The latest news is that my husband figured out how we can add two more seats to our Suburban, so when this baby comes I won't have to figure out how to squeeze ten people into an eight-passenger vehicle.
So what's going on with you today?
Michelle, I heartily agree, I've had someone tell me when I was pregnant with DD that "once you have a kid, your life is over". As if being a mother is so life-encompassing role that takes over your entire being?! I don't get that, it's not a role, it's a relationship in my life that I make time for and take time away from.
I think what many people secretly fear and judge is when a woman's life completely revolves around her kids that she neglects herself and her dreams to fulfill some unattainable ideal, becoming unhappy in the process. Then they make the mistake of assuming anyone who decides to stay at home is like that!
BTW, Kaitlin, gardening + photography = . Hope you get that garden plot! We're moving to an apartment with a huge roof-top terrace and I have big plans for an edible container garden on it. I've had luck last year on our current tiny balcony with peas, tomatoes, berries and herbs. So I'm super excited about having a lot more space this year to plant
Herbivora -- I went to school for photography and ran a business doing it for a few years when my first kids were young. I learned that I just didn't get the same joy from it when it was something I was doing for money. If I had to do over again, I would have kept photography as something that I did only for love (it's hard to make much money doing it, anyway). It can be something that contributes to your personal identity even when it doesn't come with a paycheck. Good luck to you with your choices. I think the most important thing is that following your heart *is* what makes you YOU, whether that leads to an outside business or to focusing within the family for a period of time. If your listening to yourself, then you're feeding your identity. When you're following after what you think you SHOULD do, then you're compromising yourself.
BWAHAHA. Don't you love it when someone tells you, "once you reach this milestone, your life is over!"? The wedding vows. The baby being born. The toddler walking. The teenager driving. Anything related to children, and if they are growing and improving like they should, YOUR WORLD IS FREAKING ENDING. My toddler can walk... over to the phone to fetch it when its ringing. Is my life over because I no longer have to get the phone myself? Um, no.
Single in-laws are probably the worst offenders on this point, but so many people bemoan childhood developments as intrusions on their own personal space, when really, its just an expansion of the child's world. Yours will go on, people. I promise :) Speaking of which, its fun to hear about everyone else's hobby balance. I used to embroider but havn't taken time for it lately. Sewing is a more currently relevant hobby. As are facebook BST groups lol.
Have a balanced day! ;)
Hello! I've been excited to jump into conversation ever since I checked back in this DDC and saw that traffic has increased since I first poked my head in here. Right now (1:21 am) is the first moment I've had all day. I, personally, don't have the work/home life balance just right at this moment.
Can I just make a blanket statement that I love that the women in this room seem so thoughtful and articulate off the bat? I am looking forward to just hanging around and soaking up your wisdom through osmosis as our pregnancies progress.
Caitlin, check out this book and ones like it by the same author. http://www.amazon.com/2X4-Furniture-Inexpensive-Great-Looking-Projects/dp/0806902949. Hopefully you could get your hands on some recycled 2x4s and complete some awesome projects this year. Oh, and I believe you'll come to a decision about what to do with your business when it becomes obvious to you what you should do. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got about making a tough decision is that sometimes you don't have to make any decision at all. Sometimes it's more prudent to wait until you have more "data" to on which to base your decision, and the reason it feels like a tough call at the moment is that you just don't yet know enough. Maybe you could give yourself a set amount of time to not think about it and keep doing what you're doing, while making an appointment with yourself to check in with afterwards and assess if it's time to make that decision yet. This is especially good advice if the decision process is feeling weirdly painful.
ditto, its been lovely to get to know everyone to start off with!