Hi everyone, I'm 39 weeks pregnant as a surrogate for a wonderful couple, they live about 2 1/2 hours away from me and plan to be part of the birth. I feel like my body is stuck and everyone waiting an anticipating the birth is inhibiting me I think. At my appointment with my midwife last Tuesday I was 4cm and 75% effaced. (wish she hadn't checked and hadn't told me!)
My midwife was convinced she'd she me that night, it didn't happen. It didn't happen all week. On Friday I was having a lot of back pain that I never had with my own babies, so I went in for a check and I was at 5cms 100% effaced. Walked the hall for an hour re-check and no progress so I went home. Once I got to sleep I slept though the night. I was fine all day Saturday. Yesterday I woke up from a nap (baby's parents were spending the weekend here and had just gone home) and I was having real contractions every 2-3 minutes. Normally I would have stayed home and labored a bit, but I went in for a check to see if anything was happening, notified baby's parents and they decided to make the trip back. Still the same. Walked for an hour and a half, nothing. Laid down for an hour, nothing.. so I was sent home with a sleeping pill and I slept thought the night, no more contractions. This is a whole new experience for me, I never experienced false labor before. I'm wondering if all of the anticipation about when baby is coming, whether or not baby's parents will make it, being on "stage" for baby's parents... ect, is making me hold back somehow. I've used all the relaxation techniques I know, and feel like I am relaxed but there must be something keeping this from happening.
Just wanted to know if anyone has experienced this before, I'm trying to just go about my business and not think about baby being born but apparently that is not working.