My DS will be 3 in early June and these are my concerns.
-He does not speak at all. He has no vocabulary. We have had an early intervention counselor and within 5 minutes of walking into my home she told me that my son was autistic. I'm sorry but with coming in, introducing your self, getting all of you paperwork out and getting my son to sit down is not enough time to diagnose him with autism.
I did not speak until I was almost 2 and a half and neither did my DH. I was in speech therapy until I was in the 3rd grade for a very strong lisp. My DH was in speech therapy for stuttering and stammering. A few of my nieces and nephews as well. I am very mathematical and scientific. I love numbers and always have. I was never really good with language arts and spelling. My mother is a math teacher and both of her parents were engineers. My husband is great with numbers and words. He could have been a national spelling bee champion if he had the Patience to sit still. Even to this day he has to have something to do. We both multitask and have to keep busy.
-He does communicate in other ways. He will bring you a bowl, plate or cup if he is hungry or thirsty and will open the refrigerator and get out what he wants. He will bring you toys or books when he wants you to play or read with him.
-He understands very well. He can follow directions, for everything but "go get mommy a diaper" He wants to help cook and clean. He helps to organize his room and fold clothes. He also understands, "No, put that back where you got that from" and he will put it back exactly where he got it from.
-He is not potty trained however he loves to show me his potty and stand on it to turn on and off lights. He can pull his pants on and off, if they do not have a zipper, and show you where the potty is.
-He does play with his cousins however he usually is directing the play and everyone is following him. Even the 10 year old.
-He will spin but only if you do it first. He will line up toys but only when they make different sounds when he "drums" them
-He babbles, sings, and grunts.
-He knows the difference between emotions, however if some one is upset he will react as if they are mad at him and cover his ears.
-If he gets into trouble he will run to his room and throw his self on his bed.
-He will respond to his name event if you whisper.
-He is not far behind his cousin who is 10 months older than him, other than the talking thing.
-I can keep eye contact with him from 30 seconds to 1 minute at a time.
- I see the wheels turning in that little brain of his I just want him to be able to express like I know that he wants to. It breaks my heart everyday.
-I have this gut feeling that when his baby sister gets here this summer he will blossom again like he does with every learning spurt, just this time talking will be on the check list.
My question is this. I have spoke to his ped. and he said I am more than welcome to not use the early intervention program if I feel they are just attempting to diagnose my son with autism before she was event able to find out for sure. The ped. also said I am more than welcome to allow him to wade it out and see if he just "catches up" on his own.
Is there any method that some of you have found useful and have had children that were at a similar stage as my son is at this time. Thank you in advance.