Hapersmion-wow. I'd love to meet her. I need to reread her book. I'm starting to feel like your dh, if it's another boy, I think I want to know, lol.
Ultrafighter-it's either going to be the birth center again for us-it was very nice there-or home. Your mw sounds like mine-they're pretty hands off and do what the mom wants. I'm taking the rainbow light food prenatals and they only just started to contribute to my nausea.
So I'm starting to get very on the fence about the blood work and u/s. I read a little about the Harmony prenatal and that it's more accurate, but also saw a lot of moms with false +. Not even sure if it's available where I am. I'm trying to figure out if lab work or a u/s would be more accurate for markers that something is going to be wrong, meaning we'll need to deliver at a hospital. At least that's what I gather in my mind, I don't know if anyone knowingly home births/birth center with a baby that might need extra help right away. I'm thinking I could just ask for a 20+ wk u/s and have them look real close for markers or any abnormalities. With ds1, they sent us for a level 2 because the lab work test was +, but they had the week wrong. Baby was fine, but that was stressful. I wasn't thinking to get a u/s at all, since I didn't want to know the sex, but our boys keep asking us if it's a boy or girl and like Hapersmion's dh, I'm starting to struggle with if it's another boy, well, I might want to know that and get prepared for clothes, either way. We gave so much away and have no girl things. Do those sound like stupid reasons? What would be more accurate for finding out a defect-u/s or lab work?
I've already decided no internals, they don't make sense to me. With ds1 (obgyn), they did many and got us worked up because I was 70% effaced, 3cm and baby was low at 40wks. He was induced! Blood pressure was high though, to give them a smidge of credit on the induction. With ds2 they (mw) did 2 because my bxh were so strong, even though I didn't really want them. At 39wks my mw said nothing was going on, she'd see me the next week, and ds was born the next morning :) So no internals unless I start spotting or something goes wrong like my bp again and I'm having major ctx like w/ ds1 early on.
Oh, anyone recommend a good fetascope? Or would a stethoscope work just as well later?