The problem I have with it goes deeper than whether a particular child wears a particular colour on a particular day, and can't be remedied that much by dressing boys in pink (though I did that!)
I have a huge problem with the genderisation of society. I don't believe we have two genders, and certainly not a binary sexuality, so I really have a problem with the whole concept of blue-boy pink-girl. I don't just have a problem with encouraging girls and boys to identify with certain colours but also with the idea that we fit into nice easy boxes like "boy" "girl".
I also think there is often an undercurrent of "boys who wear pink end up gay" and the trouble with these discussions (not on here I mean-in rl) is that they often end up on the defensive ("no he won't. My husband....". When actually what I've always said is, "and? so? do you have a problem with that, because I am his mother and I don't.". (avoiding, "yeah, right, because human sexuality is that straightforward").
The reason I think we actually have these two colours is twofold. First it feeds the social desire to segregate into girls and boys that a lot of people do seem to have. Second, its a real boon for anyone selling kid stuff. If you have two kids, a boy and a girl, you have to get two freaking lots of everything! Seriously, I've known couples with twins who actually buy two separate sets of cutlery (I mean I barely bought special baby cutlery anyway but still...), Two pushchairs! Two sets of Lego. Its a marketing dream.
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But on the other hand, it also irks me that the same people who would applaud me letting my DS wear pink may also scoff at my DD's sparkly pink wardrobe. I let them both wear what they like. IME, some parents seem more interested in subverting stereotypes than in letting their kid be who s/he is."
not having a go, I take your point. I've always steered my girls strongly away from this stuff but let them play/dress up in it if they really want to. But I'm not keen that they do, I feel like a lot of society is pushing them this way and its ok for me to push back. When I was a kid I was not allowed Barbie or Sindy dolls owing to my mum being a Greenham Common feminist and I was fine with it, I got why and I certainly didn't feel hard done by, but really quite proud that my mum had such strong principles.