I have a 6 year old son who i stopped vaxing at 9 months due to dtap reactions. My ex never cared to ask or know what happened, and i dont think he knows that ds hasnt been vaxed since 9 months. Now ex is having a baby in May, and their ped says my ds needs a pertussis shot. This is not happening. I told ex of ds's reactions, and that ive done tons of research, and that dtap doesnt prevent transmission. He told me their ped wants to see a copy of what my ds has already had.
I really just want to tell them all to p**s off. But i cant start a war. I dont want to give them a copy of his shots, its not their docs business, and its not going to change anything. If anything she will just tell them he isnt adequaltey protected and that he needs more shots or some bs.
Im thinking of printing off all the studies I have of dtap inneffectiveness and serious reactions to the vaccine, and handing that to them. And saying something along the lines of, "here, and if your doc has a problem with it, you can call my doc." (my doc wouldnt necessarily back me up, but my doc is cool with nonvax parents)
This is such bs. my ex never cared before, and now suddenly because they are preg, they think they can start making medical decisions for my son, who they hardly know anything about medically speaking. Any advice on my plan? (i have a religious exemption at ds's school btw) Thanks!