Kids stomping and playing
A new acquaintance of mine is having the exact same issue. They rented a condo and the man downstairs (who owns his unit, which probably makes him more bitter) has even gotten the cops involved (who were unimpressed, let me tell you), all because of one 2 year old boy who happens to be an early riser and has a nasty habit of *gasp* walking on a hardwood floor. Unfortunately, they're thinking of moving just to escape this guy, he even blew an airhorn at the ceiling at them one day and posted the whole thing on Facebook. :(
Anyway. The cops said that they certainly won't do anything and that there just really isn't anything *to* do about it.
Part of living in an apartment is that there is some level of noise from the adjoining apartments. Obviously it's possible to make more noise than is acceptable, but it isn't fair to expect neighbors to make no noise whatsoever either. Kids that age don't weigh much and there's only so hard they can stomp. I think I'd keep them from going nuts as much as possible, but this sounds like her problem more than yours. If she doesn't want kids in adjoining apartments, there are some apartments made for people only age 50 and up, aren't there? But maybe she isn't 50 yet.
I guess OTOH if you couldn't hear her knock maybe they are getting too loud? I don't know your apartment layout but I guess I don't want to assume she is completely wrong when I don't know that much about the situation. Kids have to be free to make a certain amount of noise in their own house, but there's still the concept of "indoor voices" and "outdoor voices."
It can't be easy to live in an apartment with kids. I have lived in apartments, but not since I had kids. I remember living under a stomper, but it wasn't that big of a deal, and that was a large adult. There's no way little kids could make such a big racket just walking around. Unless they're jumping off furniture maybe? I guess I'd keep that from happening, but they can't be expected to not move around either.
If I were you, I'd try to be a bit more conscientious about excess thumping and possibly limit the more active play to a specific part of your apartment.
Really? How can you get a 2 yr old to not excessively "thump"?? What does that even mean? Make them tiptoe?
I live in a 2 BR apt as well with my 4yr old and 2.5 yr old. We live on the 2nd floor. There are certain things I try to get them not to do - like chase each other in the house, jump off the couch or their bed, bounce balls in the house, etc. But they are young kids and I don't want to give them anxiety about not making noise. They like to wrestle and march and skip, etc and I just don't always stop them. DS2 likes to get up pretty early, like 6am - so I do make sure he isn't loud until its an appropriate morning time. But then they are in bed by 8:30pm or so and we're not home all day, so I really don't worry too much because I figure we're really not keeping our downstairs neighbors up at ungodly hours of the night and if they didn't want to deal with it they would not have moved into an apt and they most certainly would have made sure to get an apt on a higher floor.
Not only that, but I grew up with a Dad who hated pounding and thumping and we'd always get in trouble for it when playing upstairs in our room; in a house we owned. I never wanted my kids to worry too much about making noise the way I did growing up.
Now, our upstairs neighbors have 2 kids and they are stompers. They are pretty loud actually. Like sometimes it sounds like they are upstairs by themselves with a herd of elephants with them. We have not complained yet as having kids of our own, we can understand to some extent. The problem with them is they do not go to bed at a decent hour. The kids will be up until 10 or 11pm at night jumping around chasing each other. The other night the younger boy was in the stairwell at 12:30am having a tantrum! But honestly, when they are doing it during the day I hardly notice.
Well that's good news! I was going to chime in that my parent's owned a 2 family up/down that I grew up in - we had the first floor 3 bedroom, and rented the 2nd floor which was 2 bedrooms. When the old guy, long time tennant, passed away, my parents were excited to clean up the place (he was a smoker) but were not sure what we'd get moving in and they though they got lucky when a friend of the family had an acquaintance look at the place - young couple with a baby. They moved in, and while the baby was quiet, the adults were not!! Every other conversation was "F you" and "go to hell!"...and apparently they had a lot of make up sex bc my parents go to hear it every night :-P Moral of the story, sharing walls with strangers almost never works out well!
When people complain about children being children, I just think that deep down they don't like children (which means they have some major issues). If you guys had a dog she would complain about that. If you had a goldfish she would complain. Some folks are in the habit of complaining. Be happy, raise your kids, be kind to her if you see her. The rest is her responsibility.
I think if it is late at night or early AM noise on a regular basis, I can understand her concern, but other than that....sorry! It's an apartment!
I have been that annoying neighbor to an extent...but only when the noise was excessive and went on past 11:00 PM or so and only when I had babies or young children who needed to sleep. I never approached the neighbors myself..I went through the leasing office or the landlord...or in a couple of cases the police (loud parties that occasionally led to fights).