a ton of fun.  Anyways, MW had a lot of great advice, I just wanted to add that when Rob is trying to do something at home, I sometimes find the easiest thing to do is just leave. Plan an outing and make yourself scarce. Obviously that isn't always reasonable, but could he sometimes make sure that he's planning the work for times when you guys could easily get out for a playdate or something? That helps me to frame in my mind that he's "off limits", and when we're out of the house, I don't feel as annoyed that I'm dealing with Tenley all by myself.  And then I'd also make sure that you plan ahead times when he WILL do stuff with you guys and help out with the kids and do family things. 

 

baby calling!

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What about hiring someone else to do some things? I'm planning to hire someone to fix the back door and paint the front porch railing. There are options. You just have to brainstorm, tell Chris how you feel and see what the two of you can come up with.

 

I really hope to convince him to hire someone for the bigger projects.  He's just so stubborn.  They aren't worth his time, tho, at all.  

 

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I think the 3-5 times seems ok (weird still, but definitely ok), it just seems crazy that she would/could stay at that 3-5 times consistency for another 8-12 months, and not decrease even more, kwim? It feels like... oh she's a 5 times a day now, well next month she'll be 4, then 3, then 2, then all of a sudden only nursing to bed and she'll only be 20 months old. That seems so young! So even though I'm feeling a little touched out, and decreasing sounds like a good idea when I'm in that mindset, on the other hand, I'm like whaaaattt... no! She'll never make it long enough! lol

 

 Plan an outing and make yourself scarce. Obviously that isn't always reasonable, but could he sometimes make sure that he's planning the work for times when you guys could easily get out for a playdate or something? That helps me to frame in my mind that he's "off limits", and when we're out of the house, I don't feel as annoyed that I'm dealing with Tenley all by myself.  And then I'd also make sure that you plan ahead times when he WILL do stuff with you guys and help out with the kids and do family things. 

 

Finn will be 20 mo in 3 days (how did THAT happen?!) and if I thought ahead when he was Ten's age, like OMG he's only going to be nursing 4-5 X a day?  I don't know if I would have believed it.  But here we are.  Of course, for a week now he only nursed and wouldn't eat/drink b/c he was sick.  So it isn't like they just all of a sudden put up their hand and say, "No, mom, I don't want to nurse more than 5 times a day.  I'm too old."  They nurse whenever they want/need.  Life just gets busier, they are more into eating solids, they cope with sadness in other ways.  It's hard to imagine before you're there.

You know what's even crazier when I think about it?  By 20 mo Nora was nursing 2X a day, from one side only

There's just no right or wrong.  There's no quota to fill or right answer.  As long as its a natural decrease, and both you and baby are happy, there's no issues with how often a child nurses.  You know?

 

I don't mind taking the kids out when it's a weekend project or whatever.  I just can't stand the dinnertime/bedtime crunch with him right there.  And I don't want to take them out to eat by myself. :-(  I think I might ask what he thinks about starting a project like that after we put them to bed.  If we work together and get them both down by 9, he could start then and omgosh, we could even work together!?  We're always up til 1130 or so anyway watching tv.  Why not use that time more wisely so we don't get so stressed out?  None of the projects are loud.  Painting, grout, etc.  Loud stuff could just get done another time.

 

Family time.  Sigh.  I don't even know what that is!  We haven't had family time in a long, long time.  Sigh.


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There's just no right or wrong.  There's no quota to fill or right answer.  As long as its a natural decrease, and both you and baby are happy, there's no issues with how often a child nurses.  You know?

 

 

 I think I might ask what he thinks about starting a project like that after we put them to bed.  If we work together and get them both down by 9, he could start then and omgosh, we could even work together!?  We're always up til 1130 or so anyway watching tv.  Why not use that time more wisely so we don't get so stressed out?  None of the projects are loud.  Painting, grout, etc.  Loud stuff could just get done another time.

 

Family time.  Sigh.  I don't even know what that is!  We haven't had family time in a long, long time.  Sigh.

Yes, definitely. And that's what I'm trying to remind myself over and over. I've just for so long thought of it as wanting to make sure we get to 2 years, that I"m like ermmm... are we gonna make it?? *shifty eyes* and I know that shouldn't be my focus. 

 

Starting after the kids are in bed is a good plan! I like working together with Rob on stuff like that. It gives you a sense of accomplishment, and like 'being on the same team', that I miss. 

 

I go crazy now without family time, especially since our schedules are all over the place. We need to carve out specific times to do Tenley centered activities otherwise it seems like we're just flying through each week without really thinking about how fast these days are p[assing!

 

Babywearing meeting today and then out to my moms for a late Easter. They've got a baby lamb in the house right now. Should be fun! lol

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Yes, definitely. And that's what I'm trying to remind myself over and over. I've just for so long thought of it as wanting to make sure we get to 2 years, that I"m like ermmm... are we gonna make it?? *shifty eyes* and I know that shouldn't be my focus. 

 

You'll make it.  Just keep offering and don't give up. if she seems to be on a strike, push thru. If she drops another session, see if you can add another one in somewhere. You know?

And if you don't make it, pat yourself on the back b/c however long you go is a HUGE accomplishment!!!  

 

After all that worry, I bet she'll be nursing til she's 3, lol.

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Well, I'm not pregnant. I got af.gif today, two days earlier than expected. My lp has consistently been 13 days long since my cycles came back but this time it was only 11 days. I guess that's still normal but it has me wondering. I also had much, much milder PMS symptoms. Cramping was minimal and I wasn't nearly as irritable as usual. I must admit that I am a little sad and disappointed that I'm not pregnant. But, I really, really don't want another child so I'm also relieved.

What's going on with everyone else?
post #53 of 93

Hugs MW. I definitely understand that feeling. The thought of a new life is always exciting and I don't think that will ever go away.

 

I'm thinking about shelling out the cash and getting a Boba 3G. Ava is going through a phase of wanting to be carried a lot, especially in crowds and she's killing my back. I like my Bali Breeze wrap but she likes to go up and down a lot. So I'm thinking a carrier would be easier to manage. Thoughts?

 

Ava's sleep is still pretty unsettled because of her teeth but we are doing a better job of pain management so it hasn't been as bad. She's acting closer to a 2 yr old than a 1 yr old. We can have conversations (sort of), she will attempt to talk to me on the phone at night, she follows directions well and loves to help so I'm trying to harness that. I broke down and bought sunscreen for her for the first time because she got a little too much sun on Saturday at the farmer's market. She won't keep her sun hat on and she gets too hot to be in long sleeves.

 

Trying to plan some fun stuff that the big kids and Ava can both enjoy this summer. I think we will do some day trips to places like the science museum, maybe go to DC. I need to get them to tell me what they already have scheduled for the summer. They are so hard to nail down sometimes. And then they get upset if they can't do the fun thing I've planned. Kind of frustrating. I think I might try to save up and do a day trip to Busch Gardens. Ava would love the Sesame Street stuff and the big kids would love the roller coasters. We'll see.

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post #55 of 93

Oh have fun at Busch Gardens!  Nora won't let me forget what happened on our trip.  "Hey mom, remember when we went to Busch Gardens and it was closed?"  

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NM going on here.  Finally HEALTHY.  That virus was awful.  I short puke episode, a migraine (I think, closest thing I can think a migraine would be) then diarrhea for almost 5 days.  The last day omg I was so dehydrated.  That was sunday.  I'm still trying to hydrate.  Sunday I was having trouble making spit.  I woke up monday and my tongue was like sandpaper.  Awful.  I lost a ton of weight, and was 137 yesterday.  I know it won't last -- but it does have me eating pretty clean b/c that's about where I want my weight to be anyways.  

 

Chris is in NC, and yesterday texted me he woke up and threw up around 1 am.  Then he had the headache all day.  This bug LINGERS and waits for the next victim.  It's picking us off one by one.  Nora's not in the clear that means.  I feel bad he's away from home, alone, and sick.  

 

Still doing mostly potty stuff here.  He's getting it but it's slow going.  I'm ok with it!  Just means more time to hang out and play and practice.  I'm being MUCH more low key this time than last time.  Idk if you guys remember but it was an intense week with Nora doing this.  I want it done, but at the same time I don't want to look back on this time and only have bad feelings.  This is a huge milestone for him.  And it's 99.99% the LAST time I'll ever have to potty train so if it takes a few weeks, so be it!

 

I got all my books for my doula and lc class.  Overwhelming and so informative!  I want to dive in but at the same time it's so hard to focus.   Anyone have study tips for a someone who can't sit still?

post #56 of 93
Annie: the Boba has a high back and narrow seat, so should last tiny Ava a while. I liked it, but the Ergo was maybe a little more comfy. Either might seem hotter than the wrap this summer. Might try looking for a used kinder pack with a kool knot or solar weave panel on the Facebook baby wearing swap.

Only 2.5 more weeks of maternity leave. Trying to make them count and focus on the kids. Theo is eating a bunch and gaining weight quickly.

Carrie- glad you are all healthy! It's about time!
post #57 of 93

somehow I didn't weigh in on the boba question.  do it!  They are amazing.  And since you are planning on at least another kiddo (someday) it's a worthwhile investment.  I always felt the ergo sat too low on my back, but others aren't bothered by it.  It wasn't hot wearing finn at disney, any more than a wrap would be or anything, in fact he was def cooler in it than he would have been wrapped.  I have a mei tai also but still love the boba for how quick it is to get him up high on my back by myself.  way comfier!!!

post #58 of 93

Glad to hear the munchkin is gaining and doing well!  How is everyone sleeping?  Your mat leave feels too short.  greensad.gif

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I like my Boba ok but I don't find it easy. I can't ever seem to get it quite right. It always feels a little too tight or crooked and uncomfortable. I don't know, exactly, what my problem is. I seem to have a hard time getting D on my back straight in it. I still like my mei tai the best. I can get babes on my back very quickly and easily with that.
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Go figure!  I suppose maybe it's best to try the carriers, b/c they are so different and everyone has a preference.  

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