Hi, all! FTM here, with a 6-week-old sweetheart of a baby. I was all about BW all through my pregnancy, and have a Moby and an Ergo. I don't think my baby has read the same articles and books I have about the benefits of babywearing. She flat-out hates the Moby. Occasionally she'll consent to be in it for a while if her mood is JUST right (I have no idea what this consists of - I've tried sleepy, awake, fed, happy, wanting to be held, everything I can think of, nothing's consistently a winner), but it's not a given. Trying to "get her used to it a little at a time" would pretty much just equal either putting her in and immediately removing her, or doing some kind of weird Ferber thing where I let her cry in it, which I'm not going to do. Sigh.
The Ergo is a little better. She usually settles down in it once I'm moving, enough so that she'll then be ok if I'm not in constant motion after a little while. So I've used that more when we go out.
But here's the thing - after a day with a lot of babywearing, she has HORRIBLE evening fussies. Overstimulated, tired, doesn't want to eat, doesn't want to sleep, MAD fussies. And while I know these are common at this age, she normally just doesn't do it unless I've been wearing her a lot that day. If I take her out in the - ugh - car seat or stroller, she may get tired and/or overstimulated, but it's not that intense of a process to calm her down and get her to sleep. The aftermath of a babywearing day usually involves at least an hour, maybe two, of yelling and rage.
Any thoughts? She's pretty independent, except she really does want to be held when she's getting sleepy or in the evenings, so it'd be REALLY nice if I could just wear her rather than having to sit on the couch and hold her, or do whatever one-handed while I hold her. I'm thinking I may just have to wait until she can control her own head, kick her feet at my sides, and generally not feel so smushed in carriers.