To start my girlfriend and I are new parents. To clarify (if it matters considering it's a mothering forum) I am a male. My girlfriend was in a abusive relationship. The father of her child was physically, verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive towards her and their child. So one can only imagine the horrors these two have seen. But without divulging too much information I will get to my question. The father would leave with the son and would tell him not to tell mommy what they were doing. Oh I'm sorry, the child is 3 and half years old now. He was probably 2 when his father would say that. But since then she (and I) have difficulty getting him to talk about certain things. If he does something wrong and we ask he will look around and try to avoid the topic, he will repeat the last words of the question, basically anything to avoid the question of "why?". He is a very intelligent child. He speaks clearly, uses big words, and is very perceptive to his surroundings.
So, is this typical behavior or is it something to worry about because of what he has witnessed? My girlfriend is reaching her wits end and I really want to help out. If there are any additional questions to help the process please ask. I will answer as best as I can.
I apologize in advance for how poorly I put together everything, it's been awhile since I've visited any kind of forum. And I also apologize if it's the wrong forum.