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post #481 of 734
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Originally Posted by seraf View Post

Being anti-time out for toddlers, how about detention in elementary school?


I think that depends on the age and what they did... Obviously a 5th grader is going to have better understanding of right/wrong than a kindergartner will.

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Teeth: yes, lots of gaps here.  But my FIL has a huge gap in his front teeth and so did I, so I'm hoping it's not that, but just toddler teeth.  Brushing... we are horrible at that.  Avery gets his brushed a few times a week.  Sometimes we have to turn him upside to to do it.  While good dental hygiene is important, genetics play a huge role.  If you've got good teeth, I wouldn't worry too much about how often a toddler is getting his teeth brushed.  It gets a lot easier when they are just a bit older.

 

Time outs for toddlers?  Um, no.  That's a place that needs a new discipline philosophy.  I wonder if the other parents know?

post #483 of 734
I am awful about brushing KJ's teeth. Just awful. I think she chomps on her toothbrush for a few seconds like 3 times a week. She hates it when I try to brush her teeth for her, song or no song. She likes to brush my teeth though, so that counts for something...?
post #484 of 734
And I think detention is ineffective at best (but I have lots of opinions about punishment in general that go against convention). Kids acting up at school usually need to talk. I know there is no money/time/resources and that's a problem in our education system that is so massive I am exhausted just bringing it up, but bottom line is that kids don't need more punishment. They need dialogue, respect, and constant communication. In my humble opinion.

Amanda - the toddlers in time-out thing makes me want to cry. When are you done with that place?
post #485 of 734
Time-out, rarely even used for my 4 year old. I pretty much only use it for her when she is physically out of control. I don't really call it time out, just a place for her to calm her body down. Out of frustration, I tried to stick Greta in the corner recently (she is in a huge hitting phase right now and it's driving me batty!). Yeah, she laughed at me and ran away. Obviously didn't work, although I knew it wouldn't.

Moving, I am no help. I sometimes have the fleeting desire to get out of here, but it doesn't last long. I watched most of my siblings move away, leave the state or joing the military, only to be constantly yearning for the day they could come home again. They have all moved back now. All our family is here, we are all very close. Our group of friends is like family to us and we have known most of them since high school or before. So yeah, we're staying put.

Greta loves to brush her teeth. She does it a couple times a day. Mostly I just hand her her toothbrush with a dab of her toothpaste on it. She chews on it and periodically climbs on her step stool to "spit" in the sink. It is hilarious to watch her! I really need to catch it on video. Other than that, I try to get the toothbrush in there a few times a week. She much prefers to do it herself. She will disappear into the bathroom and show up at my side with her toothbrush and toothpaste. I don't fret about doing a thorough job right now. Really, it's probably been in the last year we got really serious about brushing DD1's teeth on a regular basis. We're such bad parents!
post #486 of 734
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Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow View Post

Arg!!! This morning when I dropped Jasper off at his daycare (the old one that I don't love), the teacher made two kids go to time out. One 18 month old for standing on a chair and another kid around the same age for touching Jasper on the head with a book. Grrrr!!!!! I so do not agree with that. If they put Jasper in time out, I will lose it. Luckily for me, he is very timid and quiet. I won't say well behaved, because they are all too freaking young to be well behaved! But he doesn't call any attention to himself. I want to tell the director that I do not want him put in time out ever for any reason, but he'll only be there for one more month. Sigh. 

 

Um... I'm not crazy cakes here, right?! You guys would be pissed too, wouldn't you? 

Grr!!! It's actually protocol (here in Montana, at least) to NOT put the children in timeout and not to tell them "don't" or "no".

post #487 of 734
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

Gaps between teeth are not only normal, but wanted. It leaves plenty of space for adult teeth. My kid who didn't have gaps gets braces next year :/

I'm terrible about brushing B's teeth :/. I do it probably like every other day. I need to work on that.

When I took Casey to the dentist this February, they were really concerned about the lack of spacing of her teeth. They're all tight together. She may need braces later on. I guess I'll save my pennies for the orthodontist bills.... As for Michael and Levi, well, you've seen that adorable gap Levi has in the front. lol.gif And Michael's teeth are well spaced and at 6 years old, losing baby teeth, his other teeth are growing in very aligned and well-spaced.

post #488 of 734
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Originally Posted by Becky Wheeler View Post

When I took Casey to the dentist this February, they were really concerned about the lack of spacing of her teeth. They're all tight together. She may need braces later on. I guess I'll save my pennies for the orthodontist bills.... As for Michael and Levi, well, you've seen that adorable gap Levi has in the front. lol.gif And Michael's teeth are well spaced and at 6 years old, losing baby teeth, his other teeth are growing in very aligned and well-spaced.

 

Yeah, DD1's teeth don't have a whole lot of space between them, although they used to when she was a baby. As she has gotten the rest of her teeth, they have gotten closer together, particularly on the top. I had horribly crowded teeth and bad cross-bite. When Greta grins really big, I can see that she has my cross-bite. Lovely. Luckily, DH's dental insurance has an option for orthodontics and my sister works as an orthodontics assistant. Her job has gotten my brothers and sisters some pretty good discounts for their kids, so hopefully we'll get the same when the time comes. DH has pretty straight teeth, but he's totally blind as a bat. I have the bad teeth and good eyes. We were really hoping they'd get his teeth and my eyesight, but I don't think we lucked out when it comes to the teeth. We'll see about the eyesight. DH was in kindy when he got his first set of glasses.

post #489 of 734
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Originally Posted by Becky Wheeler View Post

When I took Casey to the dentist this February, they were really concerned about the lack of spacing of her teeth. They're all tight together. She may need braces later on. I guess I'll save my pennies for the orthodontist bills.... As for Michael and Levi, well, you've seen that adorable gap Levi has in the front. lol.gif  And Michael's teeth are well spaced and at 6 years old, losing baby teeth, his other teeth are growing in very aligned and well-spaced.

Yeah, Ari had no gaps and her teeth are coming in behind each other like a shark.
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Amanda, I'd be bummed about the time out, but at least you know Jasper is unlikely to get a time out.  My hunch is that the kid who got the time out broke the camel's back by standing on that chair; I'm guessing he is a tough one for the teachers.  If Jasper flies under the radar, he'd probably never get time out, even for the same infraction as the other kid.  Still, time outs don't work, are ridiculous, and did anyone mention DON'T WORK, especially for toddlers!?!?!?

 

Nicole, I think you've received some good advice and food for thought about a potential move.  If you are planning to move to coincide with Connor going to kindergarten, schools would be high on my list of priorities.  Also, I think travel costs to visit family are a big deal if you have to fly.  Four or five plane tickets can add up. 

 

Jaimee, thank you for your advice with the Diva cup. Sometimes, I get it to work perfectly, but other times, it leaks.  Today is my heaviest flow day, and I've had to empty it out nearly every time I go to the bathroom, so the 12-hour time frame isn't really working for me.  But other than that, I am a total convert.  I could never go back! 

 

So, I finally signed the contract for the school up in Massachusetts and mailed the tuition check, so we are definitely moving.   We interviewed the last of the brokers to list our home.  It is completely and totally nerve wracking, and the house isn't even on the market! 

post #491 of 734
We had a lovely day today! It didn't rain, it usually does whenever dh has the day off! We went to feed the ducks and just hang out in the park, and the on the other end of the park across the street there is diner that serves really awesome soft serve ice cream smile.gif it was so lovely. Also got good news, my dh got a temporary full time position at his work, which is great -he is employed as casual, so he does tend to get full time hours, but it is never certain what shifts he works, or what days. Now it is a lot more structured for us and we can plan life a bit better...

My dh has major baby fever lol.... His brother and SIL are having another baby girl in September and my dh kept saying while we were at the park, that he really wants another baby.... I am on the fence though. I am trying to lose more weight, but I am an emotional person and food is my fix unfortunately... I am trying to eat healthier and not eat when I feel down or upset. I do not want to start my pregnancy at the weight I am at, I am back to pre-pregnancy weight but not where I want to be. So I am going to have to work harder at loosing this weight so that we can ttc in the summer. I do think it is cute that he is so excited to have another baby smile.gif
post #492 of 734
Sonja, I gained about 10 pounds over the first year after Sara and I got together. TTC was my motivation to lose the weight. I lost it over the two months before I got pregnant. I gained it all back within days of getting my positive pregnancy test. Lol. For me, losing that weight did nothing to start my pregnancy on the right note. I could have just stayed where I was and I probably would have hit the same top weight. I did come back down to my pre-Sara weight when Shay was about 9 months old.
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I got pregnant with Eli, a month after I lost my job.  I was heavier than I wanted to be - I was so emotional about the job loss and it was rainy and cold.  I am working on loosing weight and I know I will probably just gain it back while pregnant but I would like to be down lower before getting pregnant.  I only gained 7lbs when I was pregnant with Eli... much because I am a fluffy Mamma;) and I was just eating really healthy.  Weight has always been an issue for me.  I walk 5km every day with Eli ... so it is not that I sit on my butt every day redface.gif just need to eat better.

 

Allergy season is in full swing here.  Itchy eyes and lots of sneezing since everything is flowering and there is so much pollen.  At least I can take antihistamines now that I am not nursing... yesterday was bad.  I must have sneezed about 30 times.... we were out for a long walk and were in the park.  Also, someone in our building washed their cat's sleeping blankets or something, and the washing machine was filled with cat hairs that didn't get rinsed out.  Despite the fact that I wiped the washer before putting our stuff in, there was still cat hair on the clean laundry after I pulled it out of the washer.  It didn't get dried because I only dry socks/underwear/etc and not my hubby's work clothes our my shirts and despite shaking it after I took it out, there were still visible cat hairs irked.gif.  I am super allergic to cats.. so that wasnt helping.

 

The weather is beautiful again... yay!

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Bummer about all the cat hair.

I know I'm already a heretic, but I don't think exercising helps us lose weight. It's good for us, but it's way easier to cut out a few hundred calories than to burn them off. Drastic dietary changes (going off wheat and dairy) and 1200 calorie diets are the only reasons I've ever lost weight.
post #495 of 734
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Yeah, I think fitness people usually say something like- healthy weight is 80% diet and 20% exercise or something like that. I have found it to be true. I can exercise all day but if I'm eating cake every night I won't lose a pound.
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I need the exercise for mental reasons lol.... I become a nutcase if I don't go out for a long walk wink1.gif since we have no car, and are trying to save money I also walk everywhere I need to go, which is great! Because we live in an apartment it is great for eli because I let him walk/run too along the way. Calorie cutting works too, which I am doing... Its just tiresome...
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While when you get down to it, weight loss or gain is a simple math equation of calories in vs. calories out,  there are a lot of little factors along the way like what types of foods the calories are coming from and how the body is using the calories ingested, etc. etc. which make the equation more complicated.  At any rate, when I exercise, I GAIN weight because, for me, exercising makes me more hungry so I ingest more calories and the exercise helps me put on muscle mass and of course muscle is much heavier than fat.  So that is another thing to consider.  If you're exercising a lot, you might be putting on muscle and losing fat, but not see the scale move or maybe see it even go up. 

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Yeah, I agree with those sentiments- I read an article about how exercise doesn't really help weight loss because our body wants to replace those calories and we end up binging on food and gaining weight.  Makes total sense.  Since I started running I want to eat ALL THE CARBS.  

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post #499 of 734
Calorie counting has always worked 100x better for me, too...
But exercising makes me feel better.
MyFitnessPal is great.

Also, why's it okay for DH to take a four hour nap yesterday but I can't even get an hour in today? I work both jobs, I want a nap. Ugh, he irritates me sometimes.
post #500 of 734
Exercise does make you feel better smile.gif besides, I love being outside and watching the world go by.
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