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Babywearing - my baby is...odd.

post #1 of 18
Thread Starter 

All through pregnancy, I was SO excited about wearing Ginny. My mom got me a Moby, as she was excited about it, too. Well, from Day 1, Ginny has HATED that Moby. I think I've gotten her to stay in it contentedly twice, out of dozens of attempts. 

 

So my mother-in-law got us an Ergobaby, and once we stopped trying to use the infant insert and just used a rolled receiving blanket instead, she grudgingly consented to be worn in that occasionally. For a while. But when she was over it, she was OVER it, and that night we'd be treated to much worse fussiness than usual as the poor exhaused, stressed-out baby just cried and cried. After one of those nights last night, I was ready to give up on babywearing for the next couple of months, and I really don't want to, as I've already had to say goodbye to my co-sleeping dreams!

 

This morning, in desperation, I grabbed an old bed sheet and tied a knot in it. She loves it. She didn't stop smiling for the first ten minutes, and now she's snoring on my chest as I type this. She's been in it for almost two hours now, and the only complaint she had was her usual "I'm getting tired now" whine.

 

A. Bed. Sheet. ROTFLMAO.gif

post #2 of 18

That is basically what a woven wrap is... perhaps get one of those.... or just use the bed sheet.

 

My babes have been particular about the types of carriers and when they want to be carried.  My little one loves the moby, but hates the woven wrap I got.  He is OK with the becco and sometimes like my ring sling.  It is hit and miss.

 

I think at this stage, they are all getting used to themselves.  Try the Ergo out again in a few weeks..... she may love it then.

post #3 of 18
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Originally Posted by TallToriV View Post

A. Bed. Sheet. ROTFLMAO.gif

pics please!  whatever tie you used is amazing!

 

all my babies liked to be carried, i just had to figure out which style worked for them. extroverts upright and facing out.  introverts more side lying and able to bury their heads in my armpit or bosom.  my african mother friends did the bedsheet or blanket on back all the time.  i love when they're strong enough to go on my back.  otherwise, i can only do the ring sling this early.  though this guy has been wrapped up in my sweater (a robe style) w/ a scarf around to hold him up.  thumb.gif

post #4 of 18
Thread Starter 

Well, she screamed again last night, so we're back to square one. I know this is the fussy age, but there's a difference between her normal fussies and the way she hollers when either I have caffeine or wear her. Basically anything that throws off her delicate nap rhythm. Argh.

 

HosueofPeace, that's awesome! Trying to picture the sweater/scarf combo. And I didn't use any particular tie, just a double knot pulled extra super tight. I'd post a pic, but...the last time I tried to use it, she was doing the hatred thing again. Plus....it kinda makes my shoulders and back hurt. A lot.

 

Frustration. Oh, well. I just know in a few months she'll love that Ergobaby.

post #5 of 18
DS seems to hate the Beco so far, which stinks because I love it. He is only 5.5 weeks but is a big guy, so he fits well. He just screams (except for one time I got him to fall asleep in it. He does well in the Moby, but I was getting sick of tying that all the time. I haven't tried him in my ring sling for some reason, but maybe I will get that out tomorrow.
post #6 of 18

as long as i'm walking, my guy likes the ring sling.  but tried nursing while standing today and he was having NONE OF IT!  he does not like to have his head covered and be totally warm when nursing.  he is used to me sitting on a couch or laying down to nurse him.  thankfully, he usually drops off the sleep out of boredom if i don't nurse him 'properly'

 

the sweater was wrapped tightly around like a robe, then just tied the scarf under his bum/legs.  he's probably too big now!!!  but i realized i hadn't used the sling until i started leaving the house b/c i would just get him skin to skin under my clothes.  he doesn't like to have his face against my clothes, only skin will do.  so much for modesty!!!

 

my sister is 21 weeks along w/ her first, and tiny and posting bump pics and i keep thinking "oh just wait!"  b/c as we all know, 21 weeks isn't halfway in size!!!  already sent her some little newborn cotton sacks/onesies/sleepers that my dude has outgrown!!!  how did that happen?

post #7 of 18

TallToriV, I'm having similar issues. I've been trying the ring sling since birth here and he HATES it. Even when I let the legs dangle and support his head with my hand so his head isn't tucked in. HATES the Moby even more (I didn't think that was possible) because it's crazy hot to be in. Tolerates the baby Bjorn for short periods under ideal circumstances. I'm a little frustrated. We leave for Cambodia in a week and must find a way of carrying this guy without his beloved stroller. I was thinking about going into the parenting centre here and testing an Ergo. I hate to be buying yet another thing he'll hate... do post if you find anything your LO can tolerate. How do you baby wear the baby who won't be worn? [sigh]

post #8 of 18
Thread Starter 

Well, I've pretty much given up except using the Ergo when I MUST wear her (like grocery shopping; can't juggle a car seat and cart, and the commissary really doesn't have any cart options for a baby too little to hold her head up). Then I just accept that after about 20-30 minutes, she's going to be very unhappy until I can get her out of that thing.

 

HoP, lol re: your sister. I was barely showing at 21 weeks. At 36 weeks, I had the nice bump, but thrilled because I still didn't have stretch marks. But man, in the last 7 weeks I was carrying her, ALL OF THAT CHANGED! I looked like I swallowed a coach-sized pumpkin. My lower tummy now looks like a road map, and I don't mind a bit. 

post #9 of 18
There is hope, people! My baby hated all carriers at first, especially the Moby and sling (tried both at about 3 weeks). Now, at 10 weeks she tolerates and maybe even likes the Bjorn (especially facing out) and Ergo. At some point I just said, "screw it, I NEED to exercise//get outta the house!" I've been wearing her everyday on our walks/hikes/outings for the past two weeks and I think it's given her a certain comfort level with it. She'll actually fall asleep now, which is unprecedented!
post #10 of 18
Greetings from Cambodia. We ended up using the Ergo in the airport and on the flight and our LO tolerated it. I just did Ankor Wat with my battered Graco stroller with the carseat attached. Hilarious. We were photographed constantly. Having a blue eyed baby is generally a big deal in Singapore but here I feel like I'm swatting off Paparazzi. Anyway, the Ergo does seem to work as long as we are in aircon. In the heat he's still better in the stroller/carseat with his umbrella and portable fan.
post #11 of 18
Thread Starter 

WWW, congratulations! 

Typebug, I hear you on the heat - that Ergo gets HOT!!! Hope you're enjoying Cambodia.

post #12 of 18
Those of you who are using the ergo. Where do you put a blanket for support if you don't use the insert? It's getting a little warm here to use it now and I'm not sure if she will need the support still? She's starting to hold her head and body up but is only 10 weeks still.
post #13 of 18

naomi has been trying to stand in the boba wrap, so now i have to keep her legs out of it. which means baby pants & socks which she hates. booger.

post #14 of 18

We have the K'tan.  Sly hated it the first couple of times we tried it but now he is fine.  I'm quicker and more confident with it too.  He can snuggle up and sleep or look around if he is alert.  We just flew and he slept through check-in, security, and almost the whole two+ hour flight in it!  He has to be in the right mood for the Maya wrap.  But if he is fed, dry, and sleepy it is great.  We have an Ergo that we haven't used yet.  Like other mamas have said, try, try again.  Keep trying, mama and good luck!

post #15 of 18
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I think we're at an odd spot with the Ergo. Jenny, you roll or fold the receiving blanket and put it under the bum like a chair - where the block would be if the insert was in there. Then you can tuck another cloth or something between the back of the head and the carrier if you need the extra snugness. The problem I'm having is this: Ginny's 25.25 inches long at 9 weeks. She's just...really long. So when I do this, and her legs are in a froggy position against my tummy inside the carrier, her head is over the top of the carrier, while her little feet and legs work their way down into the waist strap part of the carrier (no matter how tightly I cinch it in), and out the bottom! But I'm worried that if I try to splay her legs out so her feet are on either side of my tummy, I'll hurt her hips, so I haven't tried. We may just have to put a pin in it until she can do that. HUGE baby, lol. 

 

Thank goddess my parents gave me that stroller I didn't think I'd need. She freakin' loves it.

post #16 of 18
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Originally Posted by TallToriV View Post

I think we're at an odd spot with the Ergo. Jenny, you roll or fold the receiving blanket and put it under the bum like a chair - where the block would be if the insert was in there. Then you can tuck another cloth or something between the back of the head and the carrier if you need the extra snugness. The problem I'm having is this: Ginny's 25.25 inches long at 9 weeks. She's just...really long. So when I do this, and her legs are in a froggy position against my tummy inside the carrier, her head is over the top of the carrier, while her little feet and legs work their way down into the waist strap part of the carrier (no matter how tightly I cinch it in), and out the bottom! But I'm worried that if I try to splay her legs out so her feet are on either side of my tummy, I'll hurt her hips, so I haven't tried. We may just have to put a pin in it until she can do that. HUGE baby, lol. 

 

Thank goddess my parents gave me that stroller I didn't think I'd need. She freakin' loves it.

wow! your girl is long! naomi was 24.50 inches at her 8 week appointment and the doctor thought that was long. :)

post #17 of 18
I used the ergo starting at 3 months, but it sounds like her legs should be long enough.... give it a try!
post #18 of 18
Thread Starter 

She already takes after her mama - my username isn't just a random collection of words ;-)

 

We just went on a walk with her legs outside the carrier. Success! So far, anyway - I kept the walk short. Also, she's having a sleepy/happy day, just napping for 2.5 hours at a time, waking up to eat, smile, and gurgle at me, and then falling back asleep again. We get one of these days every 2-3 weeks or so, and they're just a lovely break. Seemed like the ideal time to try again. We'll see how she does over the next few days, but I have hope!

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