I am suddenly realizing that we are a highly sensitive family. DH and I both have always been HSPs, DS (4.5) is, and I assume DD (1.5) is too, though it's hard to say for sure.
What I am wondering is if there are any others with an entire family in the HSP classification, and if there's any wisdom to share for family relationships and dynamic.
DH and I both get pretty easily flustered by DS, and we find our tone of voice getting a bit snappish more often that I'd like. We also both seem to need to withdraw/retreat when there is tension or too much wildness in our space. How can we be better about staying calm and patient and loving, rather than getting short with our son? Since I'm suddenly realizing ow very sensitive he is in certain aspects, I'm becoming flooded with shame and regret about how he's probably been feeling about our reactions to him. We don't ever aim to make him ashamed of himself, but try to help him be more aware of those around him and their need for space/safety. His exuberance is beautiful, but can be so exhausting. But he's young, and it's not like he's a problem child or anything. It's not his fault that his parents are also just easily overstimulated.
My realization of being HS, and the flood of childhood memories that come with is are really intense, and it makes me want to start all over from scratch with my whole family and see them with new eyes. I can't reverse time, but I definitely hope Ic an get past my own "selfish" needs for space and distance or find better ways to get that without ever shutting others out. As an HSP, being emotionally shut off from a loved one can be downright debilitating, and can cause soooo much stress and anxiety. It did for me, at least. The term "cortisol flooding" comes to mind. I think we all get a little too much of it around here from our reactions to one another. We need to learn some good, effective ways to manage ourselves and nurture one another ASAP.
Thanks for the space to let this out, and I welcome any and all wisdom/ anecdotes/ advice. For the record, we are an unschooling, AP, GD family.