Dakipode: I did some research into division of household labor when I was in college, and overwhelmingly, women do the indoor work and men do the outdoor work. Even as women and men work equally difficult and demanding jobs outside the home, the household chores, which involve much more time than say, taking out the garbage once a week, fall on the shoulders of the woman. When interviewing people, I was surprised that women said they "liked" the indoor stuff, because I argued with everyone that (I feel) no one likes to take out garbage or wash dishes. But we do these things because we have to and they get split up as they do because we do what we see/have seen in our lives. Unless something makes you think about how unfair it is, and you change. In my house growing up, for example, I was one of three girls. We never had to take out the garbage, rake leaves, or do anything outdoors. I wish that I would have had some more of those responsibilities/skills early on. My husband and I are not super handy, so we both have to learn as we go because it does not come naturally for either of us. I do lots of outdoor work, like mowing the lawn, shoveling, raking, etc. I like that it gets me moving and makes me uses muscles I do not usually use (come to think of it, fewer people actually do manual labor anymore...with ride on movers, leaf and snow blowers. I want my children, male or female, to see their Dad washing dishes, cooking, and doing laundry and to see their Mom fix a leaky faucet or put a piece of furniture together and vice versa, because it encourages a sense of equality and respect. Equality in that we are all capable people and respect in that there are many things that must get done to keep our household going, and we all do our share. If something needs to be done, you do it....you don't leave it for your spouse because it is his or her "job"...does that make sense? We don't try to just reverse roles, instead, we try very hard to take 50%..indoors and out...though I get lazy sometimes and my husband ends up doing most of the work....
All of those things you said you would like your son to learn are very good skills to have. It would still be good for him to have a male model of it, too, though. (PS. Kids love helping their parents with all of those daily activities, and they are where a lot of learning takes place, problem solving/reasoning, communication, self-help, fine motor, social, etc.) One day, his future partner will be glad that you and your spouse raised him the way you did!
One of my biggest pet peeves is when at family dinners everyone is done eating, and the women inevitably get up and start clearing the table while the men just sit there, or go into the other room to watch television. I am glad that my husband, although never expected to do ANYTHING in the home growing up, stands up with the women and helps (sometimes I stay seated, just to prove a point). The plates get cleared much faster when everyone pitches in. I just don't know how people can just sit there and watch others practically wait on them, especially when the women also did the cooking, as is often the case.
Okay, I am officially done venting/going off on a tangent about my extended family!
If I could add one more things, if we try to let go of "girl activities" and "boy activities" then we won't have to think so much. Instead, maybe we can just do fun stuff with our kids (and all of those pesky chores). Then they will experience more of life and have lots of different, useful skills! (Why do many parents hesitate to give their sons dolls to play with? Isn't it a good idea for a big brother or a one day father to know a thing or two about nurturing and taking care of a baby??? Of course he does not need 800 of them, like people tend to think my daughter does. We have two dolls that she named George and Sal, two is more than enough!)