I'm coming out of lurker status to ask the more experienced mamas out there - how can you tell the difference between a 5-week-old who's fussing an acceptable 5-week-old amount, and one who's in pain and needs you to do something differently? I've no experience with babies this little, and I'm torn. I don't want to fumble around trying to fix it if it ain't broke! But what if it is?
Overall, things are going embarrassingly well. My LO is gaining well, thriving, has only 2-3 wake ups each night. I have, if anything, too much milk. But she's fussy in the evenings, off and on. She's consolable; if you keep trying different positions, try swaddling her, try feeding, try a paci - SOMETHING usually works within just a few minutes. But it just rips me in pieces to hear her cry at all. She seems very gassy to me, and in the evenings (really only in the evenings), she'll arch and pull off the nipple and fuss. That, combined with my super supply, has a lactation consultant suggesting that I cut out all dairy. But...that's a big deal for me. (Long story short, I used to have eating disorder issues, and anything resembling a diet is a real trigger for me, especially when I'm rocking the new mommy belly.) I really would rather not if I can avoid it. She doesn't have frothy green poo, or any trouble at all in the morning or early afternoon. I can actually set her down and take a shower! She just stares happily at whatever's near or crib for a good 15 minutes before letting me know she's bored, and calms as soon as I pick her up.
I've also tried a few things that you're "supposed" to do - I've increased my already crazy supply by trying to get her on a flexible routine of having full feeds ever few hours, then made my nipples sore trying to get her to nurse every time I think she signals (turns out she really does just like sucking on her hand when she's not hungry)...
There's just so much contradictory info, so many ways to handle things, and so much pressure that she be constantly happy all the time. If she cries for more than a few seconds, I feel like I've done something wrong. Honestly, if I didn't know all about the health issues connected with formula feeding, I'd be ready to switch tomorrow! And I feel guilty for that, when we have it so good compared to so many mamas who are so dedicated to BF and just keep going against all odds.
I feel like this is more a mama issue than a baby issue. How can I chill out? What's good enough?