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post #21 of 35
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CrunchyMama, I can only think of 3 progressive towns here in CO. Hehe, I wish I lived in one of them!


Lol, CO is still decades ahead of Mississippi! We were along the I-25 corridor on the front range, pretty crunchy there....sigh....I miss it.

post #22 of 35
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Lol, CO is still decades ahead of Mississippi! We were along the I-25 corridor on the front range, pretty crunchy there....sigh....I miss it.
So I'm guessing Boulder!
post #23 of 35

Nope! Fort Collins. I would not want to live in Boulder, too expensive and their minds are so "open" I think their brains have fallen out with some of the things that go on there, lol!

 

I did get a positive experience yesterday, someone else at my church is happily planning 6 kids :)
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post #24 of 35
Ha! Oh, yes, I love Ft. Collins. :-) I grew up in a nearby town that is known for its smell.
post #25 of 35
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Ha! Oh, yes, I love Ft. Collins. :-) I grew up in a nearby town that is known for its smell.

Greeley? Just guessing; can't think of any known for smell. I went to h.s. in Canon City- known for prisons! And the Royal Gorge.

If we're being honest, I have to own up to some weird feelings about the Duggars and their 19 kids. I mean, as much as pregnancy is SO miserable for me, I just can't get my head around being pregnant that many years of my life! It seems so traumatic! As for the actual kids, well, not much opinion really.

Honestly, I'd love to have 4 or even 5, but I feel I'm doing good if I can survive this and one more. I know pregnancy isn't the same for everyone though. Please God, let me live through this. It's become a really sad mantra. :-/
post #26 of 35
Yep, Crafty! Although when you live there, you get used to the smell and don't really notice it. Ewwww.
post #27 of 35
We're on #3, and I get people saying, "But you already have a boy and a girl. Why have more?" And I have friends with two or three of one gender, with people asking if they're going to try for the other gender. Why are people so hung up on families having both genders represented, and thinking that once you've nailed the "Pidgeon Pair," you're supposed to stop?! It has nothing to do with gender, people!
post #28 of 35
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We're on #3, and I get people saying, "But you already have a boy and a girl. Why have more?" And I have friends with two or three of one gender, with people asking if they're going to try for the other gender. Why are people so hung up on families having both genders represented, and thinking that once you've nailed the "Pidgeon Pair," you're supposed to stop?! It has nothing to do with gender, people!

We are having a girl and because we have DS, people have also said "great, you have your set" like I am collecting Fiestaware or something. I think people just say weird things. I have even heard my husband comment to other people saying not this exactly, but something similarly cliche and nosey "is she sleeping through the night?" And I've been like: are you hearing yourself? What difference does it make to you if their baby is up all night? I think he just wants to seem interested but doesn't know what to say.

But yes, I have a hard time expressing to people the honest-to-gosh truth that I would have been equally thrilled to find out we are having another boy. And gasp! Even with this "set," we'll probably have more!
post #29 of 35

I have to wonder why people think more than 2 is so many. I think part of the reason might be the fact that there are so many families where both parents have to work. Affording childcare for 2+ is very expensive to say nothing of the logistics of transporting 3 or more to and from daycare, school, ect.

 

Then I also think of a couple of people I know where EVERYTHING is about their kid. They celebrate every waking moment, professional photo shoots every 6 months, over-the-top birthdays and christmases. Not that we don't take pictures occasionally or have birthday parties but when you revolve your entire existence around one child I guess it can seem very daunting to have more. My BIL keeps saying they can't afford more than one and would have to get a bigger house, ect. ect. that there is no way they could handle it. Funny thing is is that they make far more than we do, have a larger home than we do and a grandmother watches their kid all the time so they can go on vacations and weekend getaways. We are going on #3 and our kids are perfectly content and well taken care of. I guess it is a matter of what you want your lifestyle to be. Personally, I would rather have more kiddos and siblings and stay at home rather than more income and stuff.

post #30 of 35
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We are having a girl and because we have DS, people have also said "great, you have your set" like I am collecting Fiestaware or something. I think people just say weird things. I have even heard my husband comment to other people saying not this exactly, but something similarly cliche and nosey "is she sleeping through the night?" And I've been like: are you hearing yourself? What difference does it make to you if their baby is up all night? I think he just wants to seem interested but doesn't know what to say.

But yes, I have a hard time expressing to people the honest-to-gosh truth that I would have been equally thrilled to find out we are having another boy. And gasp! Even with this "set," we'll probably have more!

 

 

yeahthat.gif  Exactly this, everyone tells me how perfect it is we have a boy and will be having a girl.  What would they say to me if we were having another boy?  I would have been thrilled either way.

(Although we are probably not having more, I'm too old.)

 

 

 

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Then I also think of a couple of people I know where EVERYTHING is about their kid. They celebrate every waking moment, professional photo shoots every 6 months, over-the-top birthdays and christmases. Not that we don't take pictures occasionally or have birthday parties but when you revolve your entire existence around one child I guess it can seem very daunting to have more.

 

My SIL is like that with their two kids, regular professional shoots, they send out yearly photo calendars, sent me (and everyone else in the family) photo albums and then additional photos later to add into it, as well as framed photos, etc. 

post #31 of 35
Oh dear. The idea of all those photo shoots and over-the-top birthdays and Christmases sounds exhausting as well as expensive. I really love to make holidays and birthdays special, but not by spending money, just planning special activities together- picking out the tree, decorating the house, picking out cake flavor and icing and being in the kitchen together. That's not only what we can afford; it just feels a lot more personal and special to me than paying someone to manage all the details for some perfect production of life's events.
post #32 of 35
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Oh dear. The idea of all those photo shoots and over-the-top birthdays and Christmases sounds exhausting as well as expensive. I really love to make holidays and birthdays special, but not by spending money, just planning special activities together- picking out the tree, decorating the house, picking out cake flavor and icing and being in the kitchen together. That's not only what we can afford; it just feels a lot more personal and special to me than paying someone to manage all the details for some perfect production of life's events.


yeahthat.gif   I'd much rather focus on making sure kids are having fun, not dressing them up for photo shoots. Or at least, not such regular ones.

 

I'm hoping that I can avoid the weird comments about having a set, but I've already heard a few. It drives me nuts, because I really don't care what we have. I just want my kids to bond and have good relationships with each other.

post #33 of 35
I really wish this one weren't such a surprise because I have a hard time responding über positively to all of the looks and "Ooh..."s when people find out. redface.gif This is 5, not 15. My mom is one of 5 and it never seemed crazy!

We have three boys, then our fourth is a girl, so there were clearly those expecting that we "tried for a girl" and could "finally be done." Whatever. Yes, I very much wanted my baby girl (and had felt a desire/promise for her many years earlier), but it wasn't about getting that gender.

In some ways I was sad to be "done" with four because it would only perpetuate the idea that it was all about getting both genders. Now, surprise or not, it at least won't look like that's all we cared about!
post #34 of 35
same here, all. We have a girl, then a boy and it boggles minds that we are going again! "one of each" is the phrase that gets me, as of all boys and ask girls can easily be classified as "one type" of child. Won't I always have"one of each"of all the kids I have, even identical twins are their own people. sigh. I wish I could shout "the sex of my baby just might be the must boring thing I find out about them over the next 60 years!"
post #35 of 35
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same here, all. We have a girl, then a boy and it boggles minds that we are going again! "one of each" is the phrase that gets me, as of all boys and ask girls can easily be classified as "one type" of child. Won't I always have"one of each"of all the kids I have, even identical twins are their own people. sigh. I wish I could shout "the sex of my baby just might be the must boring thing I find out about them over the next 60 years!"
Exactly!!!
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