And we need to stop making moms feel guilty for the choices they make. One of my clients is pregnant for the second time. She had a home birth with transfer the first time around and had an unmedicated vag birth in the hospital. She got grief for planning the home birth from one side , and then grief from the other side for agreeing to the transfer.
Now she is left feeling that no one will really be supportive because they all have some part of her birth that supports their agenda.