What did you do to help your #1 transition to being an older sibling?
I have been talking to my two and a half year old about stuff for a few weeks now, but he doesn't really want to hear it. He gets quiet and I'm guessing he feels very apprehensive. He does however pop out some positive comments every so often, so I know he is thinking about it, and some things are "okay" and some things are still hard for him to wrap his mind around.
We have bought and read a couple of books about baby (some days he wants to read them, other days he won't go near them) and I have showed him pictures of tandem nursing (which seemed to have a really positive over all impact and lessened a lot of his fears).
The time frame is something that I am having trouble getting him to understand too - (did i bring things up too soon???) And I don't know if I should tell him when I go into labor that we will be going to have the baby, or if there is another 'explanation" that we should give for sending him to my parent's house??
He's kind of a sensitive kid, and I feel like he is a lot more comfortable with the idea now than he was a few weeks ago (as evidenced by acknowledging when everyone asks him if he's excited to be a big brother (he used to hide and get scared of what it meant, now he's showing a semi positive reaction, but still not answering))...but I don't know what else I can be doing. I am having trouble putting myself in his shoes to try to figure out what i need to do to make him feel more secure with this.