My DD isn't friends with many boys, except one, who is openly bisexual. I have let him come along to sleepovers a couple of times, because they're 12. I know that no one would try anything, first of all, and second, at that age, it's pretty arbitrary. Mechanically, even if this boy had wanted to try something, I don't think penetration or pregnancy *could* likely occur, and certainly not in front of 4 other people. Second, in this age of kids (and people in general) being open about their sexuality, there is wayyyy too much fluidity to make these kinds of hard and fast gender sleepover rules anymore. If your daughter said she was gay, would you let boys sleep over? Probably not. The safest bet to make is that "everyone's a little gay sometimes" (to quote Honey BooBoo) and treat them all accordingly. Everyone sleeps in the living room. DDs best friend has a 15 year old sister who regularly has co-ed sleepovers and no one has gotten pregnant, lost their virginity, or done more than awkwardly closed mouth kiss in front of their peers. Just closely supervise and make sure no one is wandering off (the 15 year olds parents split up so one sleeps in their room and the other in the guest room so they would know if anyone wandered in) and set the house alarm so no one opens doors and you're good.
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4/22/13 at 1:39pm