Has anyone else had a CNM tell you that you do not need a doula and act like it's a silly idea? I was planning to deliver my first at home with a CPM but we had to transfer to the hospital; she highly recommended a doula and I had one and she was great (plus my husband, mother, and two midwives were supporting me at home). However, before I found the CPM I had interviewed a few CNMs who said I didn't need a doula, I would have them (midwives) by my side the entire time. At the time I didn't think to ask them what if they had more than one woman in labor at the same time (in the hospital). How could they support more than one woman at once? But I didn't stick with them, I went to the CPM and didn't give it another thought. Interestingly though, a friend of mine delivered with one of those midwives and THREE women were in labor all at the same time. Only one had planned to go to the hospital but the other two (one being my friend) who had wanted to deliver at the birth center had to go to the hospital as well since that is where the CNM was. I was so glad I didn't stay with them at that point!
So fast forward to now. I'm hoping to conceive #2 before the year is out. I have no idea if I want to try homebirth again. I also don't feel I just want to opt for a RCS. I want a VBAC but I am nervous now about a ride to the hospital during labor wondering if everything will be OK again. So I interviewed yet another CNM who only does hospital deliveries and she gave me the same line about not needing a doula. So this time I asked her my question about more than one woman being in labor and she told me that it rarely happens.
I guess I'm just so stumped by this. I just loved my doula so much and even DH said she was worth every penny. Maybe I just can't compare to my homebirth midwife/CPM since she was pretty hands-off and these CNMs are more hands-on.