Family size is a deeply emotional decision. My DH wants three (coming from a family with three) and I want two (coming from a family of two). After this past pregnancy I'm even more resolved to just have one more. I think after hubby supported me through a difficult birth and helped with the first aid on the pp hemorrhage he now is also on that page. I'm still very sad that the birth went like that. It's going to take me a long time to work through my new fears to do it again. I wanted to do about 2.5 years between siblings but am unsure now if I'll be ready. I'm not really sure how to tackle that fear. Maybe hypnobabies and some counseling?
this is so true! my husband wanted 4 (came from a family w/ 4) i wanted 5 (came from a family w/ 5), and while i know families w/ 14 kids, there is a check in my heart that it might not be what i'm called to do (but sometimes a realization that if that happens, i'd figure out how to bloom in that insane garden)! i did get a lot of healing from my first and most horrible birth and was so blessed by my second birth that i was really excited to have more. which was good since 10 months later i was pregnant w/ my 3rd.... there is a lot of healing that time and the joys of a child bring even after scary and horrible experiences.
as for baby only wants mama, my last was like that. for 12 months. no one else, she liked daddy, but felt safest w/ mama. i think it was 18 months before my husband got to really get to know her b/c she chose to interact w/ him. she's a holy social terror now- very extroverted, outgoing, independent, opinionated and adorable and she'll be 2 in a few days. this baby? naw, he's like all my others, unless he's hungry, people other than mama are great. he's so curious and interested and enjoys the different touches and voices and faces. he's usually home w/ me, so i don't know how it would be if he weren't w/ me all the time normally. if different people were the norm, he might prefer me, but since they're the great and rare exception, he seems to like them a lot.