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post #41 of 60

Name: Caitlin
Weeks Along:
Officially 8 weeks today

Feelings: Tired, nauseous, excited, anxious

Symptoms: tiredness and nausea

Next Appointment: Hopefully meeting with a midwife this coming Friday to see if she's the care provider we want to go with.

 

I've been having issues getting excited about this pregnancy because it wasn't planned and I just feel like it's coming at a bad time for us. My son is only 16 months old and I'm due right around his 2nd birthday. There's a 3 year gap between him and our daughter and we both felt that was good spacing so we had originally planned to wait until after he turned 2 before we started TTC again. DH is really excited though, probably more excited than he was about the other two pregnancies, and that has helped a lot. He finally figured out what I need from him while I'm pregnant and has been so patient and helpful and has really picked up the extra slack at home since I'm so tired and nauseous all the time. He insists that this is perfect timing because he just recently got a promotion and a raise and we're in the process of buying a house. I'm not excited to move while I'm pregnant but I've done it before so I guess I'll get through it again. I decided to watch The Business of Being Born the other day and that has really helped me get more focused on the pregnancy and get excited about another baby. I watched it all the time during my first pregnancy because it helped me re-affirm my decision to have a natural birth and it kept my confidence up. It was definitely a nice reminder of the joy that is coming our way when this baby arrives and it's getting me really excited for another homebirth.

post #42 of 60
Hi all- I've been on vacation for a week so I am exhausted, otherwise I would respond more!
Name: Jocie
Weeks: 9+2
Feelings: grumpy, exhausted, ready to go home and see my puppy!
Symptoms: vomiting 3+ times a day and constantly nauseous otherwise. Bleh!
Next appt: April 30! They're doing a sono at this one and I am so excited!
post #43 of 60

Caitlin - I'm 8 weeks today, too! :)

post #44 of 60
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Originally Posted by Meksmama View Post

 

Saara-  I know the feeling one reason DH didn't feel comfortable with us having a HB with DS was closest midwife was 1.5 hrs away. We had one MW open a practice since then only 45 minutes away. 

 

If she were up for it, I would be. Well... I think she'd be up for it if the region were up for it, but she's employed by the region & it's against policy. Long story short - IF I can have a mw-assisted birth, I'll have to go to her... and probably go to the hospital. So shitty. For ONCE, I'd love to have that homebirth I've always dreamed of. Oh well.

post #45 of 60

Chiming in with a solution for Saara. Plan a hotel "home" birth with the midwife for a town maybe half way for both of you. This is totally possible and people have done it! As long as she's on board. Prenatal care would still be a little tricky and perhaps you could continue to see your local care provider and agree to transfer all records to the midwife and maintain contact. I say it's worth a shot!

post #46 of 60
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Originally Posted by Kamiro View Post

Woman, I know all about the mama troubles. lol.gif

I told my Mom and instead of keeping it to herself or what not, she heads straight to my siblings so they can all gossip and cackle. Then, my eldest brother (who counts down the years until his kids are grown and he has *freedom*) shows up and I guess they tell him.

He tells me "K, I didn't react very well..."

I'm thinking...I live 200 miles away from all of you, I don't ask for money from you, I've never had you babysit and you've only seen my kids two times in the last year --- so what reaction is there that you can have?

It was all just one of those they were all being judgey mcjudgerson on me, and my bro was the only one with the ovaries to admit it to me.

 

 

Its just ridiculous...I'm sorry about your mom. I really envy (in a pleasant way) women who have Moms who they can have good adult relationships with. hug2.gifThats just what we got to work on building with our kids, I suppose.

 

I wish I'd been able to get back here sooner as you all have been so supportive and lovely about this.  I hate that my mom and I are not close.  I know that she thinks that we are but it's delusional to think that.

 

K, EXACTLY!  I don't ask my mom for help.  In fact, I know better because I don't want to be disappointed.  When I do reach out because I think she will like being included in something I mostly get passive aggressive responses.  Recently I heard this awesome speaker say that you have to love people where they are.  Meaning, people have a specific capacity and if you want to love them you have to choose to meet at the point where they are fully capable.  This from a woman whose mom was a drug addict and slowly killed herself via intravenous drug use.  I try to remember her words a lot. 

post #47 of 60
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Originally Posted by Caitlin0919 View Post

Name: Caitlin
Weeks Along:
Officially 8 weeks today

Feelings: Tired, nauseous, excited, anxious

Symptoms: tiredness and nausea

Next Appointment: Hopefully meeting with a midwife this coming Friday to see if she's the care provider we want to go with.

 

I've been having issues getting excited about this pregnancy because it wasn't planned and I just feel like it's coming at a bad time for us. My son is only 16 months old and I'm due right around his 2nd birthday. There's a 3 year gap between him and our daughter and we both felt that was good spacing so we had originally planned to wait until after he turned 2 before we started TTC again. DH is really excited though, probably more excited than he was about the other two pregnancies, and that has helped a lot. He finally figured out what I need from him while I'm pregnant and has been so patient and helpful and has really picked up the extra slack at home since I'm so tired and nauseous all the time. He insists that this is perfect timing because he just recently got a promotion and a raise and we're in the process of buying a house. I'm not excited to move while I'm pregnant but I've done it before so I guess I'll get through it again. I decided to watch The Business of Being Born the other day and that has really helped me get more focused on the pregnancy and get excited about another baby. I watched it all the time during my first pregnancy because it helped me re-affirm my decision to have a natural birth and it kept my confidence up. It was definitely a nice reminder of the joy that is coming our way when this baby arrives and it's getting me really excited for another homebirth.


Totally understand.  I am still a bit disconnected from this one.  As soon as I see it via an u/s I know that I will connect immediately.  but until then I am spending time processing how this surprise is just so unexpected (duh!  that's what a surprise means after all!).

post #48 of 60
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Originally Posted by SilaMarila View Post

Chiming in with a solution for Saara. Plan a hotel "home" birth with the midwife for a town maybe half way for both of you. This is totally possible and people have done it! As long as she's on board. Prenatal care would still be a little tricky and perhaps you could continue to see your local care provider and agree to transfer all records to the midwife and maintain contact. I say it's worth a shot!


What a great idea!  Will this work, Saara?  I hate that mamas have to work so hard to have the birth they want. 

post #49 of 60
Thread Starter 

Today was the midwife appointment but we couldn't find the heart beat to my satisfaction. I acted fine because I did not want a melt down with the kids, but I am a little uneasy now.

We found the placenta and could hear it, but I'm thinking if midwife didn't  hear the heartbeat enough to officially *confirm* the pregnancy - than we didn't hear enough of the heart beat, period. So I have been calling trying to get an ultrasound at the hospital, cause I'm nearly 13 weeks and I've never had any trouble before.

I am fairly certain I felt baby moving during the doppler use (which is typical...I think babies hate those things) but I am leaving out of state for a week on Sunday and would really like to hear this before we leave. Midwife can't be in this area again until next month for appointments.

 

Any one have any ideas? Would this qualify as an emergency? Midwife said no its fine, but eh...kind of conflicting reports when she didn't hear enough to confirm pregnancy (her own words).

 

I do think every things ok...so I dont know *why* I'm stressing...just @ 10 weeks I've always heard it loud and clear and this is #5

post #50 of 60
Oh my gosh, I would totally force an u/s for peace of mind. I agree that things are probably fine but still... Hugging you from MD
post #51 of 60

I hope things are fine, Kamiro, and that you don't have to worry too much. 

Saara, I hope you find something that will work for you!  Have you checked out your Finding Your Tribe forum (do they still call it that? the region forums?) - that's where I found out that there were midwives closer to me than I thought.  For my first baby, we drove 5 hours in labor, which is kind of crazy, but worked great for us.  :)   Good luck finding a good solution!

We told the boys yesterday.  I'm kind of conflicted about it because of our loss at 15 weeks in my second pregnancy, and I'm only 10 weeks now... but I had at least had some spotting by this point, that time.  All clear so far this time.  We're going to let them tell my mom on Friday when she comes to visit.  At least I can lie around and act miserable without getting weird looks.  :)  Last time she was visiting I was feeling pretty horrible but didn't want to show it. :)
 

post #52 of 60
kamiro I wonder if an anterior placenta could be blocking the heartbeat?
post #53 of 60
Thread Starter 

Thanks ladies, really. I've never had any kind of pregnancy scare myself personally.

Writeon - I was wondering if that could be it?

I'll give until tomorrow for the hospital to call me back, but if not then I am totally thinking of doing an ER trip...or is that just silly?

I don't know. :(

post #54 of 60

Oh Kamiro - I agree with the others, i'd get the ultrasound. You're not being silly at all - you need the reassurance and peace of mind Wishing you all the best..

post #55 of 60

Kamiro - You're midwife could be right, it could be fine. But it's worth the peace of mind if that is what you need. We didn't hear our DS on the doppler until around 14 wks. The way my uterus was tilted, location of the placenta, and location of him all contributed. Update us!

post #56 of 60
Thread Starter 

Thank you all, again...

I have an appointment today with some ob/gyn I never met but the receptionist said he could confirm and check out everything. I feel much better. My gut says things are fine, but my gut isn't exactly batting 100 these days lol.

It will just be good to know. joy.gifWill update this evening. Have a beautiful day

post #57 of 60
Let us know how it goes... I'm sure it'll all be just fine!
post #58 of 60
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Originally Posted by Kamiro View Post

Thank you all, again...

I have an appointment today with some ob/gyn I never met but the receptionist said he could confirm and check out everything. I feel much better. My gut says things are fine, but my gut isn't exactly batting 100 these days lol.

It will just be good to know. joy.gifWill update this evening. Have a beautiful day

Let us know! Hope everything is fine!

post #59 of 60
Thinking of you Kamiro!
post #60 of 60

Been thinking of you today Kamiro!

 

Keep me in your thoughts/prayers! It looks like I'll be heading to a birth later! First time mommy so I might be there a while. Hoping I'll be distracted from my nausea and that I can make it through the night without sleep if that's when she needs me.

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