My soon to be 4 year old boy (less then a month away) seems to be afraid of the dentist. When he was very young (about 1) he had to have major sedation dentistry and four caps put on his upper front teeth due to poor tooth integrity. They never really said what was wrong, but that his teeth didn't form well in utero. Anyhow, he's been to the dentist since then, probably around a year ago. Although my son seemed shy and a bit nervous at first, he did fine the 2 or three times we went. I started using a dentist closer to our house so, since my son is overdue for a cleaning, I took him in and he just DID NOT do well. He was nervous, tantrummed, got angry, cried, and basically just melted down onto the floor and would not get up, even to leave. The dentist couldn't even get a peek inside his mouth (he hid himself inside my coat) and I had to carry him out, flailing and everything. I was obviously frustrated, and sad that it went that way.
I feel like he has some real fears about his mouth (he usually only lets me brush his teethe bc he says that it hurts when dad does it. He doesn't go to daycare/preschool and basically only interacts with me, DH, and my parents (my mom watches him for about 5 hours 2x per week, and he does fine). He's pretty shy of strangers and usually responds "inappropriately" when ppl try to say hello (like he blows a raspberry or just makes a squeak and hides behind me. He's really quite a ham at home and I'm not sure if this is a phase or how to really go about drawing him out. His vocabulary is great and he normally speaks very well, but I guess he just gets anxious. I sometimes try to model for him or (before or after a situation) we practice basic interactionary dialogue. Is this normal? I've kind of gotten off my dentist question, but I wonder if its all related, or how to deal with this whole situation. Thoughts appreciated!!!!!!