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post #41 of 67

Yes N!  The birth sounds lovely.  Glad that you are settling in.  How is tandem nursing going?  

post #42 of 67

n, such a lovely story! Thanks for sharing.

post #43 of 67
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Yes N!  The birth sounds lovely.  Glad that you are settling in.  How is tandem nursing going?  

Thanks!  Tandem nursing is going really smoothly.  DS1 hasn't been too demanding for extra nursing sessions.  He is loving all the milk, though.  My milk came in really quickly (by end of day 2) and I have tons of supply so DS1 has been helping to keep over-supply issues at bay.  Plus, it's keeping him on his "routine" (ie: nursing at bedtime and with cuddles in the morning) so I think it's helping to keep him from feeling as put-out by Sander.    

post #44 of 67

My water broke on Friday, May 3rd.  This was a new experience for me as it did not break at all with my first baby so I had no idea what to expect.  I contacted my doula to let her know it had happened and to be on alert if things went quickly.  My contractions were sporadic and quite mild through the evening so we just stayed home.  The hospital where I planned on delivering is 1 1/2 hr drive so we had to be sure labor was underway before making the trek. By morning contractions were still very mild.  I used my breast pump in hopes of getting them going -- that only worked temporarily.

 

So we made the long drive to the hospital.  In triage they took samples to confirm waters had broken -- they had to test several times so it took quite a while.  I was finally admitted and then given then news that with now 22 hrs past with broken waters and almost no contractions, I was heavily advised to start pitocin.  I was quite disappointed but understood we really did need to make some progress soon.  Getting the IV took quite a while as my veins are not easy to find.  Eventually they used ultrasound to find a good one.  After waiting so long and with all the anticipation from the night before I was actually relieved to start the drugs!  

 

As it should be the pitocin was very gradually increased over the course of the next 6 hours.  For the first 4 hours I had fun getting to know the nurses, hanging with my doula and husband, eating an excellent lunch, and listening to music.  Hour 5 brought contractions intense enough to prevent me from speaking, hour 6 was when deep, loud moaning was the only thing that saw me through each wave.  By then they were 2 min apart and incredibly intense!  My OB came and checked me for the first time -- I was at 9 cm & she could feel the sac covering my cervix.  She said I can break it and when I do you will feel the need to push right away.  Of course I said YES, please do it.  And she was right the need to push followed immediately.

 

I was on my knees up on the bed holding on to the top of the bed.  I was in so much pain I was crying and had a feeling of desperation, I just wanted to push and make the pressure go away.  I pushed so hard they had to have me stop and wait a minute for the perineum to stretch.  Then two more times and she was out -- I pushed for less than 5 minutes!   

 

Baby was blue and didn't cry at first, even so they put her skin to skin with me and then vigorously massaged the color into her.  She still didn't cry as loud as expected but was breathing fine on her own with no need for oxygen or other interventions.  The only other thing that didn't go according to my birth plan was that the OB cut the cord right away irked.gif  I looked down and saw her do it and said angrily, "That is not what I want, why are you doing that?!"  She gave me some answer about gravity and that the position of my placenta to the baby would not have allowed the blood to flow anyway.  Later I came to understand that I was bleeding out and her decision was influenced by her need to stop me from losing too much (I have a history of postpartum hemorrhage, which is why I chose to deliver in the hospital in the first place).  I wonder if she could have honored my choices and stopped my bleeding, but I am not going to stay upset about it.

 

I am very pleased to have had a natural vaginal delivery with no tears!  There was lots of waiting but the hard labor & delivery only took 2 hrs, which is awesome.  Our baby weighed 8lbs, 5 oz upon delivery and we named her Hazel Louise.  She is latching like a champ and bringing us much joy day & night! love.gif

 

 

post #45 of 67
Congratulations!!! Sounds very similar to my induced birth with dd. once they crank the pitocin it gets intense! Beautiful baby.
post #46 of 67
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My water broke on Friday, May 3rd.  This was a new experience for me as it did not break at all with my first baby so I had no idea what to expect.  

congrats! :) did you deliver early with your first?

post #47 of 67
Congrats joy2grow! What a nice birth!

Ignorant first time pregnancy question--- if your water broke before you went into the hospital, how was the OB able to break it again? Were there 2 sacks or something?
post #48 of 67
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post #49 of 67
Congratulations Joy2grow!! Sounds like a great birth!! Enjoy those baby cuddles!!
post #50 of 67

Thanks All for reading & your supportive comments smile.gif  aHikaru, my first was born at 40+3, so I was quite surprised to go early.  However, I live at 7000 ft elevation now (compared to 5000 then) and some say that could make a difference.  TwillightJoy, while my water gushed out the sack did not so it created a dam at my cervix which was reinforced by baby's head.  I didn't know that could happen either!

post #51 of 67
My midwife came over to check my blood pressure and other vitals on Wednesday 5/15. Bp was WAY too high at 185/100, twice. (Not surprising considering my husband went to rehab at 38 weeks and we decided to separate for awhile.)I was 41 + 3 and their TN state licensure demands a bpp at 42 anyway, from which the vast majority of moms don't return and are induced.

We discussed options. I had already tried motherwort, blue cohosh, epo. Had membranes stripped twice, daily acupuncture, massage, chiropractic. We suspected baby was asynclitic from the sweeps and that his head wasn't putting even pressure on my cervix, keeping me at 4 cm.

I decided to try castor oil as my last ditch effort. If nothing happened, we would go to the hospital Thursday morning for bpp and induction, I'm sure.

Took one dose at seven pm. Had a normal large bm but otherwise nothing new. Strong painless bh, as I had been having. Went for a long walk and cleaned the house. Decided to take another dose at eleven pm and try to sleep in preparation for the hospital. Awoke at one to violent diarrhea. Went back to sleep despite some cramping. Awoke again at three to very strong and painful contractions I could not sleep through.

Got up to walk around. Tried to take a bath. The pain was unbearable. I felt I needed hospital and drugs ASAP. Finally I texted the midwife and my support friend around 4:15. They both came over immediately. Mw could tell from my out of control noises that I was close. When she could finally get me to lay down for a check, my cervix was gone! Pushed for about ten minutes standing up, and my son was born at 5:06!!

I had trouble delivering the placenta. It was really large and wouldn't shear. I got two doses of pitocin to stop my bleeding. It took about an hour and was very painful to deliver. I thought the pain was over!! When it finally came out I felt so much relief.

Baby Todd definitely has the post-dates "look" - long fingernails, thinning hair, wrinkled feet and hands, dry skin. He was fully cooked for sure. He was 8 lb 12 oz and 20 inches. He latches like a professional and seems to be doing really well. Seeing his big sister meet him was one of the most tender moments of my life.

The ultra fast labor was awful. My first birth was induced and I took no pain medication. It took about fourteen hours. It was nowhere near as intense and painful as this last birth.
post #52 of 67
Congratulations PM!
post #53 of 67

Congrats PM!  Baby Caspian was also 8 lbs 12 oz but 21" long.  He had the long finger nails, dry skin, wrinkled hands and feet etc, too.  I didn't know that was post-dates look, but now that you mention it, the doula said something about that too...  I wonder if post-dates has something to do with how large my placenta was too.  Did you get a weight on it?

post #54 of 67
Yeah! Mine was a little over a pound and very long. It was just slightly staring to calcify in places. I know that can be a sign of post dates too.
post #55 of 67
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The ultra fast labor was awful. My first birth was induced and I took no pain medication. It took about fourteen hours. It was nowhere near as intense and painful as this last birth.[/quote]

Congratulatons PM! Do you think it was the castor oil that made it intense, or just the speed? This birth was fast for me as well (under 3 hrs) and I think it was much more intense than my first which was just under 6 hrs active labor. I don't k ow if it was the speed or the fact that babe was posterior so I gad back labor, or the combo, but intense is a good descriptor.
post #56 of 67
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The ultra fast labor was awful. My first birth was induced and I took no pain medication. It took about fourteen hours. It was nowhere near as intense and painful as this last birth.[/quote]

Congratulatons PM! Do you think it was the castor oil that made it intense, or just the speed? This birth was fast for me as well (under 3 hrs) and I think it was much more intense than my first which was just under 6 hrs active labor. I don't k ow if it was the speed or the fact that babe was posterior so I gad back labor, or the combo, but intense is a good descriptor.

My labors have been 3 hrs, 1 hr, and 28 minutes, respectively...each more intense than the previous. It kind of bothers me when people say, "Oh, you have such fast, easy labors!" Yes, they are probably 'easy' compared to many people's labors, but that does not mean they are painless...far from it, in fact!

post #57 of 67
I think the intensity came from the speed, which came from being through early labor and dilated to 4 for a couple of weeks. Whatever the castor oil did to send me over the edge was just a bonus! The crampy diarrhea was not fun, but it worked. I feel like it was like my other labor, just concentrated Into two hours.
post #58 of 67
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Berry, the idea of a 28 minute labor is frightening!  I actually had a dream about it last night!  Of course no one was here and I had to deliver the baby myself.  Not that I actually have to worry since babe is here....

post #59 of 67
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My labors have been 3 hrs, 1 hr, and 28 minutes, respectively...each more intense than the previous. It kind of bothers me when people say, "Oh, you have such fast, easy labors!" Yes, they are probably 'easy' compared to many people's labors, but that does not mean they are painless...far from it, in fact!

my first labor was 6 hrs and this one was 25 minutes, I would definitely opt for the 6hr labor over 25 minutes any day. 

post #60 of 67

Astrid Willa’s Birth Story

 

Around midnight on May 7th I started having contractions that woke me and were about 10 minutes apart and lasted a minute or longer, I hoped they were the “real deal” and noticed they were worse if I was laying down so I tried sitting on my birth ball and walking/standing/leaning on the bed to see if they got stronger or if changing position would make them go away. They stayed consistent but never got any closer/stronger and after 2 hours I decided to try and sleep through them. I was able to sleep the rest of the night until Ava’s alarm went off at 6:45am and noticed I was still having the contractions but they were still about 10 minutes apart and no stronger. I let my midwife, Miriam, know what was going on and let my friend Shana know since she would be attending the birth as well, she is a midwife who works as an assistant to another homebirth midwife team here in NYC. Then Ava decided to work from home just in case so we had my mom, who was staying with us for the previous 3 weeks to be here for the birth, drive us to drop Margot off at school and we all went food shopping. I kept having the contractions 10-15 minutes apart the rest of the day but they were very manageable and easily could be walked/talked through. That night my mom and I went on my usual nightly walk through the neighborhood and the contractions continued but I was still able to slowly walk through them. When we got home we all had a dish of watermelon sherbet and I decided to go to bed at my usual 10pm. 

 

I woke again at 11:45pm with contractions only now they were about 5 minutes apart and stronger, I started timing them on my app because they seemed really intense to me and I was so sure I was going to be having my baby soon! At 1am I texted Shana and let her know they were getting intense and 5 minutes apart for over an hour and lasting 1+ minutes. She told me to let her know when I wanted her to come over. Then I texted Miriam and let her know the same thing. She asked if the baby was moving and was pleased to hear she was really active and asked me to let her know when I wanted her to come over. At 3am I texted Shana again and asked her to come over soon, it was feeling really intense to me and I wanted someone who could help me decided when it was time to call Miriam. I also really wanted her support, I had decided I wanted her at my birth long before I even got pregnant! When Shana arrived we were all in the living room (except Margot who was sleeping) and I was trying to use my birthing ball to see if it helped. Around 4am Shana and Ava set up my birthing pool in our kitchen because I was hoping getting in the water would help relax me and let my labor progress faster. The water was sooo nice and while it didn’t make the contractions any less intense it did make my body relax in between them which was a great relief. Other than getting out to go to the bathroom I stayed in the pool and Ava, Shana and my mom all hung out in the kitchen and kept me company. My contractions were getting closer together and at 5:40am I finally asked Ava to call Miriam, I was so sure I would be pushing soon. Ha!

 

Miriam arrived at 6:15am and checked the baby’s heart rate with her doppler, she sounded great. Around 7:30am Miriam and Shana encouraged me to get out of the tub and walk a bit to see if it would help things along since my contractions were still hovering at 3-4 minutes apart. I walked around the apartment and tried sitting on my birthing ball in the living room. Sitting during contractions felt far worse than standing so I went back to walking/swaying and just holding onto Ava during the contractions. Margot was awake by then and would come hug onto us both during the contractions and despite the intense contractions she still made me laugh with her silliness. By 8am they were 2-3 minutes apart and getting more intense. By 8:30am I was back in the tub because I needed some relief. I continued to labor in and out of the tub for several more hours and was reaching my “I don’t know how I’m going to do this much longer” stage. Just prior to lunch time Miriam and Shana convinced me to go lay down on my bed propped up with lots of pillows and to try and get as much rest between the contractions as I could, by this time I’d been up about 12 hours straight in active labor and had only slept maybe an hour and a half or so in the last couple days. My body was so tired and I was able to get some sleep punctuated by really intense contractions. Ava laid down with me for a little while since she was really tired as well. While I was resting my mom and Margot went out and got everyone lunch and a bouquet of orange flowers Margot picked out for me from a flower stand. Miriam ran out to get a few things done elsewhere during my rest. I got up again around 1:30pm and walked around with Ava, holding onto her during every contraction, she was my rock. If she was busy I held onto Shana or my mom but the few contractions I had with no one to hold onto seemed so much harder than those where I could touch another person. At 2:40pm Ava went to grab Margot a bowl of watermelon sherbet and I was standing by our kitchen table (which was now in the foyer since my birthing pool was occupying the table space in the kitchen) and I had a really intense contraction that had me up on my tippy toes panting... when I suddenly felt my belly pop up near my ribs. I stood there thinking “was that my water breaking?” and sure enough a few moments later I had the flow of warm fluid running down my legs. I called out to Shana and Ava that my water had broken and I was ready to go back in the pool. Shana texted Miriam to let her know my water had broken and she said she was close by and would come back over soon. From then on I was in the pool and started to feel a lot of back pressure. I tried adjusting my position to see if I could relieve the pressure but I wasn’t having much luck and the contractions got to the point where I could no longer breathe through them, I just had to surrender to them completely and remind myself they would end soon. They started to be one on top of another and there would be 2-3 with no break at all between them. I told Shana about how much my back was hurting and she suggested I try moving to my hands and knees to see if it helped but I said I couldn’t move with the contractions happening so close together. Then I started involuntarily bearing down at 4pm and after a few of those contractions Shana again suggested I move to my hands and knees so she could try to apply counter pressure to my back. This time I forced myself to move despite how hard it felt to me and got onto my hands and knees with a nice fluffy towel to lean on over the side of the pool. I continued to involuntarily bear down and then started to push on purpose. Miriam arrived back at 4:35pm and Astrid Willa was born at 5:01pm. She came out with her eyes wide open and was incredibly alert right from her first moments outside my body. As soon as her body was out Miriam handed her over to me through my legs and and I rolled back over to sit back against the side of the pool and held my sweet new baby girl on my chest. Margot stood by my side and stroked my arm and her new sister’s arm and was the very proud big sister! Astrid pooped on me, and Margot thought that was really funny. 20 minutes later her cord stopped pulsing and it was clamped and cut by Ava. Then I handed Astrid over to Ava and Miriam and Shana helped me to the shower and then to my bed. After Miriam examined me Ava brought Astrid in to our room so Miriam could do her newborn exam. Then I nursed her for the first time and she pooped on me again! After a little bit Miriam gave me a hug goodbye and left. Shana hung out with me for a little while longer and then she went home to her family and I slept! 

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