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Need some support: dh trouble & (possible) early labor

post #1 of 12
Thread Starter 
I think I have transitioned into early labor. Just had, am having, a huge fight with dh who is stressing out about work & money and telling me that emailing a colleague to say that he might miss tomorrow's meeting due to labor is "letting his colleague down"!!!!!!!

I'm getting a lot of negativity and I am just so hurt that dh is being this way! I feel unsupported, just like at my last birth with my ex-husband. That fiasco led to a hb transfer.

I can barely put thoughts together right now, but any words of wisdom appreciated. This situation is my every nightmare come true!
post #2 of 12

I'm so sorry :( I'd just avoid him as long as possible, he's probably just running on emotions with baby coming so close vs. really being upset. 

post #3 of 12
Thread Starter 
Thanks, AlaskanMomma, that's part of my plan. My awesomesauce doula reminds me that when practicing meditation, as thoughts arise, note them only so much that you let them go rather than hold on to them.

That helped a lot and it's what I am working somewhat successfully to do with tonight's drama.

Your outreach helps me feel less alone and that is a good thing.
post #4 of 12
Sorry you are going thru this. I agree with alaskanmama. Hugs!
post #5 of 12
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

I'm so sorry :( I'd just avoid him as long as possible, he's probably just running on emotions with baby coming so close vs. really being upset. 

 

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post #6 of 12

hug.gif  So sorry MountainMama!  

 

I agree with AlaskanMomma.  This is his first baby.  He may just be freaking out a bit and trying to hold onto whatever control he has left (in this case a work meeting).  This must be bringing up a bunch of past issues for you that are very difficult.  Try to remember that your DH, though not perfect (no one is) is not your ex.

 

Hopefully by now he is already back from his meeting and you are laboring peacefully at home.  If not, would he be willing to keep his phone with him on vibrate, so you could text him if you needed him?

 

goodvibes.gifSending you good vibes for a peaceful birth.  om.gif

post #7 of 12
Mountainmama, just remember that he is probably totally bewildered by the entire situation, and has no control over anything right now. His response was way less than ideal, but not, I'm sure, meant to hurt you or the babe in any way.

Many, many ELV to you! I hope today is your day!
post #8 of 12

Sorry you are going through this. I think we are all on edge because we don't know what is going to happen when and how. Even though we haven't been fighting, I can tell dh is anxious about work too. He wants to have things wrapped up at work, he is worried about me, and of course we have know clue when. 

 

I hope you're doing better today. You've been a rock of support for lots of mamas here.

post #9 of 12

*hugs* It definitely sounds like the stress of anxiety of a newborn is weighing on him. He will hopefully snap out of it. Sending you lots of ELVs!

post #10 of 12
Thread Starter 
Ladies! He totally snapped out of it!


Thank you all so much for your wisdom and words of support. I was indeed in early labor, had our beautiful son yesterday afternoon and both of us rose to meet the occasion with loving support and loving surrender as appropriate.

It was beautiful.
post #11 of 12

joy.gif Congratulations to all and welcome baby!   champagne.gif Enjoy your baby moon!

post #12 of 12
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Originally Posted by MountainMama15 View Post

Ladies! He totally snapped out of it!


Thank you all so much for your wisdom and words of support. I was indeed in early labor, had our beautiful son yesterday afternoon and both of us rose to meet the occasion with loving support and loving surrender as appropriate.

It was beautiful.

 

That is wonderful. I'm so happy you had a blessed experience. 

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