We have a thread going on my local mom's group. There are a few of us that see no need to discuss the latest bombing in Boston, nor did we talk about Sandy Hook. Our kids are all around the same age, two of us have boys who just turned five in the last couple of weeks. We're being chastised a little bit by the rest of the group for not bringing it up to our kids and discussing it because they've "heard it on the playground already." I tend to disagree, they mostly talk about Star Wars and Legos and bodily functions.
We don't have older siblings in the house, nor do they interact much with older kids, so they're not hearing it that way either. My theory is that I work very hard to make sure he knows he can ask any question he wants, so if something is bothering him he can ask about it. My son categorizes all bad guys as bank robbers and he knows that the policemen are there to catch them. Everything else seems to exist in his swirling lush five year old imagination and that's where we discuss concepts and where things come out of the dark.
So I thought I'd ask for a broader perspective here, because maybe I'm putting my head in the sand, I don't know. When do you decide to bring up delicate subjects? Do you wait until they have questions, or do you preemptively talk about certain things? Does age matter? Am I naive to want his childhood to last as long as possible when it comes to these kinds of things?