I love this article, especially because my family is very culturally diverse and I ponder this very topic often. The article also gives a very good explanation of how "millenials" came into existence, if you think about it.
But our cultural values are not static and we will see a very different generation because of the financial conditions of Americans.
I was very happy to know when the article mentions how the vast majority of US parents consider stimulation to be the most important thing they could offer their children, that my answer was instead, predictability and emotional empathy.
But then, I was very impressed to be surprised when the article actually made me realize that I DO, deep down, have a borderline unhealthy focus on proving stimulation, because deep down it's the thing I always feel like my son needs more of. It's the nagging feeling in the back of my mind that he is being deprived of the right puzzle games with Mom. I was so certain I had risen above (outwitted) my pesky cultural attachments, darn it!
Additionally, the article made the point "indirectly" that my own focus on providing predictability and empathy could in fact deny my son the ability to cope with the unpredictable and self soothe. I'm sure for many parents a lot of it has to do with trying to provide what we ourselves didn't have growing up ourselves and wind up overdoing it.
That is why I try to make decisions consciously and not allow my fears to control the direction my parenting takes. I think this cognitive approach is actually a strength Americans have more than other cultures and it's good for our kids. I think it's possible to have both a cognitive approach and still follow one's instincts when needed.
Our culture does place a huge emphasis on intelligence, and we have many isolated, emotionally unintelligent behaviors and focuses nation-wide to prove it. The majority of Americans I know are lonely, cynical, and somewhat estranged from their close family. Most of our parents do not come to live with us when they get old, and many of us have one or more of our closest family members living out of state.
I'd be curious to know if anybody here has read the book the article's author published, Baby Meets World?