So my little brother is getting married this weekend. There was a party this Friday that I really didn't want to go to because my step dad would be there. He sexually abused me and my sister and even though I have only seen him once in 9 years he still tries really hard to talk to me and tell me how beautiful I am and so on. My whole family knows. We have fought all about it but in the end I never go to my mothers house and have not been there in over a decade. He is not allowed to talk to me or be near me. Well in 2011 I had my own child. My mother is not allowed to have pictures of him because I don't want my Step dad o be able to see them. Well I knew we would have too see him this weekend. My whole family knows the drill he has to keep his distance and NOT interact with my son.
My sons dad did an amazing job of not letting any one hold the baby and just kind of distancing him and the baby from the whole group. There were 80 people there so its not like it was a small intimate affair. I made all of the food. Spent 100's of dollars.
Well at the end my brother (the groom) wants to hold my son which is fine. We all take photos. Then my step dad approaches me to tell me that my son is soooo adorable. And that when he was talking to him he was giving him the weirdest face. FIRST he is not supposed to talk to me. I ignored him and walked away and tried to think of a time when he got to see my son so up close. THen the photos get posted on facebook and there is my brother with my son and my step dad. I am so livid. So much more angry than I anticipated. I cannot believe I let this happen. Let him see or even touch my son. I thought my family knew better. I am so upset. AND THE PHOTOS ARE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE TO SEE. I am so hurt.
Well his wedding is tomorrow and I DO not want to go. I WILL NOT bring my son. Am I over reacting. I thought my 7 brothers and sisters and inlaws would intervene. OR MY MOTHER! SHE EFFING KNOWS HOW I FEEL! I just feel like I subjected my son to the worst man I have ever known who would continue to victimize me if he could (I had to stop going to my moms house because he would hang out my window hoping I would change my clothes)
Am I being unreasonable?