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post #81 of 113

hug2.gif. anylahminute.  Still praying for you and your family.

 

herbivore- yay for seeing a little heartbeat!

 

mataji4  I want my little man to be with me, too. I will be having a hospital birth during flu season, so I might have an uphill battle. Right now I see myself having 2 options for care providers, both are 2 hrs away but it will be totally worth it for the VBAC.  I still need to call the hospitals and ask some questions - the ability for DS to be with me during labor will definitely be a deciding factor.

 

AFM-  Trying to decide on care providers and setting up the first appt has been delayed by the fact that I just been called for a job interview! I am so excited and nervous. It would be a really big deal if I got this job. We would not have to move, but it would change a lot and allow a lot more options. Unfortunately, all the sick time I have saved up for another baby would disappear. And it is possible I would have this baby before my 6 month probationary period ended. I have much to negotiate if they offer me the job. I am just glad that I am not obviously showing. 

 

Fortunately, if I do not get the job, I am still very pleased with my current situation. We definitely could use more money, but we are happily plugging along. In fact, my current position offers all sorts of fringe benefits, including lots of flexibility to deal with family matters.  

 

I also posted on another thread about my concern with disappearing symptoms, but I have decided not to fret nor jump to conclusions.

post #82 of 113
Amylahminute: thinking of you and your family!

AFM: got my midwife picked and my first appointment set up for June 12th. It seems like its forever away, but I will only be 12 weeks, so about the right time to start. My TOTAL lack. Of pg symptoms made me decide to opt for the first trimester tests...just in case...I'd like to know sooner than later if something is wrong, but I'm slowly getting used to the idea of another little bean and I know somehow everything will work out because it has to! I just need to relax and focus on not worrying smile.gif. I also told my family today, and my mom and grandma are thrilled and expected to hear that I was pregnant soon! My grandma tsk tsked about my still BFing my youngest DD, she said "it's a hard world out there and she's being spoiled!" And she's ultra-conservative Catholic! I don't let that sort of thing get to me, but I thought to myself that it doesn't have to be a hard world!! I just smiled and said "yes, she's very attached to her milk still". Yeesh! She's only 23 months!
post #83 of 113

amylah - thinking of you and praying you have more info by now..

 

earthwalker - My symptoms completely disappeared for a week or so a couple of weeks back. I fretted and worried but it seems such a common thing (so says Google). Best of luck with the job interview! You're so brave for taking that on!

 

Lidamama - I breastfed DD until 26 months and we also had to hear a few comments... but DD seems still not to have forgotten it. Last night I told her "When the baby comes, I'll have milk so baby can drink and grow.". She smiled wide and exclaimed. "NO! ME! When baby comes, fill milk in boobs and I drink". orngbiggrin.gif  

 

AFM - Can I just vent for a second here? I have been in the worst of moods for the last couple of weeks. EVERYTHING is getting on my nerves. Poor DP is the target of most of my temper tantrums. I know it's hormones but I can't seem to shake it off. What's frustrating me even more is that at the moment I have two options: eat all the time or nausea. So I'm eating and so (I know this is a bit vain) I'm gaining weight and my clothes all now look too tight that I just feel uncomfortable all the time bag.gif. I'm trying to be patient and just wait for the end of this trimester, tell everyone and put on my big comfortable maternity jeans.

 

Even though I just started it on a negative note, hope you guys have a great week!

post #84 of 113
Thread Starter 
I just spent the last few minutes trying to figure out who AFM is that everybody is replying to, LOL.

I'm sorry, I read everybody's posts, but I just feel too sick to reply to everybody individually. Amylahminute, I hope you get some good news. And I hope everybody else has a good week.

Ugh. How did I do this over and over again for all those years? I spent most of my 20s basically pregnant nine months on and nine months off. And sick the ENTIRE pregnancy. But I had five years off, so I guess I forgot how hard it was! I can feel the nausea everywhere, especially in the back of my neck and my head. greensad.gif I've eaten so much hard candy trying to keep it at bay that my mouth hurts, too. Sigh. This is the last one!
post #85 of 113
Hi everyone! I too am always reading but my internet sucks and my phone is frustarting to use. I can't reply as much ad I would like!

I am having such a hard time, always wondering if this little will stick. It's taken over my brain and I wish I could just relax.
post #86 of 113
Hi everyone! I too am always reading but my internet sucks and my phone is frustarting to use. I can't reply as much ad I would like!

I am having such a hard time, always wondering if this little will stick. It's taken over my brain and I wish I could just relax.
post #87 of 113
Hi everyone! I too am always reading but my internet sucks and my phone is frustarting to use. I can't reply as much ad I would like!

I am having such a hard time, always wondering if this little will stick. It's taken over my brain and I wish I could just relax.
post #88 of 113

Lidamama, Kids have plenty of time to learn that the world can be hard sometimes. No need to for us to rush them into any hard lessons! But yeah, my grandma could not believe I was still nursing my son when he was only 1 yr old! She was both shocked, proud, and generally confused.

 

LilyKay- That is awesome that your daughter still has warm fuzzies for her milks! My DS is a bit older, and yesterday, I asked if he remembered nursing, and he said no. But then he crawled into my lap, got into a nursing position, leaned his head onto my chest and giggled. He weaned at 26 mos., so it has been just over a year.

 

As for your vent, I am right there with you. I have gained weight already, and my pants are tight in the waist.  And I can't wear some of my work shirts because I just look funny in them now. I can't wait until I am obviously pregnant! (but not until after my job interview.)

post #89 of 113
Mylah - I'm thinking of you. I really hope you pop in and update us all soon. I really hope everythings okay and you're just laid up with some epic level nausea wink1.gif

I'm definitely nauseous, and stress is not helping. I'm exhausted, dry heaving and pretty much just barely functioning. Everyone is trying to tell me to get a prescription for Diclectin, which would be fine, except for the fact I'm already on Zoloft and I want to take as few prescriptions as possible if I can. I've been told over and over how safe it is, but I'm still wary.

From what I understand, Diclectin is a time-release tablet of a combination of vitamin B6 and an anti-histamine. If we as pregnant women are cautioned against taking anything but Tylenol when sick, how is Diclectin okay? I understand in the case of hyperemesis gravidarium when you're literally dehydrated and starving that it can save you and the baby, and I'm all for it then. As for me, I think I'm going to try and suck it up as long as I can. I'm keeping food down and everything, just feeling like a zombie.

I'm stressing right now over money. Until the end of February I was watching a friend's kid, but since she had her second baby she's been home and I've been out $560 a month - and the husband and I are really finding it hard to cope with the loss. It's not helping that Alex hates his job and is treated like sh*t all the time. I feel so guilty about him having to keep it until this new baby is born, so he can have time off in December to help me.

I really wish there was something more I could do. I don't want to take on any more kids - it just doesn't work for us, I don't drive and don't have a double stroller so I'm literally housebound when watching other's children and it's really exacerbating my depression. I'd like to find a work-from-home type situation that isn't a scam.

Ideally, though, I want to have my sweetheart home with us, have us be almost entirely self-sufficient but it all seems like some impossible dream without a ton of money to start out. We can't even afford the lumber to build the planters we need to grow food, nor can we afford the dirt to fill them with. The plans for a garden this year have completely fallen through.

I guess I'm just discouraged. Sorry about the rambling.
post #90 of 113

I'm sorry to hear about all the stresses.  A few thoughts, have you tried adding some higher cholesterol foods?  You're vegan if I remember correctly so I'm not sure what that would be.  My go-to has been eggs.  I've been reading a lot lately that because your body uses cholesterol to create hormones that nausea is often due to a depletion of cholesterol.  Last pregnancy I lived on peppermint tea.  It was the only thing that settled my stomach enough to function.

 

About the garden, can you plant directly in the ground?  I've no money for lumber or soil either this year so I'm just going to rip up sod and plant directly in the ground this year. Maybe next year I'll have more to work with and do raised beds or at least have boundaries marked with wood. 

 

I hope things start looking up soon!

post #91 of 113
We're going to plant a little in the backyard but it's such a small space there's very little we can do there. The plan was to build three 2x4x8 foot planters by the side of the house on our cement pads (basically, our driveway extends all the way up the side of the house, more or less, and we don't need that much room). The only other plot of actual dirt is our sizeable front yard, but we have so many evergreen trees out there that the needles they throw prevent even a decent lawn from growing.
post #92 of 113

hug2.gif, herbivora!  I also had to give up plans for our garden this season. Same thing- can't afford the lumber or the soil! Right now it seems like most everything is getting moved to the "hopefully one day" list. Money matters can be so stressful. greensad.gif   Until you find some other way to earn money, have you tried saving via couponing? Or free online rewards sites? You don't get a whole bunch of money, but I have found the extra $5 amazon gift cards add up and can be helpful. 

post #93 of 113
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We're going to plant a little in the backyard but it's such a small space there's very little we can do there. The plan was to build three 2x4x8 foot planters by the side of the house on our cement pads (basically, our driveway extends all the way up the side of the house, more or less, and we don't need that much room). The only other plot of actual dirt is our sizeable front yard, but we have so many evergreen trees out there that the needles they throw prevent even a decent lawn from growing.


Bummer about all the cement pads.  Drat!  Do you guys have something like Freecycle up there?  Maybe you can lurk for things like old tubs, barrels, wagons and the like that you can pick up for free.  Or how about straw bales?  Have you heard about straw bale gardening?  They take the place of the container and the soil and don't cost much.  Also, there are quite a few things that don't mind growing in shade; leafy greens, potatoes and some other root vegetables.  It's not much but maybe just getting in the dirt will help and you won't feel quite so much that ALL your dreams are being put off.

post #94 of 113
Unfortunately, in Canada, while we have coupons, it's not as common here and we have a much more difficult time using them. No stores 'double' them, there's no 'stacking', and from what I've seen, they're all for the expensive brand name stuff we already don't use. Most of our groceries consist of fresh produce anyway. I really wish couponing was more of an option in Canada.

I save money by buying cheaper no-name brand staples we need, and by cooking big batches of food from scratch as much as possible and freezing it. As vegans, we also save because there's no meat or eggs to buy. Even so, sometimes it just doesn't seem like enough.
post #95 of 113
I am sad for you! Growing food is the best! If you find you can get together a little bit of money, I would suggest growing leafy greens. Swiss chard does wonderful in the colder climates! If I can grow leafy greens year round, I call it success. (Everything else is bonus!) I hope you can grow something (aside from a baby wink1.gif ) !!! <3
post #96 of 113
Thank you Owl!

We have a majorly productive apple tree, some raspberry plants and some really great rhubarb so it's not a complete loss if I can't grow this year, but I kinda had my heart set on really buckling down and getting our little suburban homestead off the ground this year.
post #97 of 113
Michell, AFM stands for "As For Me" and I usually use it when I am done talking to othes people and speaking about myself.

I made it through another day of work.
post #98 of 113
Lilykay: I had to pull out my mat clothes at 6 weeks w/DD2, and my goal is to make it to 8 with this bean, because all my work pants have a stretchy waist. Today was tight, though...just saying there is no rule you have to wear regular clothes until the second tri wink1.gif. I was super-hormonal when pregnant w/DD2 too...must be a second child thing...I'm totally stoned calm with this one, though (just to be clear, I'm not actually stoned...)

Herbivora: sorry to hear about your $$ issues. It doesn't seem to matter how much you make, it's still a stress. We are a double-income family and we are still always short of money, not because we spend frivolously, but because of the lifestyle we have to lead to work 2 jobs, which we have to work to maintain our lifestyle...it's a vicious circle...I've suggested to DH we move out of the city somewhere so that he can stay home with the kids and I can support us, but he doesn't like country life greensad.gif so, until I can get a few more promotions, we are stuck in our endless circle eyesroll.gif

Sorry to hear about everyone else's sickies greensad.gif
post #99 of 113

Well, it's officially over, girls. My hCG plummeted from 2050 -> 835 -> and down to 192 today. At least I think this will be a natural miscarriage and won't require medication or a D&C.

I had/am having a wave of grief since the doctor told me he was sorry. Him finally acknowledging for the first time all the worries I've had over the last 4 days just made me kind of lose it.  DH has been a rock and I have my healthy little one at home to make me smile.

 

Anyway, I truly, truly wish you all the best with your pregnancies - a happy/healthy 8 months to you, and you can bet I'll be stalking this group when December rolls around.

 

With love,

Mylah

post #100 of 113

I'm so sorry!  *hugs*

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