Re: Dentist, poor dd. My ds2 had similar reactions to anything put over his face (toddler nebulizer) that I wonder was related to early birth trauma. And poor you! The dentist will be okay! I bet it's not the worst experience he's had.
Tjsmama, Big I'm just so sorry to hear that. I'm immediately taken back to my grief when my own grandmother passed. I'm so, so sorry. Glad your car is okay and you have so many good Samaritans! Be well...
Plady, not Ninj?
Warning: Long Math Post Ahead. Feel free to skip.
Math Fact Sheets: I use the same ones that MommaJB uses - Saxon Math. I can't speak to the online math programs but if you want a solid book experience I would recommend the Saxon Math 5/4 Fact Sheets and Tests. I wouldn't get any lesson book but I would have her do one worksheet a day only. Always time her and never make a big deal of mistakes or how long she takes. Let her get away from the "grade" and eventually enjoy checking her pace/record against herself. Forget the tests that goes with the lesson book, just use the fact sheets. Also, I'd keep it short and simple (like the fact sheet only - no lesson unless she asks) so she's not too distraught by the end of summer when school begins but hopefully more confident and ready for a good year. I would buy this one - which is for advanced 4th grade and regular 5th grade. It will start off focusing on addition, slowly advancing to the times table and division while spiraling back to pick up addittion and subtraction again.
This is why I like it: My ds1 hates being timed. He hates memorizing. He hates times table and he hates spelling tests and he crumbles when they happen. Or at least he did. But after weeks of recording his time / grade on the worksheet with absolutely no pressure from me - just maybe feedback like Aha! You're getting the 4s now. or You're pretty good at the 2s. Or you've really come a long way with the 6s, etc. Only positive feedback for now. Limited but real.
My son still does not like doing his fact sheet. He still moans and groans but I've noticed pleasure when he records the grade in his notebook and the time is faster than the previous time. He always makes 100 because he keeps his times table right in front of him. But he likes making 100s and gets his kicks out of referring to it less and less often. He's a perfectionist and hates missing one so I don't care about the grade; I just care that he's improved dramatically over time. This kid has never ever been a "rote" kid or a "perfomer" kid. From his youngest age, he'd disappoint his grandparents who wanted him to perform. This is my husband's pet peeve, so no performances here. He's a context kid, in that he can do something exactly right when performed in context (spelling, math) but not taken out of context. Does that make sense? I've gone to lengths to explain this because what appeals to one might not appeal to another so just in case you have a similar learner, I thought this would be helpful. Also because this child (ds1) hates learning on a machine ( Khan Academy / reading on a Kindle.) he needs to hold his pencil, touch his paper, and smell the book.
This is how you do it: Tear out a fact sheet first thing in the morning. We keep ours on a clipboard. Place the fact sheet right above it. Ours is in a clear page protector because it is used so often. Pull out the iPhone or iPod or whatever and time. Now my son doesn't like the timer near him or to hear it because it distracts him, so I keep it on my body and just stop it when he's ready. So there you have way too much information. Maybe something like one of the online programs will be easier and cheaper for you anyway!
ETA: If you like this, I will post a picture of the recording form because I am crazy about it.
Edited by loftmama - 5/2/13 at 2:07pm