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17-months old Still waking up 4-5 times/night, HELP!!

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My 17-months old son still wakes up , on a good night 2-3 times, on a bad night 4-6 times each night!  Sometimes, he's up for an hour or two tossing and turning.  He asks for me when he wakes up and wants to nurse.  If my husband goes to him, he starts crying and only wants me.  He's still sleeping in our room, but on his own mattress on the floor.  He used to sleep in our bed from 5-months to 10-months old. 

 

I'm seriously sleep-deprived.  All these waking-ups is taking its toll on me.  I'm always tired, have memory loss, don't have much energy during the day.  On top of that, have to take care of a sick husband.  I give anything for one night of uninterrupted sleep!

 

Anyone with similar situation?  Any suggestions, advice? Any experience to share?  I very much appreciate any comment.

 

Thanks a lot in advance!

post #2 of 6
Hi there,

My son was the same at 17 months and I needed a change. We started Dr. Jay Gordon's night weaning method and although my son, who is now 18 mos old, doesn't consistently sleep through the night, he does a few times a week. I just nurse him at bedtime as usual and comfort him without nursing if he wakes before 4am. From 4am on I nurse him if he wakes. Last night he woke twice around midnight and resettled with my hand on his back, and then slept til about 7am. Some nights are like this and some are worse....but these are the first 6 and 7 hour stretches of sleep we have had since he was born and we both feel so great after those nights. Anyway, there are other threads here about night weaning if you want to read more about it. Good luck!
post #3 of 6

I second Dr. Jay's method. But, also, try and remember that this isn't going to last forever. Both mine slept awful until they were 2. Now they sleep great. I promise it will get better! :) 

post #4 of 6

Hi mama,

I can totally relate-- my DS (now 3) woke up 3-6 times a night until he was 27 months-- at which point we weaned completely. It was exhausting and really took its toll on me physically and emotionally-- although I don't know if I would have done anything differently. I tried many times at different stages to break the night-nursing cycle, but DS has always been more stubborn than most kiddos :) When he wanted to nurse, he wouldn't take any other form of comfort and got immediately hysterical if DH tried to soothe him. We tried Jay Gordon's method but it didn't work-- DS was inconsolable...

 

I slowly began weaning around 26 months and night nursing was the last to go. We had two or three really hard nights, but DS was ready on some level (or maybe I just tell myself that to feel better about it :/  ) DS now sleeps through the night most nights-- usually 8:00-7:00 (11 whole hours!!!!) When he does wake up it's because he needs a drink, or to go pee, or his blanket has fallen off. I feel like a new woman, honestly. But it took me a long time to recover from those two and a half years with interrupted sleep. I'm so glad I did it for DS, but it certainly took its toll on me!

 

**Please don't read this as me trying to convince you to wean your little one-- I'm not at all!! I just wanted to share my experience. Many other people I've talked to have had great success with Jay Gordon's method, and I would definitely give it a try (I did!!) And I know it may not be any consolation now, when you feel like a sleep-deprived zombie, but this stage will pass. I can't believe that I was nursing DS 6 months ago-- it feels like soooo far in the past. 

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DD was the same around that age, I think about 19-20 months old we started working on getting her to fall asleep in her crib rather than in-arms and that was the turning point for us. That got her to sleep all night some nights and wake up once or twice on others. Amazing! We aren't nursing but after drinking her warm milk we do snuggles and rock in her chair, then DD goes in her crib and I sit beside her on the floor till she falls asleep. Getting her a fuzzy pillow was what made her want to go in her crib rather than be rocked, but you could do the same with a stuffed animal or blankie or something like that. DD actually demanded to be put in her crib saying "pillow! pillow!".

 

Around the same time when she woke at night I would comfort her without picking her up from her crib - this won't work with nursing at night though! But I would give her hugs, rub her back, give her a drink of water, or hold her hand. She was upset for the first couple of days cause it was a big change but it was only for a few minutes each time and I was right there reassuring her and helping her get back to sleep. 

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I night weaned my daughter for that exact reason, I was sooo drained and resentful by morning. We did the Jay Gordon method as well and it was actually much easier than I thought it would be. DD seemed to understand that the milk was sleeping and would wake up when the sun comes up. She does still wake a few times a night but will usually take a cuddle and go back to sleep. Even though she still wakes throughout the night, I feel much less drained to not have to nurse. HTH!

ETA that when we did the weaning we just went right into no more nursing between 12-7, as opposed to the nursing to almost asleep the first few nights as Gordon recommends. For my daughter that would wake her up 100% so it was easier for her to just go straight to no nursing. She got the idea by the 2nd night and really stopped protesting by the 3rd.
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