I had this very issue with my first-- my supposed BFF at the time made feel like she didn't want to host my shower but had to. I decided to skip the drama and ask my sister to host. It was pretty mortifying and I felt like I had to help. It was just drama all around.
But my family/friends really helped with buying us stuff we needed and I really appreciated that. The games were fun and I felt special being measured for a prize and whatnot. We aren't well off at the moment and if we have a boy-- it would be so great to get some gender specific stuff and it's fun to have a party. But I feel a bit tacky throwing it myself and to be honest-- I'm not sure I want to. Nor do I feel like anyone will offer. Which is sad to say but true-- we live pretty private lives and with DD, don't have a full social calendar IYKWIM! Lol!
I was thinking about a "welcome baby" party a few weeks postpartum but ugh-- I'll be SO EXHAUSTED I don't think I can handle the stress of throwing a party or even having ANYONE over. I was very annoyed with people coming out of the woodwork to see my daughter and hold her. I did not enjoy the invasion of privacy.
I really don't know what is considered typical for the second baby. I'm thinking we will just do nothing at this point even though I want to celebrate this baby as it is probably our last.
What do y'all think? I'd love to discuss this!