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post #21 of 83
KaliShanti, we thought we were trying to avoid too. This is a surprise baby for us as well. We are also struggling financially. We had been doing pretty well for a long time and then right before we found out all hell broke loose financially. The same thing happened when we found out I was pregnant with dd3. Craziness.
post #22 of 83

I saw bookwise noting something about getting thyroid numbers checked. I am hypothyroid and I don't want to lose my pregnancy because my thyroid messing things up. I have gotten pregnant through an IVF procedure because my DH had ultra low sperm count. I will be seeing my reproductive endocrinologist on April 23 but I am wondering I might need to get my thyroid function tests done before I see him again for my post-procedure appointment.

 

If I have only one baby, I would really like to do a midwife home birth. My mom had 2 hospital births and then 5 unassisted births with only my dad attending (first one was in the dead of winter where our house was a mile from the road along a driveway that wasn't shoveled so my parents planned for a home birth if my mom went into labor at home or a hospital birth if she went into labor away from home).

 

If I have twins (which is a possibility because of the IVF procedure), then I guess I will be going to a high risk ob/gyn.  Not too enthused about their desire to do ultrasounds all the time. I would like as few ultrasounds as medically necessary because I don't think it is good for babies bodies to be subjected to the ultrasounds all the time.

 

DH and I are so excited!

post #23 of 83
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Originally Posted by lilacvioletiris View Post

I saw bookwise noting something about getting thyroid numbers checked. I am hypothyroid and I don't want to lose my pregnancy because my thyroid messing things up. I have gotten pregnant through an IVF procedure because my DH had ultra low sperm count. I will be seeing my reproductive endocrinologist on April 23 but I am wondering I might need to get my thyroid function tests done before I see him again for my post-procedure appointment.

 

If I have only one baby, I would really like to do a midwife home birth. My mom had 2 hospital births and then 5 unassisted births with only my dad attending (first one was in the dead of winter where our house was a mile from the road along a driveway that wasn't shoveled so my parents planned for a home birth if my mom went into labor at home or a hospital birth if she went into labor away from home).

 

If I have twins (which is a possibility because of the IVF procedure), then I guess I will be going to a high risk ob/gyn.  Not too enthused about their desire to do ultrasounds all the time. I would like as few ultrasounds as medically necessary because I don't think it is good for babies bodies to be subjected to the ultrasounds all the time.

 

DH and I are so excited!


You can still do a homebirth with twins! I know many women who have. :) Twins does not equal high-risk.

post #24 of 83
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Originally Posted by lilacvioletiris View Post

I saw bookwise noting something about getting thyroid numbers checked. I am hypothyroid and I don't want to lose my pregnancy because my thyroid messing things up. I have gotten pregnant through an IVF procedure because my DH had ultra low sperm count. I will be seeing my reproductive endocrinologist on April 23 but I am wondering I might need to get my thyroid function tests done before I see him again for my post-procedure appointment.

 

 

Definitely do! The sooner the better. Here's two links that talk specifically about increasing dosage during pregnancy and how common that is:

http://thyroid.about.com/od/hormonepregnantmenopause1/a/dosechange.htm

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3267517/

 

The first trimester is the most important one as the baby depends on the mother's thyroid until it develops its own around the end of the first trimester.

 

I can't know for sure if it made a difference or not, but it's hard not to ignore the fact that my thyroid numbers were all out of wack until mid-February and then bam, pregnant in March. I was almost sure I was pregnant in January, had a suuuuper long cycle and even a metallic taste in my mouth (which I'd never gotten before except when pregnant), but I think my thyroid was just too crazy still to support a pregnancy.

 

My blood was tested in mid-March, right before ovulation, and then last week, first of April, same dosage, but already my numbers had dropped, so now my dosage is higher.

post #25 of 83

I originally posted that I wanted to go to the OB's as soon as possible so I can hear a heartbeat...given my previous m/c. But DH and I talked this weekend, and we have decided to go a different route this time around.  DH asked me to keep the faith and just let nature take her course. He said that would be easier on everyone than constantly worrying between dr.'s appts. Plus, if I m/c, I will want to do it naturally anyway...and I got a lot of grief from my OB last time about that.  So I will probably wait until my 2nd trimester (if we make that far praying.gifbefore seeking care.

 

KaliShanti-   You offered your brain for picking! Soooo...when do you think the prenatal care visits become essential?

 

If it was up to DH, we would wait until the 3rd trimester and only so we can make sure we have an OB lined up.  He feels like other things we can track on our own until then -- such as blood pressure and sugars.

 

Also, he thinks ultrasounds are unnecessary, but since I will be trying for a VBAC, I pointed out that we need to make sure my placenta is in a good spot. What do y'all think about ultrasounds? I know the 20-wk is a big one, but is it necessary?  For DS, they saw a problem with his kidney at the 20-wk, but told us not to worry about it, that it would probably go away. How were we not going to worry!?! Fortunately, it did go away.

 

 

post #26 of 83
I'm going to try to get my first appointment around 10 weeks. I lost my last two, and DH wants me to get the early ultrasound just to make sure everything is ok, so I want to put it off until we're more likely to actually see something. I don't want to freak out for no reason just because we went in too early.
post #27 of 83
I actually went in today b/c I had some spotting last night and this morning. Everything is fine and I saw the baby's HB. smile.gif I'm 5 weeks 5 days.
post #28 of 83

Hi Lilac! Congrats by the way!!! I'm the end of Nov, but I hang out here too since our DS was born at 41+3 I suspect this one might wait until Dec :) Just wanted to share what we decided about the whole "could be twins" and "don't want to do all the u/s" thing. After 3 betas our clinic dismissed me from their care because I did not want even one u/s. The nurse couldn't give me ONE good reason why I needed one, and just fumbled for an answer. My Dr. wanted us to do one just to confirm the location of the pregnancy. I agreed that if I was having signs of an ectopic pregnancy I would go in right away, but if I'm not having any signs that something might be wrong, I wasn't comfortable with even one u/s.

 

We are again going with a home birth midwife. We will wait until 12 weeks ish to hear the heart beat when it can be heard with a doppler. We did and injectable IUI cycle that resulted in 4 follicles so there is also the chance I could be pregnant with multiples. My betas weren't quadrupling and weren't crazy high, and intuitively at this point I feel there is only one. But, if we hear 2 HB's we will most likely have to transfer care to an OB since twin homebirths are nearly illegal and incredibly hard to loophole your way around in the state we live in (to my knowledge and according to the midwives I have spoke to, none of which will attend a twin home birth).

post #29 of 83

Oh, Sila!  So great to see you here. I have never been pregnant before so I am not sure I would even know what ectopic pregnancy symptoms would be.   My IVF coordinator said that they don't measure the thyroid function/free T4 until 4 to 8 weeks gestation. Right now my post procedure ultrasound is scheduled for 5 weeks 3 days gestation. I don't think we will see much, probably not even a heart beat yet.  I will have to talk it over with DH and decide if we will change the date of the ultrasound, but I would rather have one when they can actually see something meaningful, not just a blob of baby cells. I can't wait for my baby to grow bigger.

post #30 of 83
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KaliShanti-   You offered your brain for picking! Soooo...when do you think the prenatal care visits become essential?


 

 

Around end of first tri, beginning of second. :)

post #31 of 83
I had my yearly pap app yesterday, and it turned into my first prenatal smile.gif I knew before the appt but only by days so I still went. I'm not planning on sticking with the ob though, I'm planning on a home birth this time and will go with a midwife. I'm moving from Michigan to Wyoming in July so I guess I will see her then
post #32 of 83
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Originally Posted by emski4379 View Post

I actually went in today b/c I had some spotting last night and this morning. Everything is fine and I saw the baby's HB. smile.gif I'm 5 weeks 5 days.

Yay! orngbiggrin.gif
post #33 of 83

My first appt and u/s is on the 23rd. I can't wait! I'll stop stressing so much I think once I see the heartbeat...... and it is with a new OB at an awesome birth center, so I am excited about that :-)

post #34 of 83
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My first appt and u/s is on the 23rd. I can't wait! I'll stop stressing so much I think once I see the heartbeat..

 

That's what I'm telling myself. I had my first appointment yesterday at 5w2d. We only saw the gest. sac and the yolk sac. I do know it is too early to see a heartbeat at this point but I still made myself all nervous. The next one is on the 23rd and I think once I see the heartbeat praying.gif , I'll relax a bit (then I can start stressing about making it to 12 weeks).

 

I've changed doctors this time around, my last OB seriously lacked people skills and had me in tears at some point. My new OB is friendly and nice but she's relatively young. I'm not going to hold this against her seeing most pregnancies are run-of-the-mill matters and there's anyway an older more experienced OB in the same practice to fall back on.

post #35 of 83

I wont be seeing a midwife until June 5th. I will be 14-15 weeks. I am in the process of moving so I am waiting until I get to my destination. I think I will be getting an u/s before then though (even though I didn't want any) because my 3 year old is convinced I have "babies" in there, frankly he's making me a bit nervous and obsessive, lol. Since this is my 6th pregnancy and twins run in my family there is a chance. I'd rather know sooner than later so that I can prepare for a home birth and also have a back up plan just in case!

post #36 of 83
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Originally Posted by SrkStrickland View Post

I wont be seeing a midwife until June 5th. I will be 14-15 weeks. I am in the process of moving so I am waiting until I get to my destination. I think I will be getting an u/s before then though (even though I didn't want any) because my 3 year old is convinced I have "babies" in there, frankly he's making me a bit nervous and obsessive, lol. Since this is my 6th pregnancy and twins run in my family there is a chance. I'd rather know sooner than later so that I can prepare for a home birth and also have a back up plan just in case!

smile.gif my 2 yr old was so convinced I had more than one baby... Never have though!
post #37 of 83
I haven't made any appointments yet. I'm kind of in denial of the fact that I don't have any choice about going back to the hospital where I had my very traumatic and only other birth experience.

I'm basically freaking out.
post #38 of 83
Thread Starter 
(((Hugs))) Herbivora! I hope we can find you another option!
post #39 of 83
Thank you - I'm working about it, thinking of my options.

No midwives in the area, but there is a doula or two.

Honestly, my heart tells me to birth at home unassisted but there is a lot of fear with that idea.

I went for the blood test to confirm the pregnancy. So it begins.. the fight to get people to actually believe what my body is telling me. What a freaking waste of time and energy.
post #40 of 83
Thread Starter 
I feel you: I just found a good option today but I have OPKs & charts this time & I am vowing they will not change my due date!
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