vc2013, I'm glad to hear that you're able to move forward and have some people who you can count on. It's good to be honest about your humanity and realize that other people have (had) the same struggles or at least don't judge you for being fallible. Sounds like you're doing well!
As for the midwife, I can't remember which other thread I mentioned this in: YOU are paying her so she is there to serve your needs. At some point you may need to be blunt with her and say something like "I hired your services to support me in this endeavor and while I'm sure you mean well by warning me etc. it's only adding more stress to my life."