My eldest son Alex just turned 4 on March 13. He's a bright, fun and wonderful kid except: we've been having major behavioral issues for over 6 months now. I thought it was just typical "3" stuff, but am now becoming much more concerned...
He's been hitting, being mean, obstinate and generally uncooperative. He's even acting out in his new preschool that he's been attending for a little over a month now. So much so that the assistant teacher has now spoken to me twice about it. He's been hitting, being mean and refusing eye contact when discussing what the problem is.
We tend to be an attachment and positive discipline type family. We try to connect before correction, we redirect and yes we've used time outs plenty. Nothing is working, nothing is helping. After he's been behaving inappropriately he will sometimes say, "I was behaving like x because y."
He's doing well with his violin practice for whatever that's worth. He's a very bright child (when I had Sam, he told me what labor was and he was only 3!) and I have often read that bright kids can be very high needs and high maintenance. Is this true? How on earth can I deal with this and keep peace in the home? Lately it's all about surviving until bed time. It's not a good place to be.
Do I need to get him evaluated for something? If so, where? Is there something else I can do for him?
I've tried asking him what he needs and he shrugs his shoulders and runs off....
Any insight would be very beneficial. I just don't know what to do or where to go. Is there actually a problem or is this neuro-typical? It seems a bit extreme to me and I've nannied in the past and am a certified teacher.