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natural living mammas?

post #1 of 48
Thread Starter 
Are there any natural living type mammas here? Like not doing any u/s or maybe only 1? Not taking any meds/using natural alternatives? Planing an uninvasive birth, pregnancy with little tests etc? We're pretty holistic and seeing if any other mammas here are and what type of pregnancy are you going for?
Even though we had a loss, we're not doing any extra tests or scans or anything with this baby. We had one u/s with ds2 but we might even skip that this time. Planning for a homebirth too, since I deliver so quickly and the drive to my mw was grueling last time smile.gif
post #2 of 48

same here. with our #1 we had no u/s, nothing but an initial blood test in the first trimester. i was very happy with our first experience. we also had a long drive to the birth center and planning a homebirth for this one. we were living in guatemala and the road was, um, bumpy to say the least. 45 minutes! i hope that a MW we find here will be as hands off as last time, assuming there's no need to be hands on :) 

post #3 of 48

Yes!  I am not planning on doing u/s but if it becomes necessary I will only do 1.   No meds just herbs and organic vitamins since food is not really my friend these days... No sickness just nothing but meat sounds good. 

 

We are a having a HB (our 1st) but dd and ds's births were as natural as could be in a hospital setting. 

post #4 of 48

awww that's how i was with my #1 (a boy) .... no sickness and just wanted meat, meat, meat :) this time around i'm a sickie and food is lame! :)

post #5 of 48

We are having one ultrasound. Im planning my third homebirth with my midwife who is very uninvasive. No doppler, checking cervix, etc. a pregnancy and birth like my last two and I loved it that way! Im hoping for a very relaxed, calm birth with my husband and midwife, mother, and a handful of close friends. I love women around me while I birth just chatting and being supportive! Anyways thats my birthing dream :)

post #6 of 48

Yes. I have had 2 home births and 1 natural-as-possible hospital birth. i did have 1 ultrasound in each pregnancy, but thats it. we forgo the rest of the tests. I'm hoping for another home birth this time. i had a lovely hands off midwife at my last homebirth and i look forward to working with her again.

post #7 of 48

Same here! Planning a home birth, 1 u/s at 18-20wks, no tests, no meds :) This will be our 2nd home birth. We've also had losses (early) but are still going this route and feel most comfortable with it. We'll have the midwife use the doppler at 12wks because we are eager to hear the heart beat. Once baby is big enough we'll use the fetascope. We did one planned u/s with DS and then ended up having to do an additional one at 32 wks when I was in a car accident.

post #8 of 48
Thread Starter 
How were the home births? This would be our first. Haven't really talked to dh anout it yet, but he was the one nervewrackingly driving, thinking I was going to deliver in the car, so pretty sure he'll be on board. The mw admin lady said it's easier to plan a hb and can change our minds later. I guess so all is ready just in case. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
Not sure about the u/s yet. We had way too many with ds1 (darn drs) and only 1 with ds2. Our loss had 2, because like you Sila, I was in a car accident, but they read the first u/s wrong and caused undo stress. The only test we're doing is the triple screen and then def a follow up with the u/s if it comes back positive. Only doing that because I'm older now and I think it would effect hb plans if pos. But if it doesn't, I just don't know yet. We're not finding out the sex. Maybe if it's a short u/s later in the second tri I might consider.
Pretty excited about the prospect of a hb smile.gif I have one close by friend to call for sure and one I'd like to take pics after baby is born. I don't think dh would like a house full of people though, and going by the other two, my labour isn't long enough for friends to stop by and offer support, then leave. Now if my mil is hete already....well, haven't thought about that yet, lol.
post #9 of 48

homebirths are... lovely. my first two babies were born at home, my last was born in the hospital (for financial reasons) and there is no comparison. And I think I had a really great for a hospital birth, my doctor and nurse stayed pretty hands off, they really respected my wishes. I caught my baby and they gave me zero problems about no iv, no hospital gown, no eye ointment, no vax. I'm sure it helped that this was my 3rd baby and so I knew what I was doing. It certainly wasn't what they were used to (they totally paniced when my water broke in the tub. LOL!), found out afterwards they have a 95% epidural rate at that hospital. Anyway, homebirths are way better. it's just so much more relaxing at home. and more relaxes means less pain, means you can really ENJOY the birth (not that you are always comfortable, it is labor). how many women really enjoy birth? say you did to a bunch of moms and you wil get some crazy looks. LOL

post #10 of 48

No u/s planned, having a homebirth, taking food-based prenatal instead of some nasty prescription vitamin. I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow and haven't had an appointment yet(mostly because we need to meet with some midwives and decide who we want to attend the birth and my husband's job keeps interfering with scheduling). As far as testing, I'll probably do the basic blood tests and the GD test(I have some risk factors for it) but that's mostly because it will help my midwife out. Homebirth is still kind of controversial in SD even though it's 100% legal and the midwives who attend them have to report to the SD Board of Nursing. I know having cooperative patients and positive test results reflects well on them and on homebirth as a whole, at least as far as the board is concerned. It doesn't bother me to give a little extra blood if it will help more women be able to have homebirths here in the future. But I don't plan on doing anything else beyond that unless something comes up that make me feel like we need to do it.

post #11 of 48

I'm planning on doing things pretty naturally and avoiding unnecessary interventions. I don't even take a multivitamin! Here in the UK it seems like low-risk mamas aren't offered as many tests as in the US, and so far I've been very happy with the care offered. For antenatal care I'll be doing one ultrasound scan at 13 weeks and another around 20, as well as blood tests, blood pressure checks, urine tests, and having midwife listen for baby's heartbeat with doppler from 16 weeks. I might be offered the GD test because my mother is diabetic, but I will likely decline it. For labour I'm planning a natural hospital birth, using water and maybe gas and air but no other pain medications. My local hospital is certified baby-friendly and I don't anticipate having to fight the policies: rooming in is standard, mamas choose to bathe their babies when they like (actually I think full baths aren't even recommended till 2 weeks or later here?), hepatitis B vaccine is not offered, and I don't think my hospital even performs circumcisions. 

post #12 of 48

Me! I fully believe that prenatal care is really the care a woman takes of herself and not something that is done to you.

 

Did the initial blood draw, am ok with hearing the heartbeat via Doppler, and will have a 20wk ultrasound if the Midwife asks for one, but other than that, I'm not doing anything (unless you count taking a food-based prenatal vitamin as something).

 

My house is not conducive to a homebirth (bathroom and bedroom have a narrow switchback staircase between them) so I'm planning a no-intervention Birth Center birth. I even have the Midwives' word that they will leave the room if/when asked.

 

-MQ

post #13 of 48

I've always wanted a natural home birth, and that's what I'll try for, though my midwife can also deliver at the hospital if a transfer needs to happen. Initially, my DP was incredibly freaked out by the notion of me giving birth at home, simply because of "in case something goes wrong". I just stopped mentioning it for a while, and in the meantime we watched "The Business of Being Born"... A month or two passed, and then this past weekend I read Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth: It was such a great book, and I couldn't help but read bits of it aloud to DP. Next thing you know, she's making casual reference to when we get the house ready for the birth, and discussing the practicalities of setting up a birthing tub in our living room! So I guess I'm finally learning the art of letting her come 'round to things in her own time... No doubt a useful skill to have for my future life as a parent... winky.gif

post #14 of 48
I'm going for a natural as can be hospital midwife attended birth... But I'm also realistic that stuff happens (like 13 kidney stones like my last). I've had one ultrasound because ideas scared of ectopic, but will only have one more after that at 20 weeks. Normal first tri blood test (diseases... No afp, triple screen, no amnio etc). Food based gd test.
post #15 of 48
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I've always wanted a natural home birth, and that's what I'll try for, though my midwife can also deliver at the hospital if a transfer needs to happen. Initially, my DP was incredibly freaked out by the notion of me giving birth at home, simply because of "in case something goes wrong". I just stopped mentioning it for a while, and in the meantime we watched "The Business of Being Born"... A month or two passed, and then this past weekend I read Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth: It was such a great book, and I couldn't help but read bits of it aloud to DP. Next thing you know, she's making casual reference to when we get the house ready for the birth, and discussing the practicalities of setting up a birthing tub in our living room! So I guess I'm finally learning the art of letting her come 'round to things in her own time... No doubt a useful skill to have for my future life as a parent... winky.gif

That is great!!

post #16 of 48

/waves

We'll do one ultrasound, after 20 weeks sometime, because we have two boys, and my husband really wants time to deal with having three, if that's what we get.  :)

Other than that, we're pretty non-interventive.  I had a homebirth last time, which was pretty nice, and my first birth was breech at the Farm, which was super awesome.  Planning another homebirth this time, and I'm considering telling the midwife to wait in the other room most of the time.  Or at least not to touch me or talk to me...  :)
 

post #17 of 48
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/waves

We'll do one ultrasound, after 20 weeks sometime, because we have two boys, and my husband really wants time to deal with having three, if that's what we get.  :)

Other than that, we're pretty non-interventive.  I had a homebirth last time, which was pretty nice, and my first birth was breech at the Farm, which was super awesome.  Planning another homebirth this time, and I'm considering telling the midwife to wait in the other room most of the time.  Or at least not to touch me or talk to me...  :)
 

Wow the Farm!? Legendary! I'm also a very hands off, let me do this alone laborer. Last time my midwife and husband did a fabulous job at letting me be until I needed them. I'm assuming I will respond to labor in the generally the same way as last time since this is how I deal with intense feelings/emotions and physical exertion in my daily life. My doula is a close friend and I know she will understand and will be there when I need her :)

post #18 of 48

Doing a half-way natural, noninterventive pregnancy, I guess. My cousin is a student midwife, and she will be attending out home birth. Because she would have to refer to do any lab tests or ultrasounds, I decided to also follow with an obstetrician from my hospital/clinic (I work for a healthcare system) so that they would be covered by insurance, and then should anything go wrong, we'd have back-up care to transfer to. So, we're doing another ultrasound at 20 weeks to find out gender (this is our first and can't wait to find out!), besides having done a dating ultrasound at 6 weeks because of spotting and irregular cycles and then the OB had the ultrasound all ready at yesterday's first visit at 11w3d (already had 2 previously with MW & 3rd that same night, lol), so I just went with it since I was undecided on what to do for that.

 

I'm going to refuse the quad screen I think and definitely will not be doing amniocentesis. I'm kind of wishing that I hadn't established with the OB, but it was nice to have the reassurance of the ultrasounds since it is our first and we had an early miscarriage the cycle before this conception, so I was definitely worried about this one. If we decide to have another in a couple years (fairly likely, DH and I both love having siblings), I'm going to just have the midwife.

 

MW is very non-interventive and does not do cervical checks unless I ask her to. So far our visits have been just talking & documenting my history and going over her advice. The next one at about 14-15 weeks she's going to listen with the fetoscope and then will leave it with us so we can listen any time we want. :) She's also teaching us how to check fundal height, do cervical checks, etc., in case we want to do them ourselves too.

post #19 of 48

I have my first "official" visit with my MW this afternoon, but we've already talked a lot about the sorts of things I want.  Which is pretty in tune with how she is anyway. thumb.gif  My home isn't really a good place to have a birth for several reasons, so I'll be birthing at a freestanding birth center.  My MW says that her job is to make sure that things are done safely, not stick fingers a bunch of places and tell me what to do all labor.  I mean, heck!  She doesn't even use a doppler!  Just a long skinny old fashioned fetoscope.  I love it.  She hooked me up with a whole-foods based prenatal which I'm doing well with.  They aren't horse pills and they don't upset my stomach unless I take them without food.  She doesn't do U/S and doesn't even recommend them until after 20 weeks IF someone really wants one.  I figure we'll do one after 20 weeks just to make sure that there is nothing structurally wrong that could affect the delivery.  We don't want to know the sex, and we don't want a bunch of tests.  The initial blood work and stuff, yeah, but since we won't abort if something is wrong we don't see the point in stressing ourselves out by seeking out problems.  I am so unbelievably chill about this entire pregnancy (and it's my first!) that I don't think I could be anything other than granola anyway!  I was absolutely sure I'd be one of those FTM who was freaked out by every little thing......  ROTFLMAO.gif

post #20 of 48
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Wow the Farm!? Legendary! I'm also a very hands off, let me do this alone laborer. Last time my midwife and husband did a fabulous job at letting me be until I needed them. I'm assuming I will respond to labor in the generally the same way as last time since this is how I deal with intense feelings/emotions and physical exertion in my daily life. My doula is a close friend and I know she will understand and will be there when I need her :)

 

The funniest thing was that I'd never heard of the place before I went there.  We visited and were talking to Ina May and another midwife, and they were like, "You've never read Spiritual Midwifery or Ina May's Guide to Childbirth?!"  :)   I felt kind of bad, like I'd insulted them, but I was just learning all this stuff.  I had been reading What to Expect for most of the pregnancy.  :)

My midwife from last time is pretty non-interventive, but I'm pretty anti-social, so we just called her really late in labor, when I was in transition and started feeling like calling the midwife would somehow make the labor be OVER.  :) 

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