Congratulations aidenn! That's all great news. katalopolis, may your marriage be as peaceful and loving as you guys look in the photo; congratulations! CookAMH, hope your hubby is all healed soon. Hugs to those of you dealing with XHs and moving and such...that's gotta be stressful whilst pregnant! nettlesoup, the wedding looked lovely. I ADORE her red dress, and you look beautiful. Congrats on your wee boy! :)
AFM, the maple syrup continues ad nauseum. Seriously, this is such a heavily-flowing season that we're considering just pulling the taps rather than making more syrup (more DH than I, because I like to hoard things like maple syrup, home canned produce, etc). DS has had a cold, but is on the mend. We're going to a friends cabin on Saturday to spend the day playing in the muck and snow, eating, singing and visiting to celebrate his birthday. Then, in the evening, we'll head to a friend's roller derby bout. The roller derby team from our area is relatively new, but there are a few teams in our region, so we're excited to cheer our team and check it out. I'm into my maternity clothes more heavily now, although I don't really feel comfortable in anything. I'm in that in-between stage where nothing fits effortlessly...my belly isn't big enough to really fill out the full panels, the under bump elastic stuff is not comfortable, and my regular pants just plain don't button. Princess and the pea over here!
I have a MW appointment on Monday (about a 5 hour round trip for us in the car). I've been re-considering plans for home birth. Suffice it to say that I have concerns about the midwife in terms of distance, lack of assistant or backup and some recent judgement calls she has made with other local clients (one of which peripherally involved me...another long story). I am less than confident in her care, and feel that it might impact my stress levels and confidence heading into birthing time. My intuition is creeped out right now, and I'm trying to balance my intuition with my intellect. I've heard no negative things from clients about my midwife, but she recently transferred a client to hospital after pushing for an inappropriately long amount of time. I saw the client for lactation care and she shared her story with me, so I know it's not just hearsay. She was very happy with her care and glad that she'd hired the midwife and stayed home as long as she had before ending up with a cesarean birth. But I feel that I look at everything through a pretty critical eye because of my professional experience...which sort of hamstrings me sometimes, because I try to just think as my own pregnant mama-self about my pregnancy and birthing, and not as my nurse self. It's just not always that I succeed in this!
While I have no wish to have a hospital birth, there are no other midwifery options in our region that I'm comfortable with (the other two MWs are not CPMs and do not have good reputations for safe decision-making, IMO). I could travel to my old midwifery team about 8 hours away, staying with my ILs until birthing, but that would exclude DH because he couldn't take weeks off of work, and would be tremendously difficult to travel home with a newborn and a sore bottom. So, my other option is to birth in the hospital that I work in; I'm going to discuss this with my midwife and the OB I've been using for tandem care (who is, as yet, unaware that I'm planning a home birth). I'm hopeful that if I decide to birth in hospital, the OB will be able to work with what I have a strong preference for (minimal monitoring, as low-intervention as possible, early discharge, etc). Since I work there, I'm hoping that if I decide to birth there, I can have a bit of carte blanche in terms of my care plan, of course within the bounds of what's safe and sane. I have a few co-workers that I know I wouldn't fit well with, but in the grand scheme of things, it would probably be fine because I'll have support with me who can guard my birthing space (both physical and mental). I have an OB appointment on the 29th, and plan to discuss it with her then, although I feel a little anxious to disclose home birth plans knowing that it will likely be an issue at every subsequent appointment unless I declare that I'm birthing in the hospital.
Ok, sorry for the novel, just have had that on my mind a lot the past week or so, so it's just spilling out. I hope everyone has a lovely weekend. Please cross all fingers that we don't get any more snow around here...it's in the forecast and I am SO beyond done with winter weather.