My 2y4m DD loves to nurse. I mean, LOVES it. I accept it because I know she has always been high needs about nursing. When she was a newborn she nursed for what felt like 70% of the day! Now, she nurses in the morning, throughout the morning if we stay in the house, while we are walking in the front carry, before lunch, after lunch, before nap, after nap....you get the picture? Also, before bed and 1-2 times at night. I actually don´t mind about 75% of the time, but 25% of the time I do.
I have been thinking of trying to set limits, but I am not sure how, for several reasons but especially because she has several times in the last few days had total and complete meltdowns when I have tried to tell her to wait (once we were out at a playgroup and once we were home and I wanted us to finish our lunches).
I think nursing has been and is a great tool in helping to calm DD (and kids in general, really), and I would not expect her to calm herself to sleep yet for example, but DH and I have been discussing it and I feel conflicted because I dont want to deny her something that calms her, but I do think it would be great if she could expand her toolbox of self soothing maneuvers. She does have the ability to settle herself. I have seen her do it. But most of the time, she wants to nurse to help restore her balance. DH says this makes it very hard for him to watch her, because she will demand "nummies" and there is no way he can help her get them, and then she freaks out.
So, I guess my question is, does anyone have any experience with a high needs 2yo nursling, and does anyone have tips on how to help a child calm themselves without nummies (when they are sitting right there in my shirt and we both know it?!) or on setting limits with a high needs nursling?
Thank you so much for reading.