My 2 year old's been hard to manage inside the home for forever now (out of the house he's a dream), but now that our new baby, who is 2 weeks today, came along, his behaviors are through the roof.
I've read the books and the stuff online about "what to do" when it comes to positive/gentle discipline, but it is so hard to actually apply these theories correctly when you have a newborn strapped to your chest who you have to nurse 24/7 and who also has needs.
DH is still home for the next 2.5 weeks and even then, things are so difficult- every day I just keep asking myself, how in the world am I going to manage this alone?
The main problems we have are:
1) my son's energy level- which is hard enough to deal with, as he needs constant stimulation and pretty much tears up the house looking for stuff to do despite having toys and our attention. In order to deal, we've turned to TV a lot lately, unfortunately, and now that the weather is nicer I take him out a lot during the day, but obviously we can't be outside all day long.
2) the typical toddler stuff- his most-used words are no, mine, and now- that has escalated because of new baby. Everything is a struggle...seriously, it is a fight with him all. day. long. over every little thing, and the time-outs, which we've been using a lot now to manage him, result in blood-boiling scream sessions with throwing, hitting, etc. and that makes me feel sad that it's come to that. I've tried teaching him to wait, I try setting limits, I try ignoring and just focusing on his positive behaviors but no matter what, it is a constant battle.
I think a lot of the issue aside from the new baby is the huge change in routine- suddenly DH and I are both home, but I'm not devoted to DS 100% anymore...plus, DH has a slightly different way of parenting than I do. I am trying to be sensitive to that and I want DS to feel successful but I worry that he feels the opposite since he is pretty much getting warnings/TOs for his behavior all day long.
Help appreciated from anyone who has BTDT!