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post #441 of 734

Joanie, how are you doing?  As for your sister's friends, can you say anything to her to impart to them the craziness and increased risk of major surgery of the situation?  What does your sister think about it all since she's telling you about it?

post #442 of 734
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Get this---- My sister out in California has several pregnant friends who have been/are planning to be induced and/or schedule c-sections because their doctors scared the heck out of them with warnings about their babies being too big to birth naturally in their own time. By that I mean, they're telling these women at 37 weeks that their babies are 8 lbs already so they MUST come out early or else they will be 10+ lbs by their due date and shatter the mom's pelvis or cause shoulder dystocia during childbirth. WTF??? One of the women even got a second opinion from a more specialized place to measure the fetal weight, and they said the baby was only 6-1/2 lbs at 37 weeks, but her OB/gyn called BS on it and insisted the baby is over 8 lbs so convinced her to schedule a c-section for next week. Of course the c-section is a few days before her due date since this doctor doesn't work on that particular due date. There is so much that feels wrong about all of this, it makes me ragey! At least this baby is coming out around 40 weeks..... whereas one of the other women was induced at 37 weeks for literally no reason other than a fear of birthing a large baby. Neither of these women had gestational diabetes. It's literally a fear over big babies. I'm scratching my head over here.

First of all- jaw.gif SECOND of all- Cuss.gif And lastly.... shake.gif

post #443 of 734
The doctor here kind of did the same thing to my sister. She offered a schedule csec because she was convinced my sister couldn'tdeliverwhat she was sure was going to be a a 10lb baby. My sister asked if she could try vaginally first and the doctor let her. She had her 8lb3oz boy vaginally.
post #444 of 734

I'm doing fine today. Whew. The allergic reaction was limited to rashes.

 

My first thought about the whole birth weight fear thing is this---- Why do these doctors think that a baby is for sure going to gain upwards of a pound a week until birth? And why is a due date a deadline? It's not like there's some magical formula set in stone that says your baby is going to continue growing monstrously until it's out, and it'll all be head and shoulder mass too. Babies are humans; their body mass is distributed in different ways. No guarantee the head and shoulders will be an issue!

 

My sister told me about all of that stuff because she's been kind of freaking out about baby size after her friends told her these happenings... I reassured her it's nothing to worry about. Her doula, midwife, and hypnobabies leader all calmed her fears too. As for the friend with the scheduled c-section, my sister knows that nothing she says is going to change her friend's mind at this point, so she's just letting it go... This particular friend hasn't taken too kindly to my sister's natural-mindedness with a lot of things. In the meantime we're placing guesses on what the baby's weight will end up being (I know, it's so wrong of us...) Sheepish.gif

post #445 of 734
Thread Starter 

Ive been fantasizing about weaning and sleeping alone...

 

Where did the attachment parent in me go?

 

Anybody else?

post #446 of 734
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

Ive been fantasizing about weaning and sleeping alone...

 

Where did the attachment parent in me go?

 

Anybody else?

 

Yeah, they are 17 months. If I weaned now, I wouldn't lose any sleep. Sleeping alone is a beautiful thing. I'm mostly down to only nursing Jasper once a night, around 4-5 am. I'm up by 6. He nurses when I get home from work and right before bed. Sometimes he skips the before bed feeding. On weekends, he may nurse a bit more. I'm full on "don't offer, don't refuse." Wellll..... actually, I guess I refuse a bit at night. I feel like I can still be very AP even if I wean my toddler before he is 2. I mean, we're not talking about 6 week olds here! 

 

The only feeding that is super important to him is when I get home from work. I can see that lingering for a long time. That's ok with me!

post #447 of 734
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Ive been fantasizing about weaning and sleeping alone...

 

Where did the attachment parent in me go?

 

Anybody else?

I'm ready to wean. I think Levi is too, he just gets thirsty and won't take a sippy cup yet. We've transitioned Levi out of our bed and into his (right next to our bed, at the same level) so maybe when he's weaned he'll go in the kids' room. This is around the time Casey was in a toddler bed. And then we got the bunk bed when she was 21 months old.

post #448 of 734
Thread Starter 

You guys make me feel better.  Thanks. 

 

My husband is encouraging me to wean B.  He doesn't see it as a nutrition thing anymore (its not, its solely comfort).  We both know it will help her sleeping, and independence...but in typical last kid fashion, this is my last baby and the thought of being done gives me mixed emotions.  Not about being done having kids, but about being done breastfeeding. 

 

Decisions, decisions.

post #449 of 734
Okay. For those of you that have moved as an adult with family, how did you start? DH FINALLY agreed to moving, and I'm all over it, but I have absolutely no idea where to start... I'm so scared/excited!!!
It has to be where there is a Berry Plastics, that's where DH works... There's one in Sarasota, FL and he said he's always wanted to live there. I don't even care where we end up.
post #450 of 734

How early do you think it's okay to transition to a toddler bed? I wonder if we should set one up for Sora in her bedroom and give her the option... She sleeps so well in her crib, but lately she hates the initial being placed into it..... maybe it's just a phase. Her room isn't very "comfy" for a bedtime routine. She doesn't want to sit in the room at all to wind down. She hates the glider rocking chair in there and refuses to sit with us. So I'm wondering if a big kid bed would make things more friendly so we can actually sit together in her bed to read books and chill out. Another option I'm entertaining is getting a big comfy armchair to cuddle up in.... though I don't think we can afford that quite yet.

post #451 of 734
Becky, Shay takes an open cup, so does Soren, but only at the table because he still spills.

Nicole, didn't you just buy your house? Moving was no fun for me.


I don't think Shay is ready to wean. He is very attached to nursing, he gets nutrition with his comfort and the immune stuff, I suppose. He switches sides as much as I allow and my supply is still large.
post #452 of 734
It's been almost a year since we bought our house.

I want to try a toddler bed, too, because Conner takes himself to his room when he's tired... But he can't put himself to bed. DH doesn't want to try it yet. O.o
post #453 of 734

Nicole, I would seriously look into how much you can realistically sell your house for before making any moving decisions.  Speaking as a frequent mover and home buyer, selling a house SUCKS and if you're going to lose a ton of money doing it (don't forget those pesky 6-7% realtor fees and possibly paying the buyer's closing costs!) then it's really not worth it if you can wait and recoup some of your equity.  Moving is also extremely difficult and expensive.  Since you aren't being forced to move right this second, I would really advise taking your time, thinking about where you'd like to live long term taking into consideration being near to family and/or friends, the weather, the schools, amenities in the community, like minded people, surrounding cities and amenities, etc. etc.

 

Joanie, dd was in her own queen sized bed at 8 months old (next to ours) and in her own room at 2.5 years.  Austin was in his own bed at 19ish months and in his own room at 21 months.  I would put Avery in his own bed at this point if he wasn't waking so freaking much and I'd move him to his own room if he were night weaned.  We'll be working on these things over the summer.

 

Ash, yes, physically I'm totally ready to wean.  I'm tired of it.  I'm tired of him crawling all over me and demanding nursing, hitting me, pinching me, etc. while he's nursing, and waking up all the freaking time at night.  Emotionally, I'm not really ready to be done b/c he's my last and I weaned Austin at 17 months and always felt it was way too early.  Plus, he doesn't eat a ton of solids, just bits here and there so I know that he is still getting most of his nutrition from breastmilk. So I'd like to go until about 2 years with Avery, but I'd like to cut way back.  Logically, I know it's his teeth that is making this really suck right now.  So I'm trying to just stick it out until all those teeth come in and he can calm down.  I also think as the weather improves that he'll be more distracted running around and playing outside so won't feel the need to come find me to nurse as much.  And when the academic year is over next month dh will have more flexibility and will be able to take a more active role in distracting Avery and putting him down for nap and bed so I don't have to nurse.  And, as I mentioned above, we'll be working on night weaning, too.  You're definitely not alone!

post #454 of 734

Nicole, I would talk to financial advisers about that before you do it.  Like Jaimee said, you will have significant costs associated with selling your home, and might be on the hook for repairs depending on inspection and negotiations.  That is a giant stress that you do not need during pregnancy or the first few months of having a baby.  Moving at this time in your family life seems like it would be very, very stressful.  I am buying a house and I am not pregnant, nor do we have to move (we are buying the house we rent) and it is INSANELY stressful.  Additionally, until you have owned the home for 2 years you will not get the capital gains exemption and you will be taxed on any profit- that is, if you actually make a profit.  Have you checked housing prices in FL?  I think you can start thinking about moving as a longer-term goal, like in 2-3 years, but then you also have to consider the other implications of moving, like the cost to get your stuff from point A to point B (I can tell you it is thousands of dollars) as well as the fact that you won't have free childcare in FL.  

 

I am not ready to wean.  It doesn't bother me much, except for night feedings.  His teeth are almost all in (all are cut through, the incisors are wiggling their way in) so I think night weaning will be a reality very soon.  I have tried not to offer at night but it doesn't go over well sometimes.  I was an emotional wreck when I weaned my now-4-year-old, and that was when he was 22 months old.  I think I will keep at it for a while longer.  


Was anyone's kid(s) up a crazy amount last night?  It's a full moon and that always affects my kids' sleep.  It was an absolutely horrendous night.  

post #455 of 734
Thread Starter 
Oh no way, B slept the best she has in weeks! She woke up at 1145 right after DH got home from work and he got her to sleep in her crib again, where she was until 5am. It was amazing!
post #456 of 734

Ash,  nono02.gif sleepytime.gif

post #457 of 734
Thread Starter 

Hey...its ok....I'm sure tonight she will wake up 45 times and scream in my face for an hour like usual thumb.gif

post #458 of 734

It wouldn't be something that'd happen while pregnant/having a newborn. And I know that selling our house isn't realistic right now... He just got me all excited that he actually finally agreed to it, so I figured if I start out small and slowly put stuff together, it'd be a smoother transition... Definitely not something I'd do overnight... But it's something I want to do before kindergarten.

 

Conner slept TERRIBLE two nights ago, but last night... He slept 730p-9a. But the night before, he was literally up every hour until DH climbed into his crib with him and got him to stay asleep (Conner won't sleep in our bed, at all.).

post #459 of 734
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

Okay. For those of you that have moved as an adult with family, how did you start? DH FINALLY agreed to moving, and I'm all over it, but I have absolutely no idea where to start... I'm so scared/excited!!!
It has to be where there is a Berry Plastics, that's where DH works... There's one in Sarasota, FL and he said he's always wanted to live there. I don't even care where we end up.

You might not care right now, but you might later. I was 19 years old(now 23) and 20-something weeks pregnant when we moved 300+ miles away from family and I was ready to be GONE. Now, I want to move 200 miles closer and there is an opportunity to do so. I miss my sisters so bad.

post #460 of 734
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You might not care right now, but you might later.

truedat.gif  When dh and I moved to Arizona I was SO happy to be away from home, but after I had been a parent for a while (especially after I had two kids), I wanted to be closer to family again.  The help is so appreciated.

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