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Next baby? Last baby? Birth Control?

post #1 of 46
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Let's talk post-baby birth control and/or family planning. Is anyone already planning for the next child? Will this be it for you? How do you plan to prevent if you planning to do so?

 

I'm considering the Mirena IUD again however I'm concerned about the potential affects of the hormones. Do they still make the copper IUDs? I guess I should probably figure that out. Does anyone have suggestions for more long-term but non-permanent birth control options? I liked not having to think about taking something every day and, even though we think this will be our last, I'm not ready for a permanent option.

post #2 of 46
I was all on board to get Essure, but can't go through with it, even though I know Calliope is it for us. I'm getting Paraguard, I'd love to do NFP, but I don't want to risk it lol.

ETA: Paraguard is a copper IUD smile.gif
post #3 of 46
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

ETA: Paraguard is a copper IUD smile.gif

 

Ooh! Happy to know the name. Thank you. 

post #4 of 46

We're done so my husband says he'll get surgery. If he doesn't do that right away we'll use our usual combination of NFP and barriers. 

post #5 of 46
Idk if this will be our only biological child or not... We def want to adopt either way tho. But I am waiting to see how she comes out first! Lol if I need a csection. Then this will be it! Cuz for every furture pregnancy I would need a cerclage placed at the end of the 1st tri, and would mostly likely require bed rest again and I just can't do 2 surgeries and bed rest per pregnancy, all while caring for another child/children. But... If she comes naturally, then I'd love to try again... But I have to wait at minimum 2/3 yrs because of the IC. It's weird to think abt BC because we will be married 7 yrs in July and have NEVER done anything to prevent pregnancy and this is our first baby! (3rd pregnancy, but both mc were in 2006) so part of me is like whatever, that's totally not needed... But then I know fertility is high right after having a baby! I wish I could take advantage of that and try again soon! But with the IC I don't want to risk losing a pregnancy cuz my body hasn't healed enough... So far we've just talked abt NFP with barrier methods. But we will see. If I decided to get something tho, I'd really have to research cuz I haven't been on any type of BC in like 10 yrs! Lol and that was just the pill...
post #6 of 46
I totally just had to google Wat an IUD was! Hahaha looks kinda creepy. Can u feel it? Never thought in a million yrs. after being told I'd never have a biological child, that I'd be worrying about birth control! Life.is.crazy.
post #7 of 46
I had the Mirena IUD for almost 4 1/2 years after my first. Loved not having my period. 😍 I never felt it, but occasionally my DH did. Some people say they are pretty hormonal on it, but I never noticed anything. I am pretty sure that is what I am going to go with again. Plus my insurance will cover it so I won't have any more monthly out of pocket. I want to ask my MW more about the differences and pros/cons with the Mirena vs the Paraguard, though.
post #8 of 46

We are pretty convicted on avoiding "controlling" this aspect as far as deciding we are done, so we definitely won't do anything permanent (probably ever) and nothing hormonal (wreaked havoc on my body and I'm still dealing with it nearly 10 years later) or internal.  I always track my cycles no matter what so I will continue doing that.  We WILL probably use condoms after baby until I start ovulating (then I can track it), but aren't picky about it because if God wants us to have another we'll gladly take it...but I'd prefer to be able to fully BF babe for the first year (I've never lost my milk during pregnancy but it seems that the earlier women get pg with another the more likely it is to happen, and that would be really difficult for me).  But otherwise....I feel like it is so far out of our hands anyway, having lost 7 of my 11 babies.  So that certainly has an effect on our decision to NOT stop, but it also effects how we go about it.  It's kind of one of those mind boggling things to me anymore and I've been trying to sort it out in my head for the last few years.

 

We also want to adopt once we have a large enough house.

 

Obviously we'd love a very big family. :)

post #9 of 46

Conservative use of NFP.

post #10 of 46
Last babe for us. I'm planning on trying Norplant.
post #11 of 46
I don't know if this is our last baby or not. I need to see how it goes with 3 kids first. It is our last until our circumstances change though. I do not want four kids in a 2 bedroom apartment and right now we cannot afford much else.

DH and I used NFP for 10 years before becoming unexpectedly pregnant. The next two weren't planned either. I feel something may be wrong with our NFP but I can't, or won't, do hormonal birth control. So we have to figure something else out.
post #12 of 46

We want one more, but not right away!  In a couple years.  We've always used a combination of condoms, withdrawal, and sheer exhaustion (ie, we're not even having sex because we're too tired), to pretty good effect.  So probably more of the same.

post #13 of 46
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Originally Posted by cyclamen View Post

We want one more, but not right away!  In a couple years.  We've always used a combination of condoms, withdrawal, and sheer exhaustion (ie, we're not even having sex because we're too tired), to pretty good effect.  So probably more of the same.

 

That's been about our approach, sometimes. orngtongue.gif

 

I have no idea what we're going to do, and DF doesn't seem interested in discussing it at all, so I'm not sure. I was on Depo between DD and DS, but I think that contributed to some of my weight issues, so I'm not too keen to do that again, and while I've taken pills before, I'm not sure about it right now, so... I don't know. DF hates condoms, though, so that's off the table too. I'm pretty sure this isn't our last one, so we won't do anything permanent.

post #14 of 46
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Originally Posted by BeanBean06 View Post

I totally just had to google Wat an IUD was! Hahaha looks kinda creepy. Can u feel it? Never thought in a million yrs. after being told I'd never have a biological child, that I'd be worrying about birth control! Life.is.crazy.
This will be my first IUD, but I've heard sometimes guys can feel the strings, but you can get them cut.
post #15 of 46

We have discussed birth control and ultimately decided that we will use NFP... to some extent. I already feel like this one is going to grow so fast that I can't keep up, so I can't bare the thought of waiting years to have another. I think we are generally in the mind set that we will continue having children for as long as God will bless us with them. I used to not think that I wanted a large family, and I know that it might change after I am worn down with one child, but as of now, I really want to see how things play out. 

post #16 of 46

I got the paragurad IUD after my 2nd miscarriage in 2008. So, I guess I had it in for almost 5 years. Even though it is non-hormonal, there are horrible side effects. I will never get one ever again! 
There is a really good mothering thread on this subject here: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/916122/copper-iud-and-side-effects 

I've always been sensitive to hormones, so I knew I could never choose a birth control with hormones. There is research going on right now that links the copper in the paragrad as an estrogen mimicker. They warn you ahead of time about in increased bleeding and cramping, but they don't warn you about the myriad of other problems it can bring up. 
By the 3rd and 4th year I had insomnia, anxiety, dizziness horrendously long bleeding (like 9-10 day periods with BAD cramps), and bad digestive cramping. All of this went away almost immediately after removal. I thought I was going crazy. My gyno said over and over that there was no way my symptoms were because of the IUD. We tested my iron levels and for allergies before I demanded that the IUD be removed. Sure enough, within a cycle, I was sleeping normally and no longer had any other weird symptoms. 

This is really annoying for me because my DP and I have struggled for years to find a BC method that works for us. I was a true IUD believer before all the horrible symptoms started. At this point, we know we want one more kid, and then I think it will be up to him to be fixed. We're young, so we have to really take that into consideration, but I know that there is not a BC method that I've seen yet that would work for my body. greensad.gif 

post #17 of 46
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post


This will be my first IUD, but I've heard sometimes guys can feel the strings, but you can get them cut.

 

We had problems with DH feeling the strings, so much so that I had it removed after 3 years (2 years early) so we could actually enjoy sex again.  The midwife that inserted the Mirena IUD showed me how to "train" the strings (which I think are actually very thin wires?) around my cervix so they wouldn't poke out.  I tried to do that but it was kinda hard to reach my cervix sometimes.  Cutting the strings might even make them more pokey because they won't curve around anymore!  With that said, I am sure it just depends on the anatomy of the couple as to whether you feel the stings or not - my friend had zero problems with her Mirena strings.  You can always have it removed which was much easier than the insertion.

 

I think we are going to stick to NFP and barrier methods for the near future.  Since my cycles are very regular, it works well for us.  But it was nice to not have to worry about pregnancy with the IUD...

post #18 of 46
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Originally Posted by twilight13 View Post

I got the paragurad IUD after my 2nd miscarriage in 2008. So, I guess I had it in for almost 5 years. Even though it is non-hormonal, there are horrible side effects. I will never get one ever again! 
There is a really good mothering thread on this subject here: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/916122/copper-iud-and-side-effects 

I've always been sensitive to hormones, so I knew I could never choose a birth control with hormones. There is research going on right now that links the copper in the paragrad as an estrogen mimicker. They warn you ahead of time about in increased bleeding and cramping, but they don't warn you about the myriad of other problems it can bring up. 
By the 3rd and 4th year I had insomnia, anxiety, dizziness horrendously long bleeding (like 9-10 day periods with BAD cramps), and bad digestive cramping. All of this went away almost immediately after removal. I thought I was going crazy. My gyno said over and over that there was no way my symptoms were because of the IUD. We tested my iron levels and for allergies before I demanded that the IUD be removed. Sure enough, within a cycle, I was sleeping normally and no longer had any other weird symptoms. 

This is really annoying for me because my DP and I have struggled for years to find a BC method that works for us. I was a true IUD believer before all the horrible symptoms started. At this point, we know we want one more kid, and then I think it will be up to him to be fixed. We're young, so we have to really take that into consideration, but I know that there is not a BC method that I've seen yet that would work for my body. greensad.gif 

 

My SIL has had a lot of problems with hers as well.  One thing that she has trouble with (that is really common with any foreign object being in the body, no matter what it is or why it's there) is biofilms.  It causes some trouble with discharge for her, and increases risks for infections which she's already prone to.  But she really shouldn't have been a good IUD candidate in the first place...she's just not concerned for her health at all so she doesn't really care, and just deals with the consequences as they come. :(  

post #19 of 46
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Originally Posted by BeanBean06 View Post

I totally just had to google Wat an IUD was! Hahaha looks kinda creepy. Can u feel it? Never thought in a million yrs. after being told I'd never have a biological child, that I'd be worrying about birth control! Life.is.crazy.

I was going to get the paragard too but it freaks me out that I couldn't stop taking it or take it out on my own. I heard it can give you really heavy periods and I have nice light periods and no cramps now.

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Conservative use of NFP.

This is us too probably. We think we will want one more for sure and something keeps telling me in 4 years I will want 'just one more' so we will just use NFP until then. If we had an oopsy that came earlier than that then DH will get his V after that one is born.

post #20 of 46
Thanks Twilight for posting that link. Interesting.
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