I need some advise. It would be great if you guys can help me figure out what is right and am i doing something wrong?
I have a 3 year old who is very verbal. He loves his cars and can indulge in imaginative play with his match box cars. He absolutely loves his cars. He loves when i tell him stories or when i read to him. He does not read yet. Nor does he shows any interest in writing. But he plays plays and then plays some. He loves to watch you tube videos on cars but I allow it for only 30 min while he eats his food. I do tell him a lot of imaginative stories and about things around us. But he is definitely not into worksheets, flash cards and charts. When I try to teach him 1+1=2 and ask him to tell it back to me he says something silly like "1+1=fa fa"(it is hilarious to him) and laughs out loud. I also him a lot about opposites and rhyming words but I do it practically like when we are playing. Like "this is dry" and "that is wet. They are opposites". I don't get any specific flash cards or something.
I live in a extended family. My nephew on the other hand is drilled on addition charts, multiplication charts and other math concepts. Then he is shown some educational kid program mes like "Team Umizoomi". My son watches them too but I limit his TV time even if it is an educational program. Is this wrong. My nephew is border line autistic and has a good memory and is very clever because he even learns the multiplication charts and he is only 4 years old. He is not very verbal though and can't play on his own and always needs to be engaged and gets bored if he is not engaged.
My son on the other hand fools around making his own silly songs, playing imaginatively with his cars and all the time being verbal and keeps on asking questions. How can I get my son to be serious about academics. He always tries to be independent and when i try to hold his hand to teach him to write or use siccors he just snatches away his hand from mine and tries to do it on his own and gets frustrated that he can't do it and leaves it. How am i to teach him if he does this.
But my sons teachers tell me he does well at preschool. No worries with him. Listens to instructions and lets the teacher show how to do things. Why this split personality with me at home?
Should i let him watch more educational TV or leave him to play. Of course sometimes i interact with him when he plays and sometimes he prefers playing on his own with his cars. He is also very social and though not a very physical strong person he is active and likes to jump and run around.
I am only concerned about his academic interests or lack of. Should i also start doing charts with him. My brother in law , they get a lot of educational stuff/toys for my nephew and drill him on those. Should i also do the same. The only toys I get till now for my son are his match box toys/ Lego's and he is happy with them.
Please let me know if I need to do anything more.