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can you help me respond to these pet peeve behaviors? 2.5 yo

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I'm looking for ideas of how to respond to the behaviors that really make my blood boil. If you have any tips for these please let me know! These are all things my 2.5 yo does and I haven't come up with an effective yet gentle response.

-climbing on top of a half height bookshelf at the library
-sitting on or pushing his baby brother when I turn my back
-spitting
-dumping out baskets of folded laundry
-putting things in the toilet

I guess I should just try to focus on his positive behaviors... it is getting towards the end of a long, no nap day and I am out of patience! Any good patience mantras?
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I'm totally new to parenting - my 2.5 year old has me over a barrel, so am not good on useful advice - but we did knock the spitting one on the head by just telling her there was no spitting INSIDE, except whilst doing teeth in the bath.

Now, if she starts spitting....I give her a warning...then take her gently by the hand, and we go outside. Whereupon I just say: Go for it. You can spit out here. But not inside. Then I go back inside. Basically, with no audience (?) and being forced to do it somewhere not fun...it became, well, not fun anymore.

 

She went through a real spitting phase - but the above seems to have cured her. (Though occasionally I see her spitting over the side of her cot during nap time - on the monitor - but not much I can do about that one...she gets a free pass...since in theory, she's alone and having private time.)

 

We haven't done the toilet thing - but can you feasibly put a toilet lock on it, until he gets over the novelty?

 

 

Mantras: I have none, will be keen to read other people's. On a really bad day, the only thing that gets me through are two thoughts: It won't be like this forever. And, soon there will be sleep in toddlerville, and I can finally....finally...have some peace and go to bed myself!

 

Edit to add: Oh, and I hear you on the no nap day thing. Mine has just started to drop a nap, maybe once a week or 9 days? And, well, I am NOT ready for this - it is totally freaking me out! (I exaggerate, but only a little...!)

 

Edit AGAIN: Do you mean spitting out food? I was just talking to run-of-the-mill spitting. Though last night, we had our first real spit-out of food. Hmm.


Edited by Grover - 4/11/13 at 7:04pm
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I'm looking for ideas of how to respond to the behaviors that really make my blood boil. If you have any tips for these please let me know! These are all things my 2.5 yo does and I haven't come up with an effective yet gentle response.

-climbing on top of a half height bookshelf at the library
-sitting on or pushing his baby brother when I turn my back
-spitting
-dumping out baskets of folded laundry
-putting things in the toilet

I guess I should just try to focus on his positive behaviors... it is getting towards the end of a long, no nap day and I am out of patience! Any good patience mantras?

- is climbing on the bookshelf dangerous?  If it is, point that out, and try to move somewhere else or keep him interested on the ground

- sorry, but this will always happen.  Just wait until his brother is 2.5, then the fun really starts.  My 2.5 goes up to the 5 yo and bonks him then runs away.  That's just boys.  I keep having to remind mine to be gentle, as obviously they're different sizes.  

- ignore it.  my 2.5 yo went through a random spitting phase.  I pretty much ignored it, and it went away.  Alternatively, if yours likes to clean up, give him a rag to clean up after himself.

- don't leave the baskets where he can get to them.

- get a toilet lock.  

 

I remember when my ds1 was about 2.75 and when ds2 was born, and I was very impatient with him as he seemed so big compared to the baby.  But really they're still little at that age. 

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good advice already given 

 

out of the moment if we can figure out his concerns, get his input- we might with him be able to come up with alternate solutions which address both concerns 

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