And no, I don't mean the gender of our babies! Warning: This thread might start out with a whole lot of TMI!
I have, for the last two or three months, been wanting much more sex than I am getting! I awkwardly asked DP to make love to me one night. I put danced around the house half naked in candle light waiting for him to get home so I could seduce him one night. And pretty much other than those two times I don't know if we've had any other sexual encounters in two months. Whoa, really?! There may have been one or two morning sex episodes within that time frame, but really 2-4 times in 2 months is not okay with me!
Every time we have sex both of us comment on how it should happen more often. When I "seduced" him in the candle light he told me I should that do that every night he gets off work. I almost always tell him how much better my body feels and how open my hips feel after we have sex (I need all the hip opening I can get before Baby decides to come out!). But neither of us initiate sex very often (obviously).
I keep telling DP he needs to just make love to me because I don't feel sexy enough to initiate it half the time. I walk around the house naked all the time and do silly little belly bump dances, but it's not sexy. It's silly. And I don't mind being silly! In those moments I'm not necessarily trying to be sexy. But I wouldn't mind it if one afternoon while I am prancing around the house completely naked if he just grabbed me (gently and watching out for the belly) and made sweet passionate love to me!
Is that too much to ask for?
I know he finds me sexy, even with my ever growing belly. I think the fact that we can't quite have sex like we used to intimidates him a little. He doesn't want to hurt me or make me uncomfortable. But, in all seriousness, I need it! For both my physical and emotional well being!!
So ladies, tell me, how do you get things going with your partners? Should I really just take the initiative every time I want to get laid? Or is there something I can say to him to remind him that even though I am gestating our baby I still like the process of baby making? I'm not terribly frustrated by it as we still snuggle and smooch all the time and I get to sleep naked next to him every night, but it's definitely welling up inside of me and I might get to a point where I can't take it anymore and I end up getting upset because I'm not getting the physical (and emotional) satisfaction that I feel I need! And at that point I might be a huge pregnant woman with raging hormones and poor DP might get scared