Originally Posted by kellybeth
daddy is the fun one that bounces her around, sings silly songs, and takes her at night when she's cranky but not yet ready to go to sleep.
This. We joke that her names for us are Boobs and Bouncy. She's very attached to me, but I just can't jiggle her quite as perfectly as he can with his huge hands and big lap. He's also better at swaddling, darn him. I think it really helps to see each of us as having different roles. He's a diaper pro, takes 90% of the changes when he's around, and is the fussy baby whisperer. I'm the food source, burp expert, and...well, everything else.
We've had this mindset since before she was born; he did skin-to-skin the second hour, right after me, took her in the mornings while he was on pat leave so I could get a break, etc., but I don't know that it makes that much of a difference. Personality's such a huge factor.
To help your guy feel better, though, has he read the Happiest Baby On The Block? Karp talks about how much better dads are at the swaddle and shush, and it really made DH feel big and important. Also, there are bits in Sears' Baby Book about daddy's role. Just in case you/he haven't read them already.
Overall, yup, I'd say this too will pass! When DH does feel like he's missing out, I just remind him that in 2 years, he'll be Prince Charming and I'll be chopped liver. Never mind once she's a teenager, sigh. Maybe we should just enjoy this while we can??