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Queer, Pregnant, & Parenting - April, May & June 2013! - Page 18post #341 of 6015/14/13 at 7:15pmpost #342 of 6015/15/13 at 7:04amCarmen: I'm so sorry about the GD. What is your midwife's policy on that? Our midwives are comfortable with homebirths for people with GD if they test regularly throughout the day and their blood sugar is well controlled. I hope your midwife had a similar policy!
Cordelia: Good luck with this last bit of time before your little one arrives!
Wishin: That sounds like quite the labor experience. I hope your wife is healing well!
AFM: So we drew the blood for the MaterniT21 test last Thursday and sent it in. Yesterday our midwives got a call from Sequenom (the MaterniT21 people) saying that they won't process the blood sample because my wife doesn't have any risk factors so she isn't eligible for the test. Apparently the FDA has only approved the test for people who have a specific risk factor (advanced maternal age, a family history of trisomies, or a positive nuchal result). I wish that they had made that clear in their literature or when we talked to them on the phone (when we told them that we had no risk factors!). Oh well. We feel fine about not getting the results, and in some ways it is nice to not have to worry about what we would do if we got an abnormal result.post #343 of 6015/15/13 at 8:23am
erin-- I am nervous about tearing or needing an episiotomy (although I don't know if the midwives even do that) as well. It just seems crazy our bodies have to stretch that much, lol. ANYWAY, there are things you can do prior to birthing as well, such as massage/stretching, using vitamin e oil or wheatgerm oil is recommended. Look up perineal massage. Here is a link with some instructions (I've heard it can help): http://www.bloomingbellys.com/bb-blog/prenatal-perineal-massage/
carmen--Sorry to hear about the GD. A friend of mine also has GD and at first, of course, it was very upsetting. But now she says that it is her "secret weapon." Her experience has been that since she has starting eating radically differently and very healthy (even though it was a pain at first) she feels SO much better and has been enjoying pregnancy much, much more. The policy at the birthing center she went to is that she now has to birth at the hospital, but the midwife can still be the one there. I think they ended up switching to an OB they liked anyway. So, I hope that perhaps there will be a blessing in disguise in this for you as well.
AFM--Still not sure what's going on with moving. Kind of frustrating not knowing if we're moving soon or moving at the end of the summer. I wish I knew if we will be living here or somewhere else by the time baby arrives (which is in, like, ONE month!). I was wondering if she dropped some, although I can't really tell by looking. Just feeling a LOT of pressure on my pubic bone now--ouch! I went to a chiropractor about the intense rib/back pain I've been having. He adjusted my neck, and he said I definitely am out of alignment--the vertibrae on my spine that connects to my rib. I was SO tight, though, that he was unable to do the adjustment he wanted to. He basically begged me to continue doing prenatal yoga and I have another appointment with him on Friday--hope it's more productive!post #344 of 6015/15/13 at 8:43am
escher, that is so weird ! that must be a new thing. we don't have those risk factors, and just got our results in march. i think things are changing pretty rapidly with that test, though, so it's not too surprising. we still have no idea if our insurance is going to choose to pay for it. i'm glad you're okay with the outcome.
carmen - good luck with the diabetes clinic. i hope it's easy for you to control.post #345 of 6015/15/13 at 9:46ampost #346 of 6015/15/13 at 10:00am
Thanks, everyone. It's funny because I actually eat very healthy. I'm gluten free due to an allergy - vegetarian at home because DP and DD are. I never eat fast food, etc, etc. I do have other risk factors though - over 35, overweight when I got pregnant and DD was 9lb7oz. So yeah, I'll try and tweak my diet even more....I do eat a lot of carbs (rice, rice bread) and I've been craving fizzy drinks (although I limit them to organic juices/pops...they still have sugar). I'm *just* over the test limit and only on one of the 3 tests so maybe it will be easy to control. I know I'm not exercising nearly enough so that could make a big difference.
Waiting to hear back from the midwife.....post #347 of 6015/15/13 at 10:52amI don't know a lot about GD, but it was interesting when I first met with my midwife, I was grilling her on ways to avoid it. And though she certainly talked to me about maintaining my generally healthy diet, she cautioned me against assuming that there's necessarily anything I could do to prevent GD. She said that sometimes it's just a function of how the placenta forms (?) and it can happen to the healthiest eaters, regardless of whether or not they have any risk factors for regular diabetes (non-gestational). I don't know if that's helpful or not, but I thought I would put it out there. A lot of times it is easy I think for me to assume that if something goes wrong with my pregnancy it'll somehow be my fault, and it is helpful to me to be reminded that that's often not the case.post #348 of 6015/15/13 at 11:14amCarmen, I'm sorry you have GD. I have also heard that it's not necessarily anything about how you eat (I are plenty of sugar through all my pregnancies, but my first/vegan/healthiest eating pregnancy was the only one where my sugar rose). Hopefully for you it will just mean finishing the pregnancy healthier than when you started.
Escher, stinkers! Why didn't they tell you that?
Coco, your tissue changes a lot during pregnancy. You develop more/deeper rugae, which increases the surface area and allows the vagina to stretch around a person. Trust me, the pressure of them squeezing through the pelvis is more intense than the vaginal stretching. I don't know if skin stretch is related, but I barely got stretch marks and I barely tore with zero prep. Little skid marks with my 8#6, small first degree with my 7#4 (who blasted out of me in a single contraction from crown to toes) and a first degree along the scar of the previous scar with my 9#. My tears were high up inside and needed no stitching.
Edited by seraf - 5/15/13 at 2:33pmpost #349 of 6015/15/13 at 1:55pmEscher—how funny. I guess it makes sense to not test without cause, but it’s still odd that they won’t do it. I agree that it can be nice not having reasons to worry, though!
Coco—Ugh. We’re waiting for all of the paperwork and whatever to be done so we can remodel our house and it is driving me completely crazy not knowing when it will be done or what will be happening in our lives at that point. I can’t even imagine doing it while expecting a baby! Good luck!
Carmen—I’m so sorry about the GD. I hope that you find a good solution that makes you feel in charge and comfortable.post #350 of 6015/16/13 at 11:25amHi Everyone,
Carmen: Any news about what the GD diagnosis is going to mean for you?
Isa: I can see that it makes sense not to test without cause, but it seems silly to me that the nuchal scan and quad screen, which are less accurate and more prone to false positives, are options for everyone while the more accurate and no more invasive materniT21 isn't. Oh well. It really is ok for us not to have the results, but it just seems kind of silly.
Mrsandmrs: It's funny that they let you do the test!
Coco: We should form a moving support club. I hope that the yoga and chiropractic care are able to help some with your pain!
Folks who had first trimester nausea and exhaustion: Do you remember around what week you started feeling noticeably better? I would like to believe there is some improvement coming soon.post #351 of 6015/16/13 at 12:50pmQuote:Folks who had first trimester nausea and exhaustion: Do you remember around what week you started feeling noticeably better? I would like to believe there is some improvement coming soon.
i think my all-day nausea started to simmer down around 17 or 18 weeks, and the last time i actually puked was about 20 weeks? it is hard to remember. it felt like forever, but i kept reassuring myself that the longest it could ACTUALLY last was 38 weeks.post #352 of 6015/16/13 at 1:21pm
Hi everyone - Sorry it's so hard to keep up, but I wanted to drop in. Looking forward to all the upcoming babies!
Carmen - Sorry about the GD. Hopefully it won't have a big effect on the pregnancy.
DW had an ultrasound yesterday at ~35 weeks. Baby is breech, which we were pretty sure was the case. She has another in 2 more weeks, at which point she and her OB will talk options. I think he will turn on his own, but I'm also open to her trying acupuncture and inversions. I'm not a fan of the procedure in which the OB would try to manually rotate him, but we will talk about it at 37 weeks if necessary. Other than that, everything is going along just fine, working and getting ready and waiting to be parents in 5-6 weeks!post #353 of 6015/16/13 at 3:21pm
carmen--I'm sorry about the GD. I hope it doesn't complicate your birth plan too much. I agree that it can be hard to predict. 2 of my 3 sisters had it, and they are the skinnier ones in the family. They eat pretty different diets too.
easttowest--I'm sorry the baby is breech. I hope he turns in good time. Have you 2 checked out the spinning babies website? I can also give you the name of my chiropractor. She does the Webster Technique and one thing it helps with is getting babies to turn. Enjoy your last few weeks before the baby comes!post #354 of 6015/16/13 at 5:51pm
E2W - sorry to hear the baby is breech. My co-worker just had an external version done and it was successful. She had a vaginal birth about a week later. I was impressed her OB suggested it rather than just pushing for a c-section. DW is already into the spinning babies site early in hopes of at least our baby A ending up head down. Good luck!post #355 of 6015/16/13 at 6:24pm
seraf, that's good to hear, reassuring, thanks. Tearing is maybe not as scary as it seems. The midwives don't do episiotomies, so I don't need to worry about that--and apparently episotomies are much worse than tearing.
escher, moving is totally stressful! i'm down for a support club. and thanks. As for nausea and exhaustion, well I didn't deal with nausea, but I DEFINITELY was exhausted through the first trimester. I think it was right around the the beginning of the second trimester when I began to get my energy back. It was a big difference for me.
Carmen--I hope you didn't think I was suggesting that your diet had anything to do with getting GD! That's not what I meant. I just meant I hope any changes you have to make (like cutting down on carbs, etc.) that you feel the benefits.
easttowest--I know two people who had to have their babies turned manually, don't know that much about it, just that the OB or midwife was able to turn the baby in the right position just by moving from the outside, and that there were no problems. Our cousin is a midwife, and she has been able to do that for some women as well. Also, our midwives refer people to a chiropractor who specializes in pregnancy, and they are able to get the baby to turn. I don't know how that works either, but I know that's where they refer women dealing with breech babes. Something more simple that she could do on her own is trying some positions that encourage the baby to move to a head down position. There is one that I learned from prenatal yoga--not quite the cat-cow, but you get on all fours and rock your pelvis up and down. I know they do that in this yoga video: http://youtu.be/vOHFE3huhOQ at about 6:20 in the video. I have never done yoga before I was pregnant, and didn't think I could do it well bc I am not flexible. But I have been doing a lot of prenatal yoga, and it has been amazing! Before our darlin was head down, I did that pelvic rocking every day to encourage her to move head down--not that it was urgent yet, still early. I still do it almost every day. She has been head-down for over a month now (and I'm 36 weeks).
Afm-- Going to see the chiropractor again tomorrow. I'm *really* hoping that it will help with my rib. I have noticed *a little* less pain in my ribs and back since the last appointment. I've been doing prenatal yoga almost every day, which the chiropractor basically begged me to do. He said I was so tight in my back that he couldn't do the adjustment he wanted to, so he said massage and yoga are my best friends.
The midwife confirmed that the baby has dropped!! I asked and she said, "Well, she definitely couldn't get any lower." No wonder I've been having pain on my pubic bone, more pressure (plus the relaxin hormone)! It's pretty intense sometimes, though, hurts to walk. Doesn't stop me, though. She is long, even though she is so low, she still manages to kick up under my ribs! With her having dropped now, I've also been having to pee WAY more often. I woke up every hour last night to pee. Sheesh! Not the most restful sleep.
We are getting really excited and eager, so that I have to remind myself (and my wife and daughter) that we don't really want her to come early. In a few weeks would be great, though. :) Her due date is June 11, I'm hoping for early June, but know that it could be later, too. My dad's prediction is June 7. He seems pretty certain, but he also thought she'd be a boy (then again, we only know her sex, not her gender). :)post #356 of 6015/17/13 at 4:27pm
Wishin- CONGRATS on the bambino!!!! And thank you for the advice on the episiotomy!
granite and sotohana- Thanks for the book advice! I have been looking at all the books and links! Very helpful!
knitting - I hope you are right about the episiotomy. My OB did say that she would only do it if it was absolutely necessary. My plan was to definitely wait until I could not stand it any longer on going to the hospital.
carmen - I would much rather tear naturally than have to be cut in the place they choose! BOOO on the GD. I hope it is not as bad as you are anticipating. A diet change in carbs like you said should help tons!
pokey - My OB "should" be at the birth, but I guess you cannot anticipate when you will go into labor. My doc will only be out of town 3 weeks before I am due...crossing fingers. Also we did take childbirthing classes that helped, but she seemed surprised that we were not wanting an epidural..hmmm
CocoBird - Great link!! Thanks!
Lots of births coming up! Hope everyone is prepared as best they can be. Any suggestions on playlist for labor? I have one started but just curious.post #357 of 6015/17/13 at 4:54pm
escher - It was definitely after the 1st trimester was over that I felt like the nausea/aversions/exhaustion went away, so I am going to say week 17/18 like mrs&mrs. I still get some occassional cough-gagging (no puking) when I first wake up and/or when I brush my teeth. And I still haven't really gotten my sleep cycle back though.post #358 of 6015/17/13 at 5:00pm
erin, I have been thinking about a labor playlist as well! Not really sure what I would want to listen to...what's on your playlist so far? I'd like to hear others' as well!!!
I've been listening to Ani Difranco's "Landing Gear" which is a sweet song for a baby in utero... "You're gonna love this world if it's the last thing I do..."post #359 of 6015/17/13 at 5:06pm
escher, with DD I had all day nausea that greatly improved around 13weeks. With this pregnancy I started to feel better around the same time, maybe a bit earlier.
east, Wow, you are getting so close! I hope baby turns. I echo checking out "spinning babies" but you are right, baby could still easily turn!
Coco, I remember when DD was suddenly riding REALLY low. Yikes, I felt like I had a bowling ball between my legs and had bad pubic bone pain. Chiro helped but finally giving birth was the biggest help ;) Hang in there, you're so close too!!
erin, I had a huge playlist made and it turned out I didn't want any music on during labour or the birth I did enjoy listening to it right after DD was born though - it was a nice transition back to the "real world" I'm not sure I'll do one this time. I haven't really thought about it too much.
Afm: I spoke to my midwife and the diabetes clinic. I'll be scheduled for 2 - 1/2 days with a series of appointments. One will teach me how to test my blood, one is with a dietitian and the others will be with a nurse and then a doctor. My midwife isn't actually overly concerned. She pointed out that I had a home birth of a 9lb7oz baby so clearly birthing a large baby isn't an issue for me. However, she did give me some tips like eat carbs with protein, walk after meals etc. Things I know but it's a good reminder. I will only be risked out of a home birth if I end up on insulin...which will happen if I can't control it on my own and my glucose continues to rise. What a pain in the butt but I'm feeling better about it and more confident it won't interfere with my birth hopes.
In other news, holy braxton hicks!! They are getting so intense. Not painful at all but wow, they take my breath away! People in my DDC are putting together "to do" lists so I was inspired to start one today. Hopefully it will stop me from laying awake at 3am planning car seat configurations I'm officially in the third trimester and officially still feeling good!
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