DS (11 months) has been in daycare full time for about 5 weeks now. The first place did not work out, and after two weeks I pulled him out and found a new place. It is a home daycare near my house, and I really like the caregiver. From what I see, he is adjusting well. He no longer cries when I drop him off, he reaches out to the caregiver when she meets me at the door, smiles at her, etc. But she says he still cries a fair amount throughout the day, especially if she needs to leave the room for a second to get something, change another child's diaper, go the bathroom herself, etc. I'm not too concerned about that, assuming it will get better over time and that he is still adjusting. He's not napping well at all there, my only real concern, and I'm sure that is contributing to his being upset over small things there, which is not how he is at home.
The caregiver seems to think, though, that his clinginess is because he's too dependent on me, citing the fact that I carry him in the sling and cosleep. She has asked me if I could push him in the stroller on the way to her house (3 block walk) instead of carrying him in the sling, thinking that this will help him become independent. I don't see how this could possibly help, and I don't see any reason why an 11 month old needs to be more independent. Plus I just don't use the stroller much so I don't keep it in the apt and getting it out will add 5-10 minutes to our morning routine. But I know that she means well and I want her to feel like we are working together to help him adjust.
How can I help her understand AP? And/or help DS adjust?