I'm curious what other mamas are planning to do with their older kiddos during labor, birth, and the first few days for those who will be staying in the hospital after the birth.
As of right now, I'm planning on giving birth at the hospital and making arrangements for my older 4 kids through the 2 day hospital stay following her birth. The dynamics of this birth are a little different this time around, because previously my ex-laws were very instrumental in caring for the older kids. My mom is flaky at best when it comes to depending on her to be a critical part of a plan, and his mom is too old to to care for all 4 kids for more than a few hours at a time. My tentative plan as of this moment, is my older two girls stay with his mom (she doesn't have to lift them, change them, etc.) and I'm hoping the younger two can stay with my ex's parents and 2 aunts who all live together. The other option would be for all the kids to stay home, and possibly get Eric's older daughter to come out and stay at the house with the kids, with Eric popping in and out. I just hate to have his daughter spending so much time watching the kids, like that is why we had her out, because it wouldn't be. Yet another option would be having their dad stay with them at our house-he rents a room from a friend, and there's no room for kids-but he works full time, so he wouldn't even be available during the day. In the end, it will probably end up being a hybrid plan of the kids staying at home, with people coming to care for them at different times.
While logic would say Eric should be at home with the kids while I'm in the hospital, this is only his second child, and his daughter is 23, so it's been awhile. This baby is a big deal for him, and he's really excited and wanting to be involved with every moment, so I want him to be there with the baby as much as possible-if we can work it out.
I've also thought about coming home asap after she's born, but frankly, once I'm home, I'll be juggling 5 kids. As selfish as it might sound, I want the couple days of being in the hospital and not worrying about anyone but the baby and myself.
ETA: I plan to have my two older girls at the hospital for the birth, and his daughter if she's in town for it, so I will also need to have at least one adult there to take care of the girls incase there's an emergency and they need to leave the room, and just to see to their needs while Eric is seeing to mine.